Youseenmywork
KING
Dem shyts take a whole lot of energy ...I got to figure out the relationship thing ...
I've come to the conclusion that I hate being in relationships
- Thread starter BaldingSoHard
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As an introvert who likes personal space, peace and quiet, I'd suggest it as a de-stresser for both of us. I'm all for people in relationships still having "me time" and doing things by themselves. People don't know how to be in a relationship yet maintain their own identities.
I dated someone who didn't understand this and it was exhausting to always have to be around him. I'm content with entertaining myself without bothering others, he couldn't do/understand that. I felt confined and had to let him go. My peace was worth more to me than having a man but being unhappy.
I don't do clingy/needy people. I'm not your mama or your therapist. Work out your issues then talk to me.
seabreeze80
All Star
I know breh I know.
Problem is my current girl uprooted her entire life and moved across the country to be with me.
Her whole family has been waiting on me to pop the question for the last 3 years.
Already calling me "son in law" and "brother in law" and shyt.
I literally am her life. Getting out of this one is gonna be hard. But if I do, I swear I'm never getting into another relationship again.
Do you not want to be with her?
Nothing worse than being in a miserable relationship
Atleast when your single and lonely u can just up and leave and change environments
Damn she has no friends?I know breh I know.
Problem is my current girl uprooted her entire life and moved across the country to be with me.
Her whole family has been waiting on me to pop the question for the last 3 years.
Already calling me "son in law" and "brother in law" and shyt.
I literally am her life. Getting out of this one is gonna be hard. But if I do, I swear I'm never getting into another relationship again.
Imma call it down the line OP sounding like a woman, in that he wants it both ways, just break up with her and keep FWB, OP is one of those types that's meant to die alone, as @MajesticLion said OP has sociopathic tendencies and there's nothing wrong with that as long as you don't waste the time of others. @BaldingSoHard talking about she knew I didn't want a relationship and moved anyway. ALLLLLLL WOMEN do that you tell them what you want and they essentially think it's up for negotiation, so they capitulate short term while trying to wear on you long term so you give in. That's why you're supposed to deny the opportunity in the first damn place by either stopping seeing them or telling flat out you'll never be more than what you are. I've seen this movie a million times and it has two endings.
Either you capitulate marry her she eventually feels neglect and eventual resentment and divorces you with or without kids
OR
You break up with and she tells everybody who'll listen that you used/manipulated her
Take the second option, you didn't manipulate/use her but you did go full obtuse, because at 40 I'd expect a breh to know how women work more or less
Gotta shyt or get off the can OP
Either you capitulate marry her she eventually feels neglect and eventual resentment and divorces you with or without kids
OR
You break up with and she tells everybody who'll listen that you used/manipulated her
Take the second option, you didn't manipulate/use her but you did go full obtuse, because at 40 I'd expect a breh to know how women work more or less
Gotta shyt or get off the can OP
Idk breh cuz I think she was tryna test me to see what my reaction would be...I normally wouldn't trip over nothing like that but since i think she wanted a reaction i gave her one
Been there where you are "their world", initially it feels great, then it gets tiring. Nowadays I can't date a woman unless she has hobbies or leads a lifestyle where I'm not her sole entertainment.
Dirty Mcdrawz
Your girl loves em....
If you’re in an relationship where you feel pressured to be someone’s happiness, then leave immediately. That’s not an normal relationship.
Goat poster
KANG LIFE
Umm, just because someone is happier in a relationship, doesn't mean they were unhappy before the relationship. Nor does it mean all their happiness comes strictly from said relationship. I think that is what the OP is trying to convey.
I know breh I know.
Problem is my current girl uprooted her entire life and moved across the country to be with me.
Her whole family has been waiting on me to pop the question for the last 3 years.
Already calling me "son in law" and "brother in law" and shyt.
I literally am her life. Getting out of this one is gonna be hard. But if I do, I swear I'm never getting into another relationship again.
I'll just say nobody should up root their life unless yall are married. Its one thing if yall in the same city and both agree yall spend so much time to gather you may as well live together and both save money, or at a minimum giving things a test run right before engagement.
BaldingSoHard
Banned
To be clear, she doesn't need "fixing", and I'm not gonna tolerate anybody in this thread trying to shyt on her.
What I meant was that when I came into her life I made everything better because I'm carefree, smart, handsome, I have a little money which gives her room to be flexible with what projects she takes on in her business, our body PH is aligned so she never has vagina problems (she tells me this is rare), I have no kids or ex-wives, and I cook all the meals.
So she went from living the life of an average New Yorker (waking up at 4 am in a room the size of a closet to drive to the subway, then walking 6 blocks in the snow to get to a job she hates, etc...) to running her own business from my Scottsdale home that we designed together and I'm paying for, etc....
Basically, she's going through "Be careful what you wish for because if you get it then there won't be anything left to wish for". It is the epitome of first world problems, but there it is.
So when I say all her happiness comes from me, it's because my (our) lifestyle is the lifestyle that women dream about, not because she sits around the house waiting for me to entertain her.
I just wish we didn't live together...
