I've come to the conclusion that I hate being in relationships

[mortuus est]

thread smells like homo to me, kneegas dont want to be around their girlfriends

 

[mortuus est]

or it could also mean they can't trust you and want to be around you to "monitor" you.

 

[seabreeze80]

Usually out of insecurity but some women monitor their boyfriends/husbands because they are afraid that if he is out of their sight he will be unfaithful.

 

[MajesticLion]

1. You either shoulder the responsibilities or you don't.
2. A healthy co-dependency vs you constantly needing to be her entertainment are two entirely different things, which is it?

 

[BaldingSoHard]

That means they weren’t truly happy then.

Yeah, I'm good on your opinion. Thanks.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Man, I hear ya..

How come she won't do self work? Also, what is stopping you from marrying her? In addition, if you are hesitant to pop the question (which is understandable based on what you shared), what do you think she need to do in order for you to take your relationship to the next level?

Lastly, should you decide to go your own way and remain single, please be upfront with women that way they can decide to invest time with you or not...Basically, always keep it a buck!

She doesn't need to do self work. There's absolutely nothing wrong with her. I just hate having someone around all the time.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

So basically this is about your fear of committment, not her neediness
If you don't want to move in with and marry her, maybe don't have her move across the country for you or at least tell her that those things are not an option before she does
Edit: Also, an independent woman doesn't move cross country for a man, at least not without having a conversation about where that relationship is headed before she does. So I'm not sure how you didn't see this coming.

I have no fear of commitment, I just don't want it.

I knew she wanted to get married and have kids before she moved.
She knew I didn't want to get married and have kids before she moved.

She moved anyway.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Big facts


I plan on being single with “friends” from here on out

I love having my own space, peace and quiet, and not having to hear a woman’s shyt.

even if I do eventually get serious with someone, I think it’s best that both have their own crib.

The bolded would solve every problem I have with relationships, but women don't want that. They need the shyt to be as serious and as committed as possible as early as possible.

 

[Born2BKing]

Having someone rely on you for their happiness fukking sucks. It's creates unrelenting pressure and for an introvert like me, it just ruins my sense of peace. Especially since women always want to live together and spend all their free time together.

fukk.

Look into a long distance relationship. That way you get your free time and still have a girl that you can see if you want to travel to see.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

How real is this

I remember you saying how you enjoyed the single life and stuff like that. I can image how finally letting your woman actually live with you will make you miserable. Have you communicated things like your space and time alone with her?

We haven't talked about it since our initial conversation regarding me needing days to myself in order to feel at peace. Before I was able to get by cause I went to work and to the gym and shyt so I got a little bit of time to myself but now with COVID and us both working from home and shyt.... it's been building for the last 3 months and I'm about to break.

Note: When I say "I was able to get by" doesn't mean I was happy, it just meant that having someone around all the time was tolerable because I had a release. Now I don't.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Look into a long distance relationship. That way you get your free time and still have a girl that you can see if you want to travel to see.

Yeah, we started as long-distance. Breh it was beautiful. Saw each other once a month, and it was basically like vacation every time. Then she went back home and I got my peace and quiet and my time to grind and all that shyt.

Absolutely perfect. Of course she wanted more of my time because my time = her happiness so yeah.... Here we are.

 

[Krisrunner2049]

I’ve never been in one. Told them girls krisrunner2049 a free spirit. I told em “bury me with my ancestors who jumped from ships, cuz they knew death was better than bondage.”

 

[Born2BKing]

Yeah, we started as long-distance. Breh it was beautiful. Saw each other once a month, and it was basically like vacation every time. Then she went back home and I got my peace and quiet and my time to grind and all that shyt.

Absolutely perfect. Of course she wanted more of my time because my time = her happiness so yeah.... Here we are.

So she started to wanna see you more than once a month? I hope to marry a woman long distance one day. I will always need my space.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

Sounds like you got with a boring chick who doesn't really have any hobbies. My chick now loves fashion & designing clothes. I bought her a sewing machine and she spends hours getting so into it sometimes she forgets to eat. She used to do her own dresses, now she started getting into doing masks. might turn it into a little business for her. we'll see. That's peace and quiet I get to do my thing (studying, working on my business, etc.) downstairs without her bothering me. We eat dinner together then she goes back to her thing while I do mine. If you got the type of chick that has 0 hobbies or does nothing but watch Netflix and instagram all day you gonna be burnt the fukk out cause she wanna be around you 24/7.

Either stop getting with useless chicks or give these broads something to do.

*sigh*

No.

I just don't like having someone around every day.

She's not boring, or ugly, nor am I "sharing" her... none of the coli trying to shyt on her is going to apply here.

I don't like being in relationships because women draw most of their happiness from being in a relationship and that's a mental burden for an introvert like me.

 

[BaldingSoHard]

fukk it, glad someone else made this thread.

After i got mad internally when my girl grabbed my hand in public last night, I knew that I’m not a relationship person right now.

Her “sweet talk” voice annoys the shyt out of me and it’s too hot for her to be constantly needing to touch.

She’s technically not doing anything wrong, but man, the days that I am away at my own crib are paradise.

Exactly. This breh gets it. My girl is a gem. She's low key and not annoying, but last night just watching her put dressing on her salad had me wanting to strangle her. That's how I know this is an irrational mental thing on my part.

I need a fukking day off.