Is there a such thing a mommy issues for men?

[ignorethis]

everybody walking is a product of the gifts and curses your parents gave you.

I don't hold my mom in the best regard because as a child I eventually came to the realization that majority of the suffering that me and my siblings went through as kids was directly tied to her bad decision making.

I thank god I had my dad because without him being able to show me a stable environment separate of my mom, I would have normalized the bullshyt we went through.

Like I've said before a lot of nikkas did not have good moms at all, but that was all they had, so they formed Stockholm syndrome with their mothers.

I had a woman tell me she thought I was weird for loving my dad more than my mom, and that's not to say I don't love my mom. I'm still her primary caretaker and look out for her, I just understand she's very bullshyt and one of those women that puts her happiness and emotions above everybody else.

 

[Wink Beaufield]

I've always held the theory that the straight up hatred and vitriol towards black women by some brehs comes from issues with their moms. shyt, man I saw this play out with a childhood friend who was abused constantly by his moms. Now dude is an adult who is staunchly anti black woman and dates white women exclusively.

 

[Womb Raider]

This sounds like narcissistic behavior. Making a decision that affected and effected your life for you, that kept you close to her and allowed her to control you more. Granted you were young so you probably didn’t know what was best for you, however.

The way you made it sound like she doesn’t even acknowledge what she did was wrong or had an (e)affect on you sounds like classic gaslighting. My dad is a classic narcissist and has gaslighted me and my mom on things he did that physically traumatized me. Is the shoe fitting? Or am I off base?

Sounds about right

My mom be tripping about my dad making her look bad to us when she cheated on him right in front of us.

 

[letti cook]

i definitely got mommy issues

she abandoned me and my bro when we were kids, then popped up when were grown like she aint do shyt

matter fact, she's actually offended that we dont fukk with her like that

its absolutely affected my interactions with women and its super fukked up

 

[CASHAPP]

In some cases, they displace the feelings of resentment they have towards the fathers who left them onto the mother who actually stuck around for their children.

As humans we have a tendency to do this. Give our ass to kiss to those who are in our corner the most and work for the affections of those who treat us like shyt.

Still trying to get this human behavior. Sometimes the people who support us the most get the most abuse. I don't ever want to take for granted anybody doing shyt for my well-being.

You forgot to mention though its alot of mothers who do this to their sons just cause they look like the fathers.

We do live in a culture that gives a pass to toxic mothers

everybody walking is a product of the gifts and curses your parents gave you.

I don't hold my mom in the best regard because as a child I eventually came to the realization that majority of the suffering that me and my siblings went through as kids was directly tied to her bad decision making.

I thank god I had my dad because without him being able to show me a stable environment separate of my mom, I would have normalized the bullshyt we went through.

Like I've said before a lot of nikkas did not have good moms at all, but that was all they had, so they formed Stockholm syndrome with their mothers.

I had a woman tell me she thought I was weird for loving my dad more than my mom, and that's not to say I don't love my mom. I'm still her primary caretaker and look out for her, I just understand she's very bullshyt and one of those women that puts her happiness and emotions above everybody else.

One of my biggest worries or worse fears is when I try to look for a future wife who is the polar opposite of my mother, that they will butt heads or my mom will jeopardize the relationship in some way.

I don't know if you ever have had the same thoughts but we all heard that subconsciously we grow up to be with someone like our mothers but i wanna make the mistake not to do that

i need a feminine woman with a stable background and stable mind

 

[zayk35]

My mom wasn't shyt and still ain't shyt she chose crack and the fact that my granny rescued us from her is one of the best things that happened in my chilldhood....I can only deal with her as just a relative...but I found a great very educated smart and responsible woman for my wife and I never had no mommy issues...unless you count my 3 yrs as s so called " player" but I don't think that counts because I was in my early 20s living in southern California with a pocket full of $$$ to burn...my dear granny saved me from those issues cause she is a strong ass lady from the 1930s

 

[norfwestdc]

Sounds about right

My mom be tripping about my dad making her look bad to us when she cheated on him right in front of us.

Have anyone of you bought this up to your mother?

 

[Womb Raider]

Have anyone of you bought this up to your mother?

Nope. I’m the oldest and I haven’t done it yet because I’m not ready to.