I've noticed a trend with black women.

[Luna]

I'm assuming by them you mean men. And yes I'd be lying if I said that. Honestly I could say the same thing about some women. They want to be treated traditionally and classically which is conflicting.

@princess125 posted a good idea. The two people involved in the relationship should discuss what type of relationship they want.

Personally I want a partner. She can make more money than me, be smarter, even fitter than me. It wouldn't bother me. I wouldn't mind being a stay at home dad. I define my manhood, not every other guy.

But I'm the exception due to me being raised in non traditional environments.

On the other hand I'm very masculine.

The bolded is true in many instances as well. I'm not a part of the problem because I know what I want and what I can give, so I seek like-minded individuals.
I can identify with not identifying, as well - being raised in a non-American environment. There's a strong friendship culture where I'm from - which transcends gender, so I was kinda puzzled when I realized the rest of the world wasn't like that. Till this day I value being sheltered so much, because that's the only way to retain your individuality in a world full of parrots.

The first time I've heard about height being a crucial factor in a male's desirability was when I was 18. I can understand the biological aspect of it now, but it's never been a factor for me. lol None of the boys I liked were tall and it has remained that way for the most part. What I'm trying to say is, if I had been exposed to these sweeping statements at a young age, height could be a deciding factor in my preferences.

Don't let anyone take away your ability to think for yourself. Even statistics can be deceiving since they only deal with numbers, not history. Read a lot. Especially if you don't agree with them.

 

[Mountain]

How you going to tell me what I feel and when I feel it? Okay God. Thank you for telling me how I feel. I'm not old nikka! fukk wisdom. I'm trying to feel it all until this world has color.

 

[Woman of god]

I agree with most of your post, but you lost your mind with the bolded

LOL its just an example to show how u can ruin a good thing when u worry about those who came before you. Say u met a nice, beautiful woman yall had a great first date and u really feeling her. U leave the date feeling great things for her. Even think u might want a relationship. Then u found out she slept with the guy before you right after date 1. Now you've ruined the image u had of her for what ?

 

[Woman of god]

Sorry forgot to ask this also. Would you attempt to learn from the experience outside of I took an L? I ask cause I'm a patterns kinda guy and I attempt to see the why's and wherefores of things.

With all life experiences you live and u learn. That being said, when u open your self up to love there's always a sense of vulnerability that you'll never be able to escape. You'll never be able to pursue a relationship without putting yourself in a position to be hurt. It doesn't matter if u dating mother Teresa. Risk free love does not exist. I get the desire to minimize being played, but honestly that risk is unavoidable

 

[MoonGoddess]

wrong thread

 

[Neuromancer]

With all life experiences you live and u learn. That being said, when u open your self up to love there's always a sense of vulnerability that you'll never be able to escape. You'll never be able to pursue a relationship without putting yourself in a position to be hurt. It doesn't matter if u dating mother Teresa. Risk free love does not exist. I get the desire to minimize being played, but honestly that risk is unavoidable

I agree. What I'm asking is do you try to use your past experiences as a loadstone to watch out for pitfalls (or tells I guess) and guide you. I only ask cause some people do the same thing multiple times expecting a different result.

 

[Woman of god]

I agree. What I'm asking is do you try to use your past experiences as a loadstone to watch out for pitfalls (or tells I guess) and guide you. I only ask cause some people do the same thing multiple times expecting a different result.

I use it as a guide but try to be cautious about letting it after who I am as a person. If I'm a hopeless romantic to the core, one heartbreak could alter my entire my outlook on life. But if I'm a truly a giddy, optimistic hopeless romantic, being jaded would impact my entire personality. I want to learn from the heartbreak, but not lose my carefree In love personality.

 

[Neuromancer]

I use it as a guide but try to be cautious about letting it after who I am as a person. If I'm a hopeless romantic to the core, one heartbreak could alter my entire my outlook on life. But if I'm a truly a giddy, optimistic hopeless romantic, being jaded would impact my entire personality. I want to learn from the heartbreak, but not lose my carefree In love personality.

I was just asking if you used it to gauge you interaction. I understand it shouldn't change you.

 

[DarkHorse23]

I'm in that timeline right now. It....is....HI...LA....RI...OUS. These chicks are so stressed about finding someone to wife them. Chicks on my Facebook saying they know Jesus gonna send them a husband this year

God like "I sent you a husband 7 years ago. Ain't my fault you curved him."

I'm stealing this quote, but I'll give you residuals

 

[MewTwo]

**6 months later**

@Still Ill FC : I HATE BLACK WOMEN GRR!!!

 

[Jimi Swagger]

Not a trend, if they are under 35 they are just being young and should "have fun"(safe sex), cultivate their lives, while getting their education and stacking their money in the process. Western men don't mature early if not at all and are not relationship material. There are a lot of nice men out there, many women have just reduced themselves to their assigned/classified race, religion, and socioeconomics pool of men which is a shame. Also, older women who have been married for 30-50 years are more honest and open with communication than the previous generation and will tell youngsters that marriage is not the end game and definitely not Ozzie and Harriet Show. Especially if they are/were in shyt loveless marriage like many or most people and you learn they went through hell trying to keep a family together with partners who drank, gambled, cheated, and often physically abusive. That is why you see many women opting for kids and a career without a man if they have a decent support system and finances.

And now many of the elder women have never been married or cheating Ashley Madison themselves. Just a sign of the times. My mom jokes and says men have become obsolete and says that she told my grandma when she was young that she wanted 3 sons 2 daughters and no husband and grams told her thats now how we do this . Our family friend, this 75 year old retired Southern, White school principal told me that she married at 17 because she wanted to have sex with her well endowed boyfriend at the time and didn't want to be considered a whore , I guess because that was the mindset and culture then, nevermind that her first husband was a drunk and a philanderer and not husband material. She said her kids were the biggest reward and the best thing out of her marriages.

 

[MsReal]

I date a lot. Lately I've been hearing girls say they gave up on wanting a family or a normal relationship because of the people they're around.

This explains so much of why women don't crave romance anymore. They're basically men now. They want money and good jobs. They're learning to wear a poker face, it's kind of funny, and very sad. Women used be unrealistically beautiful. Now it's like 1 out 3 doesn't remind me of a dude. And maybe 2 out of 8 are gorgeous. Most girls are attractive so that's average.

I met this girl and I took her out on the spot. We walked and talked for two hours. It was lit. Anyway, she's a keeper. As many black women are. They are the best group of women to make mom's out of. That's another thread though.

I've noticed that women are so frightened of being played again, or winding up with nothing they take no risks. That's lame as fukk. Love is a fukking risk. If you want to play it safe you deserve to be as lonely as you are.

If you're not willing to potentially have your heart broken then you don't deserve it. If you're not willing to forgive, grow, and love some more you don't deserve it.

Love isn't practical. Marriage isn't practical. Having kids in this hateful world isn't practical. fukk money. The absence of love and passion in the world is what turns me off from having kids.

Im scared man. Men are not romantic. Men are also followers. Few men are leaders. They do whatever women are into and whatever other men are doing.

Women should inspire and encourage romance. Men will not. Sometimes I'll say to a girl you haven't had anyone love you. I'm talking really love you. They damn near cry sometimes.

Gentleman, please, let's date more and dog less. Girls are frightened of us at this point in the game and they're trying to play like we play and now nobody wants anything real, so we're all just lying to each other.

This post made me feel like crying

But I'm a Lover of black men, always get the great amazing couple of years together then shyt falls apart due to the man I'm treating like a King believing he's a real life one, after a while and then believing he deserves a harem....

It's awful when u meet couples still madly in love with each other 15/ 20 years down the line, as I doubt I'll ever have that...

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

**6 months later**

@Still Ill FC : I HATE BLACK WOMEN GRR!!!

They say that the captain stays fast with the ship through still and storm. But this ain't The Dakota, the waters cold. I won't have to fight for long.

 

[Malcolmxxx_23]

Lol I could give you my brain and you couldn't pull it off breh. It's not the words it's the conviction I speak with. I can say anything and make it sound good. I learned from the hustlers and the big homies how to have a killer mouth piece.

I use it to make money though, not play girls. Im not a player.

Ya it not what say

It's the energy behind what your saying :

 

[SeveroDrgnfli]

This post made me feel like crying

But I'm a Lover of black men, always get the great amazing couple of years together then shyt falls apart due to the man I'm treating like a King believing he's a real life one, after a while and then believing he deserves a harem....

It's awful when u meet couples still madly in love with each other 15/ 20 years down the line, as I doubt I'll ever have that...

So true. I think some guys feel entitled to bein treated well. You deserve so much. I hope you get it.

Depending on the day I like or hate seeing old couples. When they hold hands I'm or