It Appears Girl Code Is harmful to Women

[Ezekiel 25:17]

I don't believe the scenario in the op is real.

Personally, any friend who dates someone that I have previously been involved with is not a friend. That is automatic grounds for dismissal. As many other women have already said, she could date him but we would no longer be friends. Too much drama.

Y'all are goofyThe hell you care about an Ex for? You in a relationship with someone else? I understand if it was a 15 year relationship. shyt aint even that serious, life moves on buddy.

If anything it'd be weird for Me because YOU smashed the girl I'm with. Why would you date a girl your friend smashed anyway

 

[Rawtid]

That friendship gonna be dead in a few months for another reason, go get your man. No need to drag it out.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

Boundaries.

There are some men that have the mentality - It ain't no fun if the homies can't have none.

Then you have men that wouldn't want their guy pursuing a chic if he hasn't sexed her yet. In his mind, she'll say yes 1 day.

Lastly, you have dudes w/the mentality - May the best man win.

You see, it takes all types.

I just like to keep things kosher & clear.

This thread shouldn't even be a topic though. I'm not dating a girl my guys smashed anyway

 

[MajesticLion]

The savagery implicit in this bit of social commentary here...

 

[seabreeze80]

Y'all are goofyThe hell you care about an Ex for? You in a relationship with someone else? I understand if it was a 15 year relationship. shyt aint even that serious, life moves on buddy.

If anything it'd be weird for Me because YOU smashed the girl I'm with. Why would you date a girl your friend smashed anyway

No one cares about the ex. Its the unnecessary drama that comes with a friend dating the ex. Read my other posts in this thread.

 

[Actually6Foot3]

There's way too many fish in the sea for y'all nikkas to be wifing your man's old chic. Y'all really justifying this shyt

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Now if you wanted to smash on the low

We're specifically talking friends here. nikkas you just associate with you you got no say in that but a friend. Nah

 

[CinnaSlim]

I think Girl Code is just considering your friend's feelings. I dont think it's unreasonable to date someone you feel a connection with. Long as it isn't spiteful. Mature friends would say "hey, that puts me in an awkward position but if that makes you happy. I dont own or control either of yall.

 

[Commish]

I don't understand why this woman is torn? Town about what?

Also, why is she asking permission in the first place? Her home girl didn't want dude, so he is a free agent.

Its one thing if it was a ltr and the female friends discussed matters like this with a clear understanding that ex bfs are off limits, but at the same token, if friends date people who aren't compatible with them, but maybe the other friend may make a better companion, then I see why it should be an issue?

How I see it, if a person is single, then they can be claimed off the dating waiver wire by whomever is interested in them.

I hope the woman does date that guy and appreciate him. If her so called friend doesn't wanna be homes anymore, then so be it..

 

[stave]

Gonna keep it a buck, ole girl shouldn't have even asked and should have just told her friend what it's gonna be. She already moved on and if it's an issue, they can just not meet each other socially with dude involved, but that's up to the friend depending on how she feels about it.

Her friend might end up marrying her new dude and obviously doesn't care about the old one. Doesn't seem like there's ill will there, just didn't work out. I don't see a problem. Doesn't say they ever got serious or anything.

I know this is odd up to a certain point, then you just get older and realize everyone is fukkin everyone, and the pool of potential mates is really low. If you see someone you think is worth your time, you will let some of that go, as long as no wild or foul shyt occurred.

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

No one cares about the ex. Its the unnecessary drama that comes with a friend dating the ex. Read my other posts in this thread.

Who said it had to be drama though? It could be just be lack of attraction and boredom. Not every relationship ends with drama and even then the drama can be squashed because people change and move on

If a friend wants to date my Ex I wouldn't care. shyt even if I was in a 10 year marriage I wouldn't care, I've have moved on. Like I said that isn't even the question, why would you want sloppy seconds?

 

[seabreeze80]

Who said it had to be drama though? It could be just be lack of attraction and boredom. Not every relationship ends with drama and even then the drama can be squashed because people change and move on

If a friend wants to date my Ex I wouldn't care. shyt even if I was in a 10 year marriage I wouldn't care, I've have moved on. Like I said that isn't even the question, why would you want sloppy seconds?

Because it usually does. Like I said, check the other posts that I made in this thread. I'm a woman and I have never wanted my friend's "sloppy seconds."

 

[DapMeUp!]

Wit all the fish in the sea...I've always questioned a friend that wants your sloppy seconds...

Theres good girls I shelved because I knew I wasn't ready for the situation at the time.
Doesn't mean I wasn't gonna get right back...
Now your man done scooped it...


You snooze you lose tho I guess...

This has never been my steeze, but objectively speaking once you hit a certain age no fish is fresh. You are always taking someones sloppy seconds regardless.

What does it matter if it was your friend's or not?

 

[DapMeUp!]

Breh finna be like

Next time he see his ex