I've come to the conclusion that I hate being in relationships

[Malik1time]

Everybody is posting their relationship gripes today

The coli is filled with hurt people who either A. Got heart broken in a epic fashion or B... and most likely never been in a relationship so they run to the coli and complain they get cant anyone and mask thru different threads
That’s my conclusion

 

[Entropy Fan]

The coli is filled with hurt people who either A. Got heart broken in a epic fashion or B... and most likely never been in a relationship so they run to the coli and complain they get cant anyone and mask thru different threads
That’s my conclusion

nope.

relationships are exhausting and unfulfilling and brehs are venting. The feminine shaming language is making the internet damn near unusable.

 

[Spectre]

Being expected to initiate all the time is exhausting and it gets old fast.

That's probably 40% the reasons my last relationship didn't work out

It got tiring having to come up with something new to do. A new restaurant or art gallery or museum or mall or whatever. It got exhausting. I was the driver, the tour guide, and the hotel lol.

I would feel like I wasn't a good boyfriend when I didn't feel like texting much for a couple days cuz then she'd feel like I was ignoring her or making her an afterthought. I knew I couldn't keep up. It felt like a duty after a while even though she was fun and had a great personality.

She knew everything about personality types, psychology, love languages, astrology signs but couldn't understand why an introvert prefered alone time most of the time

I would give ideas and she'd criticize some but wouldn't give alternatives. So if I didn't follow up, she'd blow up on me that I was a flake and didn't care about the relationship.

Honestly I miss her but older women seem to be a better fit. They're more appreciative maybe cuz they have a kid now so they have a more mature perspective on what really matters

 

[Ohene]

That's probably 40% the reasons my last relationship didn't work out

It got tiring having to come up with something new to do. A new restaurant or art gallery or museum or mall or whatever. It got exhausting. I was the driver, the tour guide, and the hotel lol.

I would feel like I wasn't a good boyfriend when I didn't feel like texting much for a couple days cuz then she'd feel like I was ignoring her or making her an afterthought. I knew I couldn't keep up. It felt like a duty after a while even though she was fun and had a great personality.

She knew everything about personality types, psychology, love languages, astrology signs but couldn't understand why an introvert prefered alone time most of the time

I would give ideas and she'd criticize some but wouldn't give alternatives. So if I didn't follow up, she'd blow up on me that I was a flake and didn't care about the relationship.

Honestly I miss her but older women seem to be a better fit. They're more appreciative maybe cuz they have a kid now so they have a more mature perspective on what really matters

The problem is it be the girls who wanna do shyt...yet expect you to initiate / plan it the majority of the time. So we end up doing a a lot of shyt that we wouldnt care to do if not for them.
But then when they initiate...its never some shyt that you as a man wanna do. It's only something that serves them...and its rarely (if ever) their treat

 

[L@CaT]

You did it to yourself by bringing her across country. When she moved in she only had you, no friends or family in the area, so naturally a dependence on you developed.

if you want to break the chain of dependence, you should have a talk with her and help her find purpose in life. She needs to have a life outside of you with career, friends, and family. Encourage her to grow in these aspects of her life. If she embraces what you are saying it will only help the both of you in the future.

Her purpose in life is not clear to her yet. Help her find it, because that’s what we’re all looking for consciously or subconsciously.

 

[360dagod]

The problem is it be the girls who wanna do shyt...yet expect you to initiate / plan it the majority of the time. So we end up doing a a lot of shyt that we wouldnt care to do if not for them.
But then when they initiate...its never some shyt that you as a man wanna do. It's only something that serves them...and its rarely (if ever) their treat

Dont forget taking 100 pictures(90 in the same position) and possibly being on live so they can have an "audience"

 

[Entropy Fan]

The problem is it be the girls who wanna do shyt...yet expect you to initiate / plan it the majority of the time. So we end up doing a a lot of shyt that we wouldnt care to do if not for them.
But then when they initiate...its never some shyt that you as a man wanna do. It's only something that serves them...and its rarely (if ever) their treat

98% of them are full blown narcissists. They can’t even see outside their own wants and needs like toddlers. I don’t see anything a modern relationship offers that is appealing at all.

 

[Entropy Fan]

Y’all better off leaving the country and buying a young broad that does the things you actually want and gives you space when you want. It cost less in time/stress/misery that way. The real reason society shames buying is because you actually get your money’s worth. Society wants you give give give

 

[Amestafuu (Emeritus)]

Exactly.

They may *start* with the same mindset, but once a woman finds a man who she feels comfortable around and who checks her boxes, all that "I don't need no man" independent shyt goes right out the window and she'll be trying to move in and get pregnant as quickly as possible.

nah you can for a fact find women that have the same mindset.

 

[Lamar Givens]

OP sounds just like my older brother.

It’s definitely more OP than it is his woman.

OP just needs to find an escort or a woman that is a true FWB.

Also, letting her uproot her entire life and move in with you was a scummy move if you already know from jump that wasn’t going to work because of your need for personal space.

If this relationship doesn’t work out she is going to be damaged goods for the next bruh in line.

 

[The Radiant One]

98% of them are full blown narcissists. They can’t even see outside their own wants and needs like toddlers. I don’t see anything a modern relationship offers that is appealing at all.

Look at Instagram. A woman’s Instagram 98% of it is pictures of them. Compared it to a man’s Instagram. They take pictures of our family or with them with their friends rarely do they have selfies we’re not nearly as vain as women are. A lot of women have themselves as their own screensaver picture in their phone

 

[Krisrunner2049]

Y’all better off leaving the country and buying a young broad that does the things you actually want and gives you space when you want. It cost less in time/stress/misery that way. The real reason society shames buying is because you actually get your money’s worth. Society wants you give give give

I’ve actually seen cacs in LA with what looks like a mail order bride

 

[Spectre]

OP sounds just like my older brother.

It’s definitely more OP than it is his woman.

OP just needs to find an escort or a woman that is a true FWB.

Also, letting her uproot her entire life and move in with you was a scummy move if you already know from jump that wasn’t going to work because of your need for personal space.

If this relationship doesn’t work out she is going to be damaged goods for the next bruh in line.

This part. If she moved for u, that's a fast track to marriage, duh

ITT Eligible bf is surprised move-in gf might be interested in marriage in the near future



My ex got mad cuz I didn't let her sleep over one time

U let her move across statelines into your house and want to deny her marriage? Lol her next man is gonna deal with so much bs trust issues lmao I pity the next dude

 

[mortuus est]

Dudes complaining all the time about women always seem be in a relationship. If women are so annoying stop dating them.

I can speak from experience that men who claim they want aloofness or less clinginess can’t stand it when they actually get it.

bunch of coli fist pumping. The amount of men who complain when women turn their attention from them to kids or their other passions makes me believe that that many posters here are full of crap.

this is facts

 

[Cape Town JHB]

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Great thread... As always I gotta feed the brehs.
#GMB