Is it completely normal for a man's opinion of women to gradually lower as he gets older?

[AsTheWorldBurns]

Men go they whole lives from a child to a young adult thinking all women are Disney princess or gonna treat them like they mama. Then they spend the next 10yrs, 20yrs, sometimes a lifetime pissed off at women cuz they feel lied too when they really see what's up.

I knew nikkas wasn't shyt by 3. I'm sorry y'all just now playing catching up.

 

[™BlackPearl The Empress™]

In the post I quoted he said that it's difficult or impossible for men to choose better. I was pointing out what you're saying that in TLR that's the running joke used to dismiss women, but now they don't apply it to themselves. I was pointing out the hypocrisy of the men in this thread.

oh okay. I concur. lol

 

[Lifejennings]

Men go they whole lives from a child to a young adult thinking all women are Disney princess or gonna treat them like they mama. Then they spend the next 10yrs, 20yrs, sometimes a lifetime pissed off at women cuz they feel lied too when they really see what's up.

I knew nikkas wasn't shyt by 3. I'm sorry y'all just now playing catching up.

Ayyy you always come through with the laughs.


The point you're making is interesting though. A lot of us only have our mothers. So a young growing boy gets to romanticize female nature or learn about it from their mother. Mothers do everything for you. Is the same concept good for romantic relationships? Who teaches a young black girl about male nature? For many of us there is no possibility to romanticize male nature. Perhaps that's why many men end up confused?

 

[Mr Hate Coffee]

For your sake I hope so...good luck

We gucci over here. I got a good one. We all have our guilty pleasures

 

[Coli Bot]

We are the catch... I've said it on here before. If only men knew our worth and acted accordingly.

Stop chasing women and love yourself first. Live for yourself and yourself only stop trying to save them and be the hero.

 

[AsTheWorldBurns]

Ayyy you always come through with the laughs.


The point you're making is interesting though. A lot of us only have our mothers. So a young growing boy gets to romanticize female nature or learn about it from their mother. Mothers do everything for you. Is the same concept good for romantic relationships? Who teaches a young black girl about male nature? For many of us there is no possibility to romanticize male nature. Perhaps that's why many men end up confused?

I think this is the real issue here. Men expect women to treat them like their mothers. But no one will ever love you the way a mother loves her child.

Many black girls grew up without a father being a constant presence in their lives. So if yo own daddy not moving right, you not gon put faith in any nikka out here.

I actually grew up with my dad in my life. But I think sex shows girls that boys have ulterior motives before boys learn that women have ulterior motives.

Men finesse women for sex and women finesse men for money. But when we're young, men can only offer attention and clout. Where women always have sex to give. So you go thru jr high and high school seeing dudes lying for sex and doing bytches dirty for sex. Y'all reveal ur true nature much earlier.

So then you see young adult women breaking nikkas hearts, cuz we already been thru it 5-10yrs ago, and we in full finesse mode now. The hurt becomes cynical.

 

[Carlton Banks]

Out of curiosity, how are you classifying if someone is bitter?

For example, I don't think OP is bitter. You can be reflective and not hate women. Who are these bitter guys? It seems a lot of folks that are chiming in actually are in seemingly decent relationships.

I'm not saying there aren't bitter guys in here but I think we gotta separate the good advice from people sharing their experiences from the bad advice from bitter folks.

This why I stopped replying back to her. I'm in a very happy loving relationship now. I'm not bitter about shyt. I'm just talking in regards to OTHER women who aren't my partner that I don't have the same amount of respect or value for.

 

[SleezyBigSlim]

Women are like kids.

When you grow up, the idealized vision of women you had growing up disappear.

Learn to appreciate them and deal with them for what they are.

Its doubly hard if you were raised by a good mother and none of the chicks u bagging lives up to the standard of woman she inadvertently set for you.

 

[Elle Driver]

This is allllll lies. Only men think this. I hate how men just go along with the lie that men don’t have emotional baggage because they think the shyt they do to women is normal.

It’s the same talking points, women are children and women have baggage.

 

[Taadow]

Honest questions for you and the other 20 brehs that dapped your post.

What category does your mother fall in?

Have you ever encountered a Proverbs 31 woman?

I'll answer for myself:

1. Here's what category of what he said that my mother falls into:

There are good women out there who add value to a mans life, but they’re too few and far between to make a difference in my opinion. They are the exception, NOT the rule.

2A. The very beginning of Proverbs 31 in itself implies that it's hard to find a woman like that, so I don't know why you're acting like they're all over the place.

2B. To keep it all the way real - the woman described in Proverbs 31 is already married. So if a woman is single, she already ain't that. Lol

2C. ...Now go read the rest of what the Book of Proverbs says about relationships with women. Namely:
- "a stupid woman is loud. She is ignorant and knows absolutely nothing"
- "the foolish woman tears down her house with her own hands"
- "it's better to live on the corner of your roof than inside the house with a quarrelsome wife"
- "it's better to live in the woods than with a quarrelsome wife"
- "an irritable wife is like a leaky roof on a rainy day"
- "an immoral woman is a narrow well"
- "a beautiful woman who rejects good sense is like a gold ring in a pigs' snout"
- "the immoral woman wipes her mouth and says 'I have done nothing wrong'"

 

[I'm Blackman]

Finding a good westernized woman is like finding a needle in a haystack full of needles.

 

[I'm Blackman]

As a kid I didn't even believe beautiful girls went to the toilet..
Now..well

Damn you too? I remember this pretty girl in elementary farted and inside I was like what the fukk?

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

Men go they whole lives from a child to a young adult thinking all women are Disney princess or gonna treat them like they mama. Then they spend the next 10yrs, 20yrs, sometimes a lifetime pissed off at women cuz they feel lied too when they really see what's up.

I knew nikkas wasn't shyt by 3. I'm sorry y'all just now playing catching up.

Why are you on a forum full of men then?

 

[Jack Trippa 3z company ho]

i wouldn't neccesarily say "low opinion" just more CYNICAL...

the older i get i just learn to realize take what these byatches say with a grain of salt

because it's mostly just lies and empty rhetoric to make themselves and others feel good

thier word don't mean shyt...even to thier "friends"...they sit back all in each other face and smile with them then 10 min later after they leave start talking shyt

i was just out with my lady last night and we bumped into her coworkers to see the PPV FIGHT at the bowling alley/lounge and i just shooked my head and laughed to myself at all the phoniness being perpetrated along with the bad decisions they had made in thier lives.....

i see why hoes can't be friends with each other...they too full of shyt

Yep...lot of these broads have new best friends every 3 months. Red flag.

 

[DJSmooth]

I think this is the real issue here. Men expect women to treat them like their mothers. But no one will ever love you the way a mother loves her child.

Many black girls grew up without a father being a constant presence in their lives. So if yo own daddy not moving right, you not gon put faith in any nikka out here.

I actually grew up with my dad in my life. But I think sex shows girls that boys have ulterior motives before boys learn that women have ulterior motives.

Men finesse women for sex and women finesse men for money. But when we're young, men can only offer attention and clout. Where women always have sex to give. So you go thru jr high and high school seeing dudes lying for sex and doing bytches dirty for sex. Y'all reveal ur true nature much earlier.

So then you see young adult women breaking nikkas hearts, cuz we already been thru it 5-10yrs ago, and we in full finesse mode now. The hurt becomes cynical.

The little girl got some game you gonna be breaking nikkas hearts for years to come but it will only make them better.