Feelings caught.
dont be upset breh, you just need to increase ya carb intake on back day for recovery and growth. No need to catch feelings
Feelings caught.
As I have already said there are varying degrees of feminism. But feminism itself is a very general term. Some feminist do believe that the only way to achieve equality is through the masculinization of the female. I personally do NOT agree with that. I am a feminist however I am not opposed to gender rolls as long as those rolls do not lessen the value of either party. However I do believe that women should be able to be educated, own property, have equal pay for doing the same job as men and should not be seen as the property of their husbands, fathers etc.
The world you see today is a result of the work of many feminist and civil rights workers. All of the things you mentioned were not always so. They were not just given out. That legislation was pasted b/c there was an overwhelming amount of sexism that was not allowing women to support themselves and/or families or have say so over their own bodies. So laws/implementations were/are put into place to give women a fighting chance.
It may seem to you like women have it made in the shade but I can assure you they are needed. Women in general are still no where as financially or socially successful as their male counter parts. And until that is no longer the case such laws are needed.
As far as the family, as you've said we are are different. B/c women are the ones who create children in our bodies and are usually charged with their care it is only right that any matters that are for the benefit of children would ultimately favor the a child's caregiver AKA usually women.
At the same time, feminism is not about taking away from males. It is about stopping the abuse (socially, physically, financially ) of women. Any woman who uses feminism to put down or demonize men is not a good or fair representation of feminism.
We can talk about all the obvious stuff that were past for women. I had a woman that was a director in my department that quit her six figure position to stay at home and raise her kids while her husband works his six figure job. That is not happening the other way around. This is the option that woman want. The ability to choose whether or not want they want to be a housewife or move up in the corporate world. So when discussing income and career opportunities you have to factor in that men are not afford the option NOT TO WORK. Other thing that I have noticed that when men work, they are WAY more likely to work overtime. Its rare for me to see a women work overtime in the corporate world. Women are not as money driven as well, they are more status driven. I have seen women in my corporate career move up to manager positions without building up their salary in their previous position, especially when some positions provide performance based incentives.
Black feminists complain about the lack of quality black men but they do not complain about the jobless rate among black men which is way higher than black women and you are coming in here talking about men are financially and socially more successful than women. What men are you talking about? If you are talking about white men, then you are on to something but if you are talking about black men, then you are damn wrong. You are equating the social and financial prowess of the white man with that of the black man. That is why black feminist are silly to me. That is the reason why white feminists do not want black feminists in their mists unless they are trying to use them to achieve their own agenda.
Again, what is the goal of black feminists?
I am not a believer in the blame game. Without a community, how are these women suppose to know who is and isn't a good man. Ya'll need to stop thinking that women think like men. They don't know who is a good man because most of us don't broadcast what we are till after the fact and if they don't know, they will have a hard time trying to decrypt.i stop reading when i saw the part that black men is not around to protect them
talking about brothers killing themselves and going to jail..when majority of them come from single parents homes where there own naive mothers didnt protect them..
stop having kids wit losers and u wouldnt have a problem. black men are always the issue but not the person looking in the mirror
That is fair, very fair. This is a culture issue that means Black women will have to get Black men on board to protest the industry including their favorite artists as well as ours as well as the labels. It will take humbling both sides. This is less of a challenge compared to the group economics but it can be hard because c00ns are more present than ever before.From they told me, their goal is just be heard and acknowledge. Not to be written off the way society does them aka welfare queen, baby mommas etc. Too have the back the full family household without the fear of losing us black men. This is what I heard from this one group, cant say that maybe the case for others.
Still I think its unity
That is fair, very fair. This is a culture issue that means Black women will have to get Black men on board to protest the industry including their favorite artists as well as ours as well as the labels. It will take humbling both sides. This is less of a challenge compared to the group economics but it can be hard because c00ns are more present than ever before.
Both sides have c00ns breh. We got guys on here blaming the women and you got women blaming the men. You can't do that but at the same time we have to acknowledge what is going on.I agree, think we need all hands on deck for this fight, the main reason why we are losing because you trying to win for both sides without having the other side present.
Time to come to other and fight the these issues together.
I am not a believer in the blame game. Without a community, how are these women suppose to know who is and isn't a good man. Ya'll need to stop thinking that women think like men. They don't know who is a good man because most of us don't broadcast what we are till after the fact and if they don't know, they will have a hard time trying to decrypt.
The bolded is exactly why instead of feminist groups we need black community groups...with that group the women can have a sub group to discuss issues that they deal with but the idea of black feminism just sounds like divide and conquer. If black women and black men came together groups lie this would be more effective.
One of the main issues they brought up was that the black man was being taken out of the community which caused the imbalance (no fathers, no providers no protectors). So that alone should say that we need more emphasis on maintaining the family structure.
Who are all the people contributing to breaking up the family home...attention needs to be placed on them also, not just the black man or black woman.
From they told me, their goal is just be heard and acknowledge. Not to be written off the way society does them aka welfare queen, baby mommas etc. Too have the back the full family household without the fear of losing us black men. This is what I heard from this one group, cant say that maybe the case for others.
Still I think its unity
Of course. I am always up for respectful dialogue.
We can talk about all the obvious stuff that were past for women. I had a woman that was a director in my department that quit her six figure position to stay at home and raise her kids while her husband works his six figure job. That is not happening the other way around. This is the option that woman want. The ability to choose whether or not want they want to be a housewife or move up in the corporate world. So when discussing income and career opportunities you have to factor in that men are not afford the option NOT TO WORK. Other thing that I have noticed that when men work, they are WAY more likely to work overtime. Its rare for me to see a women work overtime in the corporate world. Women are not as money driven as well, they are more status driven. I have seen women in my corporate career move up to manager positions without building up their salary in their previous position, especially when some positions provide performance based incentives.
Black feminists complain about the lack of quality black men but they do not complain about the jobless rate among black men which is way higher than black women and you are coming in here talking about men are financially and socially more successful than women. What men are you talking about? If you are talking about white men, then you are on to something but if you are talking about black men, then you are damn wrong. You are equating the social and financial prowess of the white man with that of the black man. That is why black feminist are silly to me. That is the reason why white feminists do not want black feminists in their mists unless they are trying to use them to achieve their own agenda.
Again, what is the goal of black feminists?
well the issue is that most black men start off so far behind the 8 ball that they are very rarely good from the jump...as a black man you have to learn how to be "good"...you have to want to be "good"...you have to dedicate yourself to being "good"...and the problem with black women is that they don't really want to have you around while you are going through this process...
When a black man is washing the dishes...a black women won't want anything to do with him...girl please...this nikka wash dishes for a living...
But when that black man is washing dishes he has that moment when he realizes...damn i am 22 and washing dishes i got to get my shyt together
Then he move from washing dishes to waiting tables...but a black woman won't want anything to do with him...girl please...this nikka wait tables for a living ...girl lets scrape all this food on one plate to help this nikka out
But when that black man is waiting tables he realizes that a few months ago he was washing dishes...and well slow motion is better than no motion
Then he move from waiting tables to cooking...but no black woman will want anything to do with him...girl please this nikka a cook...this nikka back here in all that grease all day...nikka go home every night smelling like crisco...
But when that black man is cooking...well now he been there awhile...now people who been there know him as the guy who went from washing to cooking...and now that black man is seeing the in and outs of the business...and he is thinking ...you know i could add a lil spice here...try this...try that...get a little creative...
Then he move from cooking to bartending...and now that black woman might not want him...but now she kinda interested... now he on her radar...now she see him out here mixing drinks and flirting with chicks and they tipping him 10 dollars and damn who is this white dude in a suit he seems to be all buddy buddy with......damn it's 3 a.m and i am still here...damn is he taking that entire tip jar home...damn i see some 20's in that jar
And now that black man is right there on the precipice...cause he has washed dishes...busted tables...served food...and cooked food...and been a bartender...and you know what...it took 3 years but damn everybody know this guy...people who have been coming here know him by name...when he says he used to be a cook people say "so that was YOUR eggplant paremesean
And then...they got a management gig open up...a new place opening up...and who do they ask...that black man of course...because he has seen every ounce of this place and knows it in and out
And now this nikka got a suit...now you look at the restaurant owned by or property managed by or team management manager is...this nikka...
And now all these black women are like ...girl that is a good man...girl he OWNS something...girl look at him in that suit i bet he got a big dikk...girl he worked his way up the right way...girl that is a gawd damn good man right there you think he single...
But...what those black women don't realize is that he was a good man when he was just washing dishes...
And well you didn't want him then...and now...well now he owns something and he doesn't really have time for you...he doesn't have any emotional attachment to you, black woman, because when he first became a good man washing that sticky ass alfredo off them plates...he looked around and didn't see you...black woman......you were to busy bashing him for washing dishes and being a 20 year old still living at home and having no ambition remember...
You don't want a good black man who is a good black man...you want a regular black man who is making the transition to a good black man...cause that transition is a very real struggle...and when he makes it that black man will always look back and remember the people around him in that struggle...or the lack of people...black woman...