I've come to the conclusion that I hate being in relationships

[Frump]

My boy has a current bi coastal relationship the last few months and he says it’s the greatest thing ever

sees his girl once every 2 months for a week or two so it’s enough time to where he starts to miss her and then can see her but once he starts getting tired of her sh/t he can bounce

if every relationship could be like that you’d see way less divorces

 

[Chelsea Bridge]

Her life before me is completely different than her life after me.

How would I therefore not be responsible for her newfound happiness, and how does that invalidate the happiness she had before we met?

it doesn’t invalidate it but it means certain factors had to be aligned in a relationship in order for her to be satisfied..

unless she lost people she loved.. unless she made her self worth on the basis of other people’s happiness then there is no reason why she should base her happiness on you.

You’re not responsible for her being happy or miserable unless she made you that way.

if you want to take responsibility for someone else’s happiness then go for it, but you already know that you can’t make her happy forever so why put that burden on yourself?

 

[Goat poster]

I snapped on my girl after she said Lebron was fine the other day...


Not sure if I overreacted or put her in check...

Relationships are hard as fukk

Why did that anger you so much?

are there not women celebrities that you think are “fine”?

 

[Swirv]

I think quarantine has a lot to do with it as well lol being stuck with someone you was barely able to stand for the few hours you wasnt working vs being holed up with them 24/7...shyt changes perspectives

A lot of people do click beautifully tho and they can vibe in every aspect of life...but i think that what people meant when they said soul mate back in the day. A lot of people out here get married n have babies with people that werent their true "soul mate" ..myself included. That shyt crumbles eventually

I feel you. I know at some point my wife might flip the script. I’m just enjoying everything while it last.

 

[mortuus est]

Nah I know you wasn’t dissing. And I agree with your post here. Kids aren’t in the equation ( both agreed on that).

It’s annoying but when it comes down to it , even I know the good outweighs the bad in this situation. I’m used to more maybe “aloof” or non dependent women. I never made this thread cause i know it’s the relationship equivalent of 1st world problems.

But I can’t lie and say that im not glad that I have my own crib and time away. But that’s probably not gonna be feasible if the relationship goes on.

i feel you breh, in the beginning stages my shawty would keep me awake if she saw me falling alsleep , i had to change that real quick and control the sitiation

 

[MajesticLion]

The sociopathy that comes out in these kinds of threads

 

[Coco Loco]

Sounds like you hate being in unhealthy relationships.

This! That person he was dating needs to get herself together before dating anyone. Anytime your happiness comes from another person and not your own self worth, there's a problem.

 

[2 one 3]

This! That person he was dated needs to get herself together before dating anyone. Anytime your happiness comes from another person and not your own self worth, there's a problem.

Big facts.

your partner is not responsible for your happiness. Your partner is supposed to help contribute to your happiness. No one is responsible for your happiness but yourself.

 

[Coco Loco]

Big facts.

your partner is not responsible for your happiness. Your partner is supposed to help contribute to your happiness. No one is responsible for your happiness but yourself.

Thank you! OP didn't even realize he was setting himself up for the burden of her issues. Gotta recognize you can't be anyone's fixer but your own.

 

[2 one 3]

Thank you! OP didn't even realize he was setting himself up for the burden of her issues. Gotta recognize you can't be anyone's fixer but your own.

For real.
I have a similar situation with this woman who is interested in me but she’s so all over the place mentally that it’s a challenge to even be around her. I had to cut her off yesterday after we had a discussion but like I said I’m not responsible for making her feel good and that’s what she was trying to use me for.

 

[Coco Loco]

For real.
I have a similar situation with this woman who is interested in me but she’s so all over the place mentally that it’s a challenge to even be around her. I had to cut her off yesterday after we had a discussion but like I said I’m not responsible for making her feel good and that’s what she was trying to use me for.

Good for you King! Your own peace and mental health comes before anything else.

 

[Mr Rager]

Good for you King! Your own peace and mental health comes before anything else.

Hypothetically if your man asked you to leave for a few days, or asked to leave the house for a few days, what would you do

 

[2 one 3]

Good for you King! Your own peace and mental health comes before anything else.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

My girl is a gem. She's low key and not annoying, but last night just watching her put dressing on her salad had me wanting to strangle her. That's how I know this is an irrational mental thing on my part.

 

[2 one 3]

I got another woman that’s trying to kick it with me 3 days in a row...


She pulled up on me at work yesterday..


And today she’s talking about let’s hit up a bar and go back to my place

I know how I got her so easy because the first day we kicked it. I had her drive me to the weed shop and then drop me back off at my crib.

I didn’t let her go inside just stopped her in the driveway gave her a hug and a kiss and told her to hit me when she made it home.


shorty been blowin my shyt up now