It’s unfortunate how insecure many women are.

[86\*/98]

Whether the OP is legit or not...


if men keep treating them like children, they're going to keep acting like children.

Exactly.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

I can only speak for myself and I don’t give a fukk. I’m lazy-eyed every other day, I have to stay in shape or I get man tittes( like, it’s the first place I gain weight), I’m an avid reader and I still can’t spell or know how to properly use commas and considering I’m 6’3 my dikk should be bigger. But is my attitude towards all that shyt and I desperately want her to adopt that mentality but I’m failing her.




But she’s good built too. Nobody is perfect. I just want her to accept that.

based on your description though, that’s not really true though lol. Maybe I’m just biased—on women I prefer the hour glass/pear shape body with distinguishable whr and noticeable curves/hips. a lot of women do desire the hourglass/pear body shape as well, so it makes sense that she might feel insecure about her body (especially as a bw).

I also question you saying you like her body as is, when you talk about it the way you have. Clearly you also see flaws in what she perceives as flaws too, so idk breh, I get your overall message but at the same time your not giving off the vibe that your for real attracted to her body—it’s more like “well she doesn’t have the best body to me either but there’s nothing she can do so why does she keep bringing it up”…

anyway it seems like if you want this to work, your just going to just have to accept the insecurity.

 

[Bossino]

Homie I'd have a serious talk with her about it let her know you find everything about her perfect, except for her insecurity if she can't ditch/tone it down, you gotta go or live with it. I'd go, because I'll be damned if she wants surgery or cheats, etc. in the name of insecurity.

Someone can't love someone else properly until they are at the very least content with themselves

 

[Shadow King]

Face, skin, and legs are damn near perfect.




You don’t know me, or her. It wasn’t until just now when a couple of posters called this a dairy that I realized, it pretty much is. I talk about shyt in my life openly and I get it off my chest and also sometimes advice. Some good, some bad, and some people calling me a bytch ass nikka with no logic behind it but I appreciate my honest thought about my life situation being viewed by other and no matter how embarrassing the topic I don’t know y’all so I really don’t care… but still appreciate.




I’d keep her just for her intelligence and personality but the neediness about surface shyt is a struggle. I get that everyone has issues but constantly telling her it’s ok is draining. Babies would choose her titties over some firm, up high in the sky breast because it’s more like ripe fruit and functionally breast are for feeding children. As far as I’m concerned we’re winning.

If you love her that much you're outsmarting yourself. Women either don't like themselves or like themselves too much. Take the woman who is objective about her titties and feet and run.

 

[Lord_nikon]

Op went in


Dude let it go,, she could be a-lot worst ,,she seems cool,,,

a fat round Gumdrop ass and missile titties and Reese’s peanut butter cups Areolas isn't going to save a marriage and relationship

 

[AyBrehHam Linkin]

you tired of that woman huh godamn

 

[Tres Leches]

You’re a better man than me I can’t fukk with flapjacks

 

[$cam-U-Well_Jack$on]

nikka said “shorty look like a gremlin and a druid had a baby….but i reassure her otherwise”

you do have a point though, i couldnt believe the mental state of some top rated women

Some of what folks consider to be da most attractive women be rife with insecurity and low self esteem.

 

[FromStLouis]

She sounds like a nice girl she probably just needs a good year in the gym to reshape her body.

 

[4-Rin]

She got Peggy Hill feet

 

[86\*/98]

based on your description though, that’s not really true though lol. Maybe I’m just biased—on women I prefer the hour glass/pear shape body with distinguishable whr and noticeable curves/hips. a lot of women do desire the hourglass/pear body shape as well, so it makes sense that she might feel insecure about her body (especially as a bw).

I also question you saying you like her body as is, when you talk about it the way you have. Clearly you also see flaws in what she perceives as flaws too, so idk breh, I get your overall message but at the same time your not giving off the vibe that your for real attracted to her body—it’s more like “well she doesn’t have the best body to me either but there’s nothing she can do so why does she keep bringing it up”…

anyway it seems like if you want this to work, your just going to just have to accept the insecurity.

What I meant by her having a good body too was that she has physical shyt that I love. If she could snap her fingers and have Ebonee Davis breast fukking right I’d tell her to do it but I think everyone would request something like that of their partners if possible but it’s not, so fukk it. If she was insecure because she got fat then, fukk yes she would have to worry about me leaving because of that but her current physical flaws aren’t a problem to me.


And no, insecurities can be overcome. Someone just upped an old thread of mine where I had a mishap with a penis pump. I used to be insecure about my dikk size and I got over it. I’m tall so I do still think my dikk should be bigger to be proportional to the rest of me but I’m over caring about it. She too can achieve the same mindset.

Homie I'd have a serious talk with her about it let her know you find everything about her perfect, except for her insecurity if she can't ditch/tone it down, you gotta go or live with it. I'd go, because I'll be damned if she wants surgery or cheats, etc. in the name of insecurity.

Someone can't love someone else properly until they are at the very least content with themselves

Totally agree. Good post.

If you love her that much you're outsmarting yourself. Women either don't like themselves or like themselves too much. Take the woman who is objective about her titties and feet and run.

I don’t love her yet. I just want to start a family with her. The woman I currently love is a stripper bytch in Atlanta.

She sounds like a nice girl she probably just needs a good year in the gym to reshape her body.

Her butt definitely can and has been improving because of her squatting. The titties and feet are just gonna be there.

 

[CarmelBarbie]

What I meant by her having a good body too was that she has physical shyt that I love. but her current physical flaws aren’t a problem to me.


And no, insecurities can be overcome. Someone just upped an old thread of mine where I had a mishap with a penis pump. I used to be insecure about my dikk size and I got over it. I’m tall so I do still think my dikk should be bigger to be proportional to the rest of me but I’m over caring about it. She too can achieve the same mindset.

The bolded is all you can do. Yes insecurities can be overcome but it’s up to that person to overcome it themself. As a partner there is nothing you can do to help her get over her insecurity. It’s hers. That means it’s something she has to workout herself. So when I tell you, you have to accept that, what I mean is that you have to accept that this is her insecurity and that you yourself cannot make her get over it and change because you want her to. Yes she may get over her insecurity at some point. But if she doesn’t?? Then will you be cool with it?


For the record I do agree that most of us women do sort of expect tall Brehs to be packing… so when it’s average and they’re tall, it looks smallish even though it may be average. But damn a penis pump though… lol. I’m dead.

But just because you finally accepted your size, doesn’t mean she’ll reach that same point with her body. If she’s under 30 then there’s a chance that she’ll come to acceptance with her body in age.

 

[Majestyx]

You need to keep her just based on her being realistic. Most women would believe their shyt don't stink and would be trying to have you worshipping them size 12s.

Cuz them want to be worshipped ones are even more insecure.
OP most Jains are insecure cuz society makes them compare themselves to shyt that doesn’t exist. If you can deal with her brand of insecurity just know the next jason will have her own goof Ass insecurities. At least this one is insecure about some real shyt

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

As men we have to be the ones to approach and we learn that confidence is a key to having a higher success rate. To be more confident we improve what we can and learn to accept what we can’t. A lot of times women don’t learn to accept what just is and will be about themselves and often look for validation from a man which can lead to them being taken advantage of.


I’m dealing with a woman who has orangutan titties, is a little boxy, and even though her ass is present it’s kinda just there and definitely not popping, also she has big ole boats for feet. But her face is on model, glow/complexion on Issa Rae and legs on Rihanna during the Umbrella era. Not to mention, she’s intelligent, a graduate of a prestigious college and she has depth. But instead of focusing on all her damn near perfect physical attributes and being a dope person I have to constantly reassure her that her big feet and flapjack titties don’t bother me. I’m getting old asf and want to start a family, she’d be the best candidate but her insecurities are an issue that her big floppy feet keep tripping on. What if we have a daughter, would she pass this on to her? Would I have to take time out of my busy schedule to boost her confidence up all the time? If I can’t make time for that or just get tired of doing it would this make her vulnerable to the advances of the mail man? And on and on.


This shyt is sad and unfortunately very common.


You ladies need to stop tripping.

I can only speak for myself and I don’t give a fukk. I’m lazy-eyed every other day, I have to stay in shape or I get man tittes( like, it’s the first place I gain weight), I’m an avid reader and I still can’t spell or know how to properly use commas and considering I’m 6’3 my dikk should be bigger. But is my attitude towards all that shyt and I desperately want her to adopt that mentality but I’m failing her.




But she’s good built too. Nobody is perfect. I just want her to accept that.

We all self-conscious I’m just the first to admit it.

Not everybody is gonna be as forthcoming or comfy with themselves as u seem to be.

And it’s especially hard on women because men tell us so much that nothing else matters about us other than our looks.

In fact some dudes (not you) literally go out of their way to tell chicks that their degrees don’t matter, if they get older they invisible, if they ain’t sexy, they useless—then people wanna turn around and be like “why all these women care about their looks so much”

It can be hard to break through the insecurities society cultivates in women. I’d say being forthcoming about ur own insecurities like u described in ur post will help her be more vulnerable and comfortable too.
Also have u suggested she get counseling?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

The bolded is all you can do. Yes insecurities can be overcome but it’s up to that person to overcome it themself. As a partner there is nothing you can do to help her get over her insecurity. It’s hers. That means it’s something she has to workout herself. So when I tell you, you have to accept that, what I mean is that you have to accept that this is her insecurity and that you yourself cannot make her get over it and change because you want her to. Yes she may get over her insecurity at some point. But if she doesn’t?? Then will you be cool with it?


For the record I do agree that most of us women do sort of expect tall Brehs to be packing… so when it’s average and they’re tall, it looks smallish even though it may be average. But damn a penis pump though… lol. I’m dead.

But just because you finally accepted your size, doesn’t mean she’ll reach that same point with her body. If she’s under 30 then there’s a chance that she’ll come to acceptance with her body in age.

Look at u with the sage advice! Lemme know if u wanna grab lunch today! I’ll text u sis