Is there a such thing a mommy issues for men?

[thekingsmen]

Ummm yes

 

[blqbird]

Ever heard of Oedipus?

 

[sanityovar8ted]

Yes my bd mother wasnt in his life due 2 drugs and it fuccd him up. He was jealous of our own daughter cuz she has a pretty good life despite who her parents are. He has never been there for her and she still turned out well unlike him.

 

[Kokoro]

I have a different kind of relationship with my parents. My dad got shot when I was like 10-11 but my mom never allowed him to be in my life due to shyt that happened when I was younger. So instead of me being mad that my dad was never around (my step dad was) I was mad that my mom pretty much destroyed our family structure (she was responsible for her and my step dads later divorce).

Is it common for men to have issues with their mother?

Idk it’s almost scary how she pretends that she’s never done anything wrong...and whenever I’ve confronted her in the past it always gets to a point in the conversation where she can’t handle it so she’ll just walk away. I’m not so sure that I’m ready to handle that.



Yep, he was. He reformed. He and his twin brother both went to college. Got shot in the head defending his brother. Quite a few of my uncles were involved in the street life, and are in jail/dead because of it.

While my dad shares blame for not living right, she’s still played her part in having his child.

This sounds like narcissistic behavior. Making a decision that affected and effected your life for you, that kept you close to her and allowed her to control you more. Granted you were young so you probably didn’t know what was best for you, however.

The way you made it sound like she doesn’t even acknowledge what she did was wrong or had an (e)affect on you sounds like classic gaslighting. My dad is a classic narcissist and has gaslighted me and my mom on things he did that physically traumatized me. Is the shoe fitting? Or am I off base?

 

[AuntAnniesPretzels]

I assume a lot of guys who post here have issues with their mothers.

You can tell that a guy who is angry at women, entitled to them or enjoys causing women pain is a dude whose Mama likely wasn’t shyt

I personally view it as a cultural issue not a gender issue or a racial one (ain’t shyt mothers)

 

[CreepyMcCreeperson]

Let’s just put it this way. On Sunday, you will not see any statuses saying:

Shout out to all the real moms holding it down.

If a woman is a mother, she automatically gets praised regardless of how terrible her kids turned out, even if they grow up to kill someone, or steal hanging flower baskets off people’s porches.

 

[CrimsonTider]

It might be some stuff you don’t wanna know

Sounds like she’s protecting you

 

[Ohene]

men have daddy issues too to be frank

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Was your dad in the streets?
If so, why didn't you blame him for not changing his life so he could be in yours?

That doesn't make a difference...

 

[DON MA MA]

Idk it’s almost scary how she pretends that she’s never done anything wrong...and whenever I’ve confronted her in the past it always gets to a point in the conversation where she can’t handle it so she’ll just walk away. I’m not so sure that I’m ready to handle that.



Yep, he was. He reformed. He and his twin brother both went to college. Got shot in the head defending his brother. Quite a few of my uncles were involved in the street life, and are in jail/dead because of it.

While my dad shares blame for not living right, she’s still played her part in having his child.

Understood, her picking him as your father does matter as well.

 

[DON MA MA]

That doesn't make a difference...

Yea it does. Mommy/Daddy issues play off each other.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Yea it does. Mommy/Daddy issues play off each other.

Well... I mean it doesn't matter in the way that just because he was in the streets, that was justification to keep him out of his life... when the fact of the matter is, it never played a factor in her being attracted to his father, dating his father, and carrying the seed to term........ seems very hypocritical...... so that probably isn't the main reason why she kept him out of his life

 

[DON MA MA]

Well... I mean it doesn't matter in the way that just because he was in the streets, that was justification to keep him out of his life... when the fact of the matter is, it never played a factor in her being attracted to his father, dating his father, and carrying the seed to term........ seems very hypocritical...... so that probably isn't the main reason why she kept him out of his life

Somebody being in the streets is a great excuse to keep a child away, a hypocritical one if that child is yours and you chose the "in the streets" man as his father. It's also not wrong for his father to want to see him and be there for him, but hypocritical if he didn't change his life so he could do so.
It probably wasn't the only reason agreed but his father chose her to birth his lineage and she chose him to be his father.

 

[Field Marshall Bradley]

Somebody being in the streets is a great excuse to keep a child away,

Define being in the streets

 

[DON MA MA]

Define being in the streets

Being in the streets.