I've come to the conclusion that I hate being in relationships

[seabreeze80]

Why not date introverted women? When your significant other wants to be around you all the time it usually means that they are the happiest when they are around you or it could also mean they can't trust you and want to be around you to "monitor" you.

 

[Sandy_Cheeks]

Sounds like you hate being in unhealthy relationships.

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Every woman I've ever dated was happy when I met them; that's why the honeymoon phase is so great. It's two happy people living their own lives, happily.

What happens after a while is they see that my life is better than theirs and they are "happier" when they're around me and decide that in order to maximize their happiness, we need to be around each other all the time.

That's how this goes.

That means they weren’t truly happy then.

They don’t have hobbies or ways of getting fulfillment unless they’re around you?


I know a lot of people that hate being alone. They think being alone equates to boredom or loneliness because they have nothing bringing them enjoyment unless it’s from someone else..

Those are the kind of people that tend to be clingy and burdensome.

Maybe you need to find an introvert or a person that actually enjoys themselves and enjoys doing things by themselves.

 

[Commish]

I know breh I know.

Problem is my current girl uprooted her entire life and moved across the country to be with me.

Her whole family has been waiting on me to pop the question for the last 3 years.

Already calling me "son in law" and "brother in law" and shyt.

I literally am her life. Getting out of this one is gonna be hard. But if I do, I swear I'm never getting into another relationship again.

Man, I hear ya..

How come she won't do self work? Also, what is stopping you from marrying her? In addition, if you are hesitant to pop the question (which is understandable based on what you shared), what do you think she need to do in order for you to take your relationship to the next level?

Lastly, should you decide to go your own way and remain single, please be upfront with women that way they can decide to invest time with you or not...Basically, always keep it a buck!

 

[karim]

I know breh I know.

Problem is my current girl uprooted her entire life and moved across the country to be with me.

Her whole family has been waiting on me to pop the question for the last 3 years.

Already calling me "son in law" and "brother in law" and shyt.

I literally am her life. Getting out of this one is gonna be hard. But if I do, I swear I'm never getting into another relationship again.

So basically this is about your fear of committment, not her neediness
If you don't want to move in with and marry her, maybe don't have her move across the country for you or at least tell her that those things are not an option before she does
Edit: Also, an independent woman doesn't move cross country for a man, at least not without having a conversation about where that relationship is headed before she does. So I'm not sure how you didn't see this coming.

 

[Uptown WaYo87]

Everybody is posting their relationship gripes today

I think quarantine has a lot to do with it as well lol being stuck with someone you was barely able to stand for the few hours you wasnt working vs being holed up with them 24/7...shyt changes perspectives

A lot of people do click beautifully tho and they can vibe in every aspect of life...but i think that what people meant when they said soul mate back in the day. A lot of people out here get married n have babies with people that werent their true "soul mate" ..myself included. That shyt crumbles eventually

 

[2 one 3]

Big facts


I plan on being single with “friends” from here on out

I love having my own space, peace and quiet, and not having to hear a woman’s shyt.

even if I do eventually get serious with someone, I think it’s best that both have their own crib.

 

[Collateral]

Every woman I've ever dated was happy when I met them; that's why the honeymoon phase is so great. It's two happy people living their own lives, happily.

What happens after a while is they see that my life is better than theirs and they are "happier" when they're around me and decide that in order to maximize their happiness, we need to be around each other all the time.

That's how this goes.

How real is this

I know breh I know.

Problem is my current girl uprooted her entire life and moved across the country to be with me.

Her whole family has been waiting on me to pop the question for the last 3 years.

Already calling me "son in law" and "brother in law" and shyt.

I literally am her life. Getting out of this one is gonna be hard. But if I do, I swear I'm never getting into another relationship again.

I remember you saying how you enjoyed the single life and stuff like that. I can image how finally letting your woman actually live with you will make you miserable. Have you communicated things like your space and time alone with her?

 

[RAX 010]

I snapped on my girl after she said Lebron was fine the other day...


Not sure if I overreacted or put her in check...

Relationships are hard as fukk

 

[the bossman]

Sounds like you got with a boring chick who doesn't really have any hobbies. My chick now loves fashion & designing clothes. I bought her a sewing machine and she spends hours getting so into it sometimes she forgets to eat. She used to do her own dresses, now she started getting into doing masks. might turn it into a little business for her. we'll see. That's peace and quiet I get to do my thing (studying, working on my business, etc.) downstairs without her bothering me. We eat dinner together then she goes back to her thing while I do mine. If you got the type of chick that has 0 hobbies or does nothing but watch Netflix and instagram all day you gonna be burnt the fukk out cause she wanna be around you 24/7.

Either stop getting with useless chicks or give these broads something to do.

 

[killacal]

You ain't seen nothing til you been with a girl that will follow you to another room "just to be next to you"

Astagfurillah

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

I know breh I know.

Problem is my current girl uprooted her entire life and moved across the country to be with me.

Her whole family has been waiting on me to pop the question for the last 3 years.

Already calling me "son in law" and "brother in law" and shyt.

I literally am her life. Getting out of this one is gonna be hard. But if I do, I swear I'm never getting into another relationship again.

you pretty much brought all this on yourself then.

 

[Ricky Dunigan]

fukk it, glad someone else made this thread.

After i got mad internally when my girl grabbed my hand in public last night, I knew that I’m not a relationship person right now.

Her “sweet talk” voice annoys the shyt out of me and it’s too hot for her to be constantly needing to touch.

She’s technically not doing anything wrong, but man, the days that I am away at my own crib are paradise.

 

[13473]

be with someone already happy

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Exactly.

They may *start* with the same mindset, but once a woman finds a man who she feels comfortable around and who checks her boxes, all that "I don't need no man" independent shyt goes right out the window and she'll be trying to move in and get pregnant as quickly as possible.

Yall say this, and correct me if what I'm going to say doesn't apply to you, but on the other hand yall are averse to dating women with professional goals, business owners etc because they're not submissive, don't cook and have a different idea of gender roles.

Can't have a cake and eat it too