Wtf some people like extra salt or extra pepper or hot sauce or steak sauce.
I went to a pizzeria today and got and ate a slice. Dude next to me was pounding out oregano and black pepper on his slice. Should the dude who made the pizzeria be offended? No, some people are going to add shyt and others aren't. Who are you to feel disrespected that people have different tastes and interests
There are certain foods you're expected to add things to. I.e. a burger or hot dog with ketchup or mustard.
If someone makes you spaghetti, and the first thing you do is grab salt pepper and parm + oregano and red pepper flakes. You're not even giving their recipe a chance, that's why it's considered disrespectful.
You're talking like you've never been to a high end restaurant. It's not like Applebee's or IHOP where there's a dozen of condiments. There's a difference between someone giving you food and serving you food.
If someone's giving you food, they don't care. If a chef is serving you food, or someone (friend, family, coworker) is serving you something it's more or less a request for approval. How do you think it was cooked, how's the flavor, how's the texture,etc.
Some greedy hungry motherfukkers jus eat everything the same. Like a $10 fried catfish plate vs a $60 Chilean sea bass. It's almost like they have aspergers and don't know when to use the right manners or etiquette. It's like fast food vs fine dining.
At Applebee's you're expected to eat their shyt steaks with sauce. At a real steakhouse where you're paying $60 or more for the steak. You might get it for free when they ask you to leave for asking for condiments. (Usually they have houses garnishes, mushrooms, bernaise)