Just Found out my Dad is having a affair

[Mowgli]

nikka already told his sisters...his mom knows for sure by now. his pops was right not to tell him shyt...

Snitchin on your father. fukkin mammas boys. Dude ran right to the girls to go snitch. For all he knew moms was on some

*just dont embarrass me * type shyt.

Now, shes shamed in the eyes of her children and soon her entire family. Her hands being forced. Shes going to look weak to her kids or alone and strong. All because her son, whos probably going to end up cheating on his own wife/girlfriend, decided to be a snitch.

When you're a kid its hard to understand how relationships work and this nikka is going to see is from his dads perspective, eventually and realize he shouldnt have snitched. Too late now. Hoe shyt.

 

[Inevitable Kobe Turnover]

Straight up. Your pops is a bytch made nikka. You should be glad you haven't inherited such a rotten trait. Look at all these fools trying to rationalize this p*ssy behavior. What would make a man turn on his family like that? I'm aware shyt happens but not respecting your wife who birthed 3 of your kids, raised them, etc enough to divorce her and do right by the kids is disturbing.

You said he has 3 houses, yet can't provide food in the house? Breh can't even help your lil sis out with college? He's going to burden her life with student loans and put her in a financial graveyard at a young age because of a new relationship? And here you have the majority of this site co-signing this because their parents left them a$$ out as well to fend for themselves. It don't work like that. It shouldn't work like that. Your pops is a bytch. I'm a pray for you homie. I don't know how you reverse such behavior at his age.

 

[SouthernBelle]

I can't cosign him not putting food in the house for his daughters but as far as who he's sexing, that's his business.

The messed up part is that the men in this thread are actually condoning this ish (example "they won't starve"..."what is the mother doing"). How pathetic...

 

[JasonSJackson]

I am im about to move out after i graduate college but cant believe he would do that to our mom or us... he even lied and said he joined a runner group when he was coming home at 2 in the morning

he meant mentally

 

[Turbulent]

Straight up. Your pops is a bytch made nikka. You should be glad you haven't inherited such a rotten trait. Look at all these fools trying to rationalize this p*ssy behavior. What would make a man turn on his family like that? I'm aware shyt happens but not respecting your wife who birthed 3 of your kids, raised them, etc enough to divorce her and do right by the kids is disturbing.

You said he has 3 houses, yet can't provide food in the house? Breh can't even help your lil sis out with college? He's going to burden her life with student loans and put her in a financial graveyard at a young age because of a new relationship? And here you have the majority of this site co-signing this because their parents left them a$$ out as well to fend for themselves. It don't work like that. It shouldn't work like that. Your pops is a bytch. I'm a pray for you homie. I don't know how you reverse such behavior at his age.

I WISH a woman would kick me out of my home, reject me when i try to patch things up with her for the sake of the family and then expect me to do anything more than what's legally required of me

i think dude should take care of the 18 year old youngin just cause she's still kinda dependent on him. but other than that dude did what he's suppose to do. Seems to me like he was trying to re-patch his family and his wife turned on him. Was he suppose to completely stop living and start begging for her to take him back? he told her she'd fail if she doesn't take him back. OP said his mom is struggling now. sounds to me like some nostradamus shyt


and again, i don't believe in holding grudges. I'm not saying the pops should act like a bytch and not support his kids out of spite. but at some point pops can't just keep chasing his mom when she clearly rejected him. the kids are adults now. if they personally need something they should go ask their pops. if he doesn't want to help them personally out of spite, i'll be the first dude to call pops a bytch at this point.

 

[SouthernBelle]

Sounds like a lot of the nikkas in this thread don't have daddies keep making excuses for bytch ass nikkas that don't handle ther biz

Right...my daddy would never do the stuff these men are condoning even to this day and I am 27 year old woman. Although he probably knows that I would never need it, my dad still ask me every time we talk what I've been eating, do I need any groceries, etc. At least one of the OP's sisters is still in high school, but they are condoning him not helping to put food on the table.

 

[Mr Uncle Leroy]

technically him and my mom are separated but are still married. Went to work with him today and his phone went off so I checked since i had suspicions after he had been coming home late for about the whole week before([plus this nikka doesnt buy any food for the house anymore). Some of yall would say its cool but ever since my mom left he hasnt really been helping her raise my two sisters or even bother to talk to his daughters. idk why its making me so mad so tell me am I trippin or is he in the wrong. text were of the woman saying what was on the menu for sunday and all these good morning text I cant tell my mom cuz she still has hope that he will change and he tried to get her back at first but while he is how he is now its best they stay separated. But I still feel like they should be divorced before all this goes down. He feels that woman is more important than his family apparently...as you can see this runs deep but am I in the wrong as should i leave it alone?

you might have to man up and take charge in the house...

its going to ruffe the feather, but hey, someone got be examples to the lil sisters

maybe he could give yall money to get the food, seems he getting depressed about the situation and has lost sense of priority, which should be family, before selfish needs.

where did your mom move to? any city? why did they split? how long they been married?

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

The messed up part is that the men in this thread are actually condoning this ish (example "they won't starve"..."what is the mother doing"). How pathetic...

Pathetic? That quote was before OP made it known his sisters were mostly all grown. He raised all those children. He's handled his responsibilities. They're all old enough to put food in their own mouths. We aren't talking about babies here.

 

[Money Be Green]

technically him and my mom are separated but are still married. Went to work with him today and his phone went off so I checked since i had suspicions after he had been coming home late for about the whole week before([plus this nikka doesnt buy any food for the house anymore). Some of yall would say its cool but ever since my mom left he hasnt really been helping her raise my two sisters or even bother to talk to his daughters. idk why its making me so mad so tell me am I trippin or is he in the wrong. text were of the woman saying what was on the menu for sunday and all these good morning text I cant tell my mom cuz she still has hope that he will change and he tried to get her back at first but while he is how he is now its best they stay separated. But I still feel like they should be divorced before all this goes down. He feels that woman is more important than his family apparently...as you can see this runs deep but am I in the wrong as should i leave it alone?

Let that boy cook

 

[SouthernBelle]

Pathetic? That quote was before OP made it known his sisters were mostly all grown. He raised all those children. He's handled his responsibilities. They're all old enough to put food in their own mouths. We aren't talking about babies here.

At least one is still in high school and we don't know how long he hasn't been providing. She is still his responsibility (although you clearly don't think so. I am happy that I had the type of father I had). Again pathetic (the fact that it was said BEFORE knowing the girls were older makes it even more pathetic since it was made while thinking the girls were younger)!

 

[Inevitable Kobe Turnover]

Pathetic? That quote was before OP made it known his sisters were mostly all grown. He raised all those children. He's handled his responsibilities. They're all old enough to put food in their own mouths. We aren't talking about babies here.

You are an enlisted airmen. Since no one joins the arm forces(enlisted) because they want to, I'm going to assume your disposition is from your parents failing you. Sad.

 

[Doin2Much Williams]

I am im about to move out after i graduate college but cant believe he would do that to our mom or us... he even lied and said he joined a runner group when he was coming home at 2 in the morning

Well...



... he was definitely running something.


*stretches joints*

.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

At least one is still in high school and we don't know how long he hasn't been providing. She is still his responsibility (although you clearly don't think so. I am happy that I had the type of father I had). Again pathetic!

Exactly, we don't know. So why are you jumping to conclusions? I agree the youngest sister should still be taken care of. However, we don't know what the OP's father is doing for her.

 

[Mister_DoItNice]

You are an enlisted airmen. Since no one joins the arm forces(enlisted) because they want to, I'm going to assume your disposition is from your parents failing you. Sad.

Do me a favor don't pretend to know anything about me or my life. You have a great day.

 

[SouthernBelle]

Exactly, we don't know. So why are you jumping to conclusions? I agree the youngest sister should still be taken care of. However, we don't know what the OP's father is doing for her.

The OP already said it...NOTHING. The OP said he doesn't even really interact with his daughters anymore. We know he has been doing it long enough for the OP to mention it. He isn't currently doing it; therefore, we know he isn't handling his responsibilities as a father. End of story.