Is the concept of being single and not looking person really that rare?

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Are the items in bold there to show how clean our background is or deal breakers if the chick can't match?
it doesn't have to be a perfect match but i want damn close to what i have done in life out of a woman.

to me its only fair that you look at yourself and what you amount to and expect at least that out of a woman.

if i had 3 kids i wouldn't expect the woman not to. if i had fukked up credit how can i hold her to a standard i don't even meet?

i just looked up my FICO score and its a 739 the best you can have is an 850 so i'm clearly not the best even in that but i'm not dating some chick with a 500 score and a bunch of shyt in collections because i don't have that.
 

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Because when i tell people i'm a single guy and i'm not looking for sex, not looking for a relationship, girl friend, or a wife it blows their minds.

people fight and argue with me over it. its like they go back to that p*ssy is the answer to all life's ills deal and go "we need to get you some p*ssy"
then when they bring me these women or give them my number or whatever and i either tell them no thanks or avoid the woman they damn near have an meltdown over it.

the concept of being single and not looking can't possibly be that rare. some people fall off the horse and they don't get back on it. the end.

No its not rare. There are alot of guys with high estrogen levels in the united states. You know those guys who talk like women in chick flicks "i just got out of a bad relationship" :upsetfavre: Guys who are insecure about their ability to please women for one reason or another :skip: Guys who have std's and have quarantined themselves from the general public. Guys who are just anti social and use this not looking stuff as a smokescreen to be swagless.


Get a woman, now.
 

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it doesn't have to be a perfect match but i want damn close to what i have done in life out of a woman.

to me its only fair that you look at yourself and what you amount to and expect at least that out of a woman.

if i had 3 kids i wouldn't expect the woman not to. if i had fukked up credit how can i hold her to a standard i don't even meet?

i just looked up my FICO score and its a 739 the best you can have is an 850 so i'm clearly not the best even in that but i'm not dating some chick with a 500 score and a bunch of shyt in collections because i don't have that.

Personally I think some of what I bolded is asking a lot from a person. That said overall I see your point, hopefully you are overly strict on it because that is going to be hard to find if you ever get to that point.
 

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I always find it amusing when people throw out all these stupid hyperbolic "what if" scenarios i.e. "so if there are 100 chicks throwing the cooch at you all at the same time...30 of them look like Halle in her prime, 60 look like Jennifer Lopez and the remaining 10 look like ancient goddesses, you telling me you wouldn't hit?"

If that shyt ain't happening for a dude now, why would it suddenly occur out the blue just because he decided to remain (temporarily) celibate?

Come on man, shaming tactics and calling someone a homo should be for stupid ass broads who are bewildered and hurt by a dude because he's not some slobbering ass lame fawning over her.

I blame media propaganda and western society in general for making it seem like any man (especially black males) who decides to remain single for any period of time is abnormal. The same people who will call such a dude a faq or weird are the same ones who will then turn around and complain about their personal experiences with STDs, unwanted pregnancies, drama, etc...
 
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Some people just aren't dependent upon other beings for their happiness bro, They're content within no matter what happens on the exterior.


That's probably an insane concept to you in this consumer based society (where our self worth is based on what we have/don't have) but it does exist.


Buddhist monks have mastered the art of being content and have been doing so for centuries, you should read some literature on that bro.


Ain't nothing more sad and weak than an individual that places their entire emotional well being on the backs of others.

this may be the GOAT post on the-coli...


i underestimated some members here obviously..


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it doesn't have to be a perfect match but i want damn close to what i have done in life out of a woman.

to me its only fair that you look at yourself and what you amount to and expect at least that out of a woman.

if i had 3 kids i wouldn't expect the woman not to. if i had fukked up credit how can i hold her to a standard i don't even meet?

i just looked up my FICO score and its a 739 the best you can have is an 850 so i'm clearly not the best even in that but i'm not dating some chick with a 500 score and a bunch of shyt in collections because i don't have that.

Your FICO score is not an idication of you being a good person, only that you've learned to handle your finances wisely. Notice the keyword "learned". You once had debt or a lower fico score and you learned lessons about how to handle your money and that is working for you and the woman you desire could be learning as well. So her fico score may be 6 something but during the relationship she makes wise moves and it goes up.

You have not "made it" financially so it just seems wack that you pretend like NO woman is on the same level that you're on or can't get there quickly.
 

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Because when i tell people i'm a single guy and i'm not looking for sex, not looking for a relationship, girl friend, or a wife it blows their minds.

people fight and argue with me over it. its like they go back to that p*ssy is the answer to all life's ills deal and go "we need to get you some p*ssy"
then when they bring me these women or give them my number or whatever and i either tell them no thanks or avoid the woman they damn near have an meltdown over it.

the concept of being single and not looking can't possibly be that rare. some people fall off the horse and they don't get back on it. the end.
I know someone like this and i've always assumed it was one of 3 things.Small penis, possible a latent gay or asexual.Which category best fits u? honestly..
 

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You would be suprised how many women have the same sentiment as you..Hell I have all of those requirements and Im single...But people turn down potential mates for different reasons...Im on a message board (Not LSA) full of successful women who meet more than half of your requirements..I wish there was some way all of these like minded people could get together, socialize, and network.

we can both make a network on a grand scale :scheme:
 

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we can both make a network on a grand scale :scheme:

Im all ears because it seems like everyone looking but no one can find the person that they match up with...Alot of it has to do with location, timing, etc..its like every man for himself out here...My friends like, :nikkaplease: good luck with dating, I got mine...
 

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Im all ears because it seems like everyone looking but no one can find the person that they match up with...Alot of it has to do with location, timing, etc..its like every man for himself out here...My friends like, :nikkaplease: good luck with dating, I got mine...

Well, seems like you have trouble with meeting a decent man due to all the :cape: men out there that are too cowardly to make their intentions direct.
 

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Well, seems like you have trouble with meeting a decent man due to all the :cape: men out there that are too cowardly to make their intentions direct.

:what:

It has nothing to do with :cape:. Most people are bullshytters, plain and simple, in all facets of life.
 

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You would be suprised how many women have the same sentiment as you..Hell I have all of those requirements and Im single...But people turn down potential mates for different reasons...Im on a message board (Not LSA) full of successful women who meet more than half of your requirements..I wish there was some way all of these like minded people could get together, socialize, and network.

the problem is there's no way to screen out all the people that you wouldn't be interested in.

you will encounter people that are beneath you on the society totem pole and they will try to latch on to you. they will do everything they can to hide their flaws and problems and get you emotionally invested enough that you don't bail on them when you find out that they still live with their mother, or don't have a car, or lack a job, or have 4 kids.

if only life was like this
 
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