I've noticed a trend with black women.

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sure i would feel insulted and even angry for a while. but not to the tune of it effecting every future relationship i have with a guy. it wouldn't make me bitter or jaded or think that all men were out to get me
Sorry forgot to ask this also. Would you attempt to learn from the experience outside of I took an L? I ask cause I'm a patterns kinda guy and I attempt to see the why's and wherefores of things.
 

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This trend is not gender specific. Men, especially the men on here, are afraid of being "played" or of putting in more effort to pursue a woman than the man who came before him. Many men consider it some type of loss if the previous dude took her to mcdonald's and fukked on the second date, while he may take her to a five star restaurant and get no sex. Both groups are too worried about potential competition. That is lame.

Women and men both should only worry about themselves and the person they r pursuing. Whoever comes before or after u isn't ur concern. Obviously u don't want to ignore blatant warning signs , but overall just I think it's best to just focus on the 2 of u
Yuup. That's me. i hate dating, with a passion.
 

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I'm not going anywhere, but you can leave.

You know what? You're right. I have class tomorrow and it's past my bed time.
I know The Coli is great and all, but you should probably get some sleep as well. Although I'm sure you'll be fine regardless, champ. :thumbsup:
 

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I had this one chick who I used to crush on back in the day try to get with me a few years ago. She chose my man over me back in high school, who was taller and more handsome (i'm fine admitting that).

He fukked her. Tossed her away like garbage and he sent the whole clique her nudes. She was trying to be his girlfriend. He was disgusted by her outside of sex :scust:

So around 22ish, I catch her at the community college. I'm transferring my credits to a 4 year. She's there for something and I just said hello to be cordial. Quick convo while I waited to be called in and she just talked forever yo.......started asking me if I ever thought about her, how she used to have a crush on me, if I ever thought about us having anything together :upsetfavre: Yea bytch. Probably before you fukked my mans. And definitely before you got pregnant by some hood DJ and left to be a single mother. Told her "Nah....never. It would be wrong after you dated my boy"....in my head I was like fukk you think this is? The nerve of these hoes man. Only kids I'm raising is my kids and kids in my family. fukk out my face.
@Juicy @Booksnrain wasn't there a thread on why women cockblock once you holla at a friend after speaking to you. It seems like the same logic right? I think us men don't think about that
 

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no such thing as wasting time- when two people dates spend time together, sex and one realizes this aint what I want. that means it just didn't work out.
But sometimes it can work out but if I am not ready to settle down, I am wasting her time or she is wasting mines
 

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What type of dusty ass nikka shyt is this :what:' these are dusty nikka problems:camby:
Lmao, this made me laugh. Nothing is good enough for the coli. If I don't date girls I'm a fakkit. If I do date girls they're all hoes.
No she's not.
I'm trying not to argue. I even prayed for the strength not to argue with you nikkas in this thread because there's a healthy discussion going on.

I'll say this: @Luna is smart. I know because she and I had some hard conversations one on one and she represented her position intelligently and responsibly. I don't know what your opinion of her is but that's mine.
You'd be lying if you said couldn't recognize a lot of them want to live in the 21st century while restraining women to the 50's.
I'm assuming by them you mean men. And yes I'd be lying if I said that. Honestly I could say the same thing about some women. They want to be treated traditionally and classically which is conflicting.

@princess125 posted a good idea. The two people involved in the relationship should discuss what type of relationship they want.

Personally I want a partner. She can make more money than me, be smarter, even fitter than me. It wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't mind being a stay at home dad. I define my manhood, not every other guy.

But I'm the exception due to me being raised in non traditional environments.

On the other hand I'm very masculine.
 

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I see a lot of nikkas in here expecting a house wife but do not have what it takes to keep a house wife. You can't expect a wife to stay at home if you can't fully provide for her and your kids that means not spliting the bills, taking all the bills and paying them, working longer hours, getting education or certification to make enough money so your wife can be the "lady" you expected to wait at home for you.

Women need to stop excepting any man with a hard dikk inside of you. He should have more qualities than a big dikk and a smile. You look dumb driving to your man's house to pick him up and take him to the movies, pay for his movie ticket and yours, and then pay for dinner after the movies. You look stupid. Stop dating men based off looks and what he can do in the bed.

Both men and women need to start having real dates, less on social media, and stop having sex with friends. If you want to have sex with someone only, be upfront, lying to get sex is wrong, it is never a good reason to trick someone into doing something they normally wouldn't do. That shyt is going to come back to you 10 fold when you are old and are being given a sponge bath by a male nurse.
 

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Now you're deflecting. Whether you think that love is an emotion or not, you certainly can't say that you love someone upon first meeting them. You don't really know a person until you live with them, for an extended period. When you first meet someone you're not meeting the real person. This is common sense. That "love at first sight" myth is chic-flick shyt. You have to think logically when choosing a partner to love. It's not wise to just go off of emotion. Especially for a man.
How you going to tell me what I feel and when I feel it? Okay God. Thank you for telling me how I feel. I'm not old nikka! fukk wisdom. I'm trying to feel it all until this world has color.
 

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This trend is not gender specific. Men, especially the men on here, are afraid of being "played" or of putting in more effort to pursue a woman than the man who came before him. Many men consider it some type of loss if the previous dude took her to mcdonald's and fukked on the second date, while he may take her to a five star restaurant and get no sex. Both groups are too worried about potential competition. That is lame.

Women and men both should only worry about themselves and the person they r pursuing. Whoever comes before or after u isn't ur concern. Obviously u don't want to ignore blatant warning signs , but overall just I think it's best to just focus on the 2 of u
I agree with most of your post, but you lost your mind with the bolded :huhldup:
 
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