is this true about single moms?
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ultraflexed
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ultraflexed
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MoveForward
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Since when did “traveling” (going to the beach in another country) become a flex? Where are these thriving businesses that black women run, on a large scale? Also, the average black man literally can’t afford to be picky. We are in la la land….
Piff Perkins
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I can certainly see the point that many men talking about the “value” of single mothers have no real value themselves since they’re broke and chronically-online. But that doesn’t really change my view on single mothers at all, and I’m not broke. I’m sure many are great people and great mothers with value to offer to a partner. But I’d never pursue or entertain one because they offer no value to me. I’m not raising another man’s child and I view this from a drama aversion perspective. The business of being a single parent - specifically dealing with your ex on some level, custody, etc - is drama I am not willing to deal with for anyone. And I don’t want my child to have a relationship with step siblings who are raised in environments I have no control over. Sexual abuse and all types of other shyt becomes a risk when mixing households.
Women understand this when it comes to single fathers. You see some pretty cold statements about them, not wanting to deal with the baby mama etc. And guess what? I agree! And apply many of the same cold, unemotional views to single moms. There are plenty of men who will date and marry them. Not me.
Women understand this when it comes to single fathers. You see some pretty cold statements about them, not wanting to deal with the baby mama etc. And guess what? I agree! And apply many of the same cold, unemotional views to single moms. There are plenty of men who will date and marry them. Not me.
MoveForward
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As a baby daddy, it’s not us fam. We generally move on with our life, our baby momma’s start tripping when we seem to start progressing and/or get into another relationship.
ultraflexed
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Your just one baby daddy out of thousands..
your personal experience doesn't represent the majority
Hacksaw Jim Thuggin
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How come Africans, Asians, Middle Easterns, Indians, Mezzicans, and Cacs never have these idiotic conversations?
Literally why do only black have to have these stupid idiotic conversations?
God it's so frustrating. We talk about this bullshiit all the time. Next up it's about financial and gender roles. Smh.
Black men and black women really don't like each other and don't know how to work together it seems
Literally why do only black have to have these stupid idiotic conversations?
God it's so frustrating. We talk about this bullshiit all the time. Next up it's about financial and gender roles. Smh.
Black men and black women really don't like each other and don't know how to work together it seems
MoveForward
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In this case, I’m certain I can say the majority of us are like that. You also have to count the dead beats that act like their kid doesn’t exist. Then you have the guys that come around every now and then on birthdays every few years, a Christmas call, and at graduation…Your just one baby daddy out of thousands..
The only time I have seen dudes start tripping is when they are still fukking the baby momma when she comes to pick up the child, if he feels like you may be overstepping your bounds, or the broad cheated on him with you and smoked his nuclear family. By in large though, nikkas come get their kid every other weekend, pay their child support, enjoy life, and fukk on other women until they find their new main.
HarlemHottie
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idk, lack of religion maybe? (As compared to your examples)We werent like this when we still went to church. My mother was... dealt with inappropriately in the mid-late 60s and was excommunicated from her church and many other activities. It was hard for her. That's how you discourage these later, 'what can we, as a community, do with you now' type of conversations. (My mother went on to get married at 18, but her value in the market was diminished.)
I get that bu
There’s stories of some women who were physically and or mentally abused and looked to the church for help. The church would offer counseling and give the husband side eye when honestly the woman should have left years ago for her own sanity
I get that but sometimes that practice can trap women in families that they need to get out of.
We werent like this when we still went to church. My mother was... dealt with inappropriately in the mid-late 60s and was excommunicated from her church and many other activities. It was hard for her. That's how you discourage these later, 'what can we, as a community, do with you now' type of conversations. (My mother went on to get married at 18, but her value in the market was diminished.)
There’s stories of some women who were physically and or mentally abused and looked to the church for help. The church would offer counseling and give the husband side eye when honestly the woman should have left years ago for her own sanity
HarlemHottie
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Right. I get it. But when you ask how to keep society in order long term, that's the answer: a religion-based authority.
My mother eventually left my father (for legit reasons), but I was left with a, the comforting knowledge that, despite the outcome, I was planned and wanted, b, the financial benefit that stemmed from that initial legal contract, and, c, the gift of being raised by a woman who was a wife.
Those are all better outcomes than I could have expected had my mother been born in the "yaaassss, girl" era. I appreciate those a$$holes at the church, I wouldnt be me without them.
