I've been trying to get a girlfriend for the past 10 years

[Dihsarm]

I'm going to jump in here. The sad reality is that most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. Let me repeat that, most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. There is no "right way" to ask a women out. Rather what you should ask is if you are the right guy or not. That's the only thing that matters. If you are the right guy, then it doesn't matter how you ask her out, if you are the wrong guy, then no matter how you ask her out it will be wrong. Stop looking for a bag of tricks and start focusing on becoming a man. That in a nut shell is what women are looking for. Women want to be with winners not losers.

Women would rather, many times over, compete and pull their hair out trying to figure out how to make a winner their own, than settle for a loser. When you start winning at life, you will naturally give off an air of confidence. Women can sense this like Spider-Man can sense bad guys. You want to know the secret to getting women, turn yourself into a guy they want to seduce. When that happens, you can talk to them normally and their panties will be getting wet. Women know whether you are a guy they want to seduce before they even talk to you. Let me repeat that, before they even talk to you Women know. This is why it's so important to be aware of your surroundings. When a woman just pops up out of nowhere and is giving you signals that she's interested that is the time to pounce. You make think that that was a random occurrence but I assure you it was not. She probably scoped you out, decided that you have the potential to be the man of dreams, figured out your normal routine and placed herself in your daily path.

Now let me ask you a question, if a woman does all that, do you really think it matters how you ask her out. Like if I say, 'Hey, let me get your number" or "Miss you're beautiful let me get your facebook and we can continue this conversation online" do you really think it matters. Trust, off the sheer thrill that all her planning has born fruits, she'll barely be able to contain her excitement. Her sympathetic nervous system will have already started to prepare for sex and in her head, she's already planning out how the relationship will go. Stop focusing on girls, and start focusing on becoming successful. Focus on getting your money up, focus on improving your social skills and focus on becoming a leader. You do those things and you'll have to beat the women off with a stick. And then you can see the ugly side of life. Regarding that I'll just say this, natural human attraction is one of the strongest desires that human beings have.

This is actually one of the best advices I've seen on here.

 

[DarkHorse23]

I'm going to jump in here. The sad reality is that most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. Let me repeat that, most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. There is no "right way" to ask a women out. Rather what you should ask is if you are the right guy or not. That's the only thing that matters. If you are the right guy, then it doesn't matter how you ask her out, if you are the wrong guy, then no matter how you ask her out it will be wrong. Stop looking for a bag of tricks and start focusing on becoming a man. That in a nut shell is what women are looking for. Women want to be with winners not losers.

Women would rather, many times over, compete and pull their hair out trying to figure out how to make a winner their own, than settle for a loser. When you start winning at life, you will naturally give off an air of confidence. Women can sense this like Spider-Man can sense bad guys. You want to know the secret to getting women, turn yourself into a guy they want to seduce. When that happens, you can talk to them normally and their panties will be getting wet. Women know whether you are a guy they want to seduce before they even talk to you. Let me repeat that, before they even talk to you Women know. This is why it's so important to be aware of your surroundings. When a woman just pops up out of nowhere and is giving you signals that she's interested that is the time to pounce. You make think that that was a random occurrence but I assure you it was not. She probably scoped you out, decided that you have the potential to be the man of dreams, figured out your normal routine and placed herself in your daily path.

Now let me ask you a question, if a woman does all that, do you really think it matters how you ask her out. Like if I say, 'Hey, let me get your number" or "Miss you're beautiful let me get your facebook and we can continue this conversation online" do you really think it matters. Trust, off the sheer thrill that all her planning has born fruits, she'll barely be able to contain her excitement. Her sympathetic nervous system will have already started to prepare for sex and in her head, she's already planning out how the relationship will go. Stop focusing on girls, and start focusing on becoming successful. Focus on getting your money up, focus on improving your social skills and focus on becoming a leader. You do those things and you'll have to beat the women off with a stick. And then you can see the ugly side of life. Regarding that I'll just say this, natural human attraction is one of the strongest desires that human beings have.

So once again it come downs to self improvement. Do that and everything concerning women will take care of its self.

You mentioned improving your social skills? Do you mean changing your personality. I'm more of a reserved, too myself type of guy(until i get to know you, or until i feel comfortable around you). Does that mean i should be someone else?

That was a great post BTW.

 

[Weaver31]

You sound furious.

I wasn't furious but I'm just puzzled as to why he would say this. It confuses me as to why people say dumb shyt like this.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

That's cause your trying to get a girlfriend instead of girls you can just fukk

 

[Action Mike]

Its usually the girl that tries to lock a breh down too.

 

[Weaver31]

Its usually the girl that tries to lock a breh down too.

Especially if they in their late 20's or 30's and desperate for a husband and family. They really go hard then if they like u but know their time clock is ticking and dealing with pressure from others to settle down.

 

[Kane1]

Ugly nicca problems breh

 

[StickStickly]

Aren't you like 20 years old? So you asked a girl out as a child and have asked out "thousands" as a teenager? Do teenagers even know that many teens?

 

[FTBS]

I'm going to jump in here. The sad reality is that most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. Let me repeat that, most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. There is no "right way" to ask a women out. Rather what you should ask is if you are the right guy or not. That's the only thing that matters. If you are the right guy, then it doesn't matter how you ask her out, if you are the wrong guy, then no matter how you ask her out it will be wrong. Stop looking for a bag of tricks and start focusing on becoming a man. That in a nut shell is what women are looking for. Women want to be with winners not losers.

Women would rather, many times over, compete and pull their hair out trying to figure out how to make a winner their own, than settle for a loser. When you start winning at life, you will naturally give off an air of confidence. Women can sense this like Spider-Man can sense bad guys. You want to know the secret to getting women, turn yourself into a guy they want to seduce. When that happens, you can talk to them normally and their panties will be getting wet. Women know whether you are a guy they want to seduce before they even talk to you. Let me repeat that, before they even talk to you Women know. This is why it's so important to be aware of your surroundings. When a woman just pops up out of nowhere and is giving you signals that she's interested that is the time to pounce. You make think that that was a random occurrence but I assure you it was not. She probably scoped you out, decided that you have the potential to be the man of dreams, figured out your normal routine and placed herself in your daily path.

Now let me ask you a question, if a woman does all that, do you really think it matters how you ask her out. Like if I say, 'Hey, let me get your number" or "Miss you're beautiful let me get your facebook and we can continue this conversation online" do you really think it matters. Trust, off the sheer thrill that all her planning has born fruits, she'll barely be able to contain her excitement. Her sympathetic nervous system will have already started to prepare for sex and in her head, she's already planning out how the relationship will go. Stop focusing on girls, and start focusing on becoming successful. Focus on getting your money up, focus on improving your social skills and focus on becoming a leader. You do those things and you'll have to beat the women off with a stick. And then you can see the ugly side of life. Regarding that I'll just say this, natural human attraction is one of the strongest desires that human beings have.

Masterful breakdown. Far too many of us have to learn this shyt the hard way though .

 

[root_eruditorium_org]

I'm going to jump in here. The sad reality is that most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. Let me repeat that, most guys are completely clueless when it comes to women. There is no "right way" to ask a women out. Rather what you should ask is if you are the right guy or not. That's the only thing that matters. If you are the right guy, then it doesn't matter how you ask her out, if you are the wrong guy, then no matter how you ask her out it will be wrong. Stop looking for a bag of tricks and start focusing on becoming a man. That in a nut shell is what women are looking for. Women want to be with winners not losers.

Women would rather, many times over, compete and pull their hair out trying to figure out how to make a winner their own, than settle for a loser. When you start winning at life, you will naturally give off an air of confidence. Women can sense this like Spider-Man can sense bad guys. You want to know the secret to getting women, turn yourself into a guy they want to seduce. When that happens, you can talk to them normally and their panties will be getting wet. Women know whether you are a guy they want to seduce before they even talk to you. Let me repeat that, before they even talk to you Women know. This is why it's so important to be aware of your surroundings. When a woman just pops up out of nowhere and is giving you signals that she's interested that is the time to pounce. You make think that that was a random occurrence but I assure you it was not. She probably scoped you out, decided that you have the potential to be the man of dreams, figured out your normal routine and placed herself in your daily path.

Now let me ask you a question, if a woman does all that, do you really think it matters how you ask her out. Like if I say, 'Hey, let me get your number" or "Miss you're beautiful let me get your facebook and we can continue this conversation online" do you really think it matters. Trust, off the sheer thrill that all her planning has born fruits, she'll barely be able to contain her excitement. Her sympathetic nervous system will have already started to prepare for sex and in her head, she's already planning out how the relationship will go. Stop focusing on girls, and start focusing on becoming successful. Focus on getting your money up, focus on improving your social skills and focus on becoming a leader. You do those things and you'll have to beat the women off with a stick. And then you can see the ugly side of life. Regarding that I'll just say this, natural human attraction is one of the strongest desires that human beings have.

Quality post ... and it more or less corresponds with my experiences. Chicks who dig you will move mountains just to be with you. No point in wasting time trying to refine your "technique" when that is not really the issue.

I heard this from somebody a while back and now I'm starting to realize its true. It's sometimes a bad idea to take advice from guys who are "naturals" with women. These nikkas do whatever and still have hoes come to them and assume that they were successful due to "game" when in reality it was either their status, money, face, body, ... that was doing all the heavylifting. Now when you tell some down and out, flabby and sick, lonely breh, to work on his "game" he's going to put effort into this one very narrow area in his life when it would have been more efficient to actually acquire that cash, work out ... etc. "Chasing" hoes takes TIME, effort and costs a lot of money. This time, effort and money could be dedicated to activities that will later on allow the top quality hoes to come to you than the reverse.

& now looking back all the hoes that ever came easily to me it was always due to a very specific reason. maybe they were trying to use me to get a job, a homeboy or i was the alpha / had acquired status in our little group of friends hence i was the best catch that the situation had to offer. i didn't have to perform any dramatic / intensive personality changes or draft up an entire strategy on gettin the hoe ... she just fell into my lap.

 

[beenz]

That kinda counts as W, at least you're trying.

I've been single for a long time and wouldn't mind finding a girl, but I haven't actually approached/made any attempts to do so due to fear of rejection/obliviousness to signals/not being very social in general. It's annoying because my sister tells me I should be able to easily get females. Not sweating it tho.

why not holla at one of ur sister's friends then?

 

[ORDER_66]

Nothing stopping you from hitting the gym building up your body, your self esteem. It could also be the women u going after...

You been going after white chicks, spanish?!

 

[FTBS]

So once again it come downs to self improvement. Do that and everything concerning women will take care of its self.

You mentioned improving your social skills? Do you mean changing your personality. I'm more of a reserved, too myself type of guy(until i get to know you, or until i feel comfortable around you). Does that mean i should be someone else?

That was a great post BTW.

Females like reserved guys too. It's all about confidence. No female wants the guy cowering in the corner. But the guy that chilling quietly by himself and exuding confidence will have them saying "I wonder what his deal is ".

 

[↓R↑LYB]

At this point just go ahead and buy the p*ssy breh

 

[yyy]

So once again it come downs to self improvement. Do that and everything concerning women will take care of its self.

You mentioned improving your social skills? Do you mean changing your personality. I'm more of a reserved, too myself type of guy(until i get to know you, or until i feel comfortable around you). Does that mean i should be someone else?

That was a great post BTW.

It gets more complicated the further you go down the rabbit hole. Now for full disclosure, I never really had to work hard on my social skills. I grew up in a large family, so most of my family members and I have natural social skills. For me it was about just being comfortable in my environment letting my natural self come out.

The question I have for you, is what kind of person are you when you are around your family members or friends. Are you more out-going or are you still reserved. I'm not going to lie, it will be easier to get women if you are naturally out-going but at the same time there are plenty of reserved dudes out there who have women banging down their door. If you are naturally more reserved don't try to be someone that you are not. Females will see right through the disingenuity and that will be the end of that lol.

To be honest, though, being more reserved can also be an advantage. Females, especially the more attractive ones, are fiends for male attention. I guarantee you, if you just go about your business and deny beautiful women in your nearby vicinity attention, sooner or later they will start popping up around you. It's because you present a challenge. And fundamentally this is what all women want. Whatever you do, don't be the dude that gives away his attention/time for free.

Time is your most valuable resource! One of my favorite quotes, “In the time of your life-live…Time is short and it doesn’t return again. It is slipping away while I write this and while you read it, and the monosyllable of the clock is Loss, loss, loss, unless you devote your heart to its opposition." A women should have to earn it and more importantly, real women, confident women, beautiful women want to earn it. They deeply desire the opportunity to use their feminine abilities to woo a high value man.