Just got divorced after 12 yrs...ama

[Robo Squirrel]

@SlickHomie
You repping uglygang?
Are you knocking down major ass right now or sobbing alone?

 

[the bossman]

I lay down that night in my empty house on that air mattress and slept like a baby. It was the most peace I had felt in what seemed like eons. Smdh

Jeezus. i felt the realness in this one

 

[Piff Perkins]

but wait what if the guy cheats. If she wants to break up with u over u cheating, especially if you’re apologetic, then she never really loved u. A man can really love his wife but go fucck someone else. That other person means nothing. Men and women are different and cheating by either sex hold different weight. That’s a fact.

That's not a fact, it's your weird sexist opinion. Cheating does not have one set of rules for men and another set of rules for women. If you don't think a woman can fukk another man and it means nothing, you aren't that familiar with women.

If your husband cheats on you that should be the end. If your wife cheats on you that should be the end. It destroys the union and will always come up again even if he or she forgives you. It never dies, it's a ghost that will be summoned at the most random moment. The idea that men cheating is excusable because the other woman means nothing, but women cheating is inexcusable because they're emotional is literally patriarchal bullshyt and ownership lmao. That words gets thrown around too much but whew.

"She never loved you if she doesn't forgive your cheating" is some emotional loser shyt.

 

[TRUEST]

That's not a fact, it's your weird sexist opinion. Cheating does not have one set of rules for men and another set of rules for women. If you don't think a woman can fukk another man and it means nothing, you aren't that familiar with women.

If your husband cheats on you that should be the end. If your wife cheats on you that should be the end. It destroys the union and will always come up again even if he or she forgives you. It never dies, it's a ghost that will be summoned at the most random moment. The idea that men cheating is excusable because the other woman means nothing, but women cheating is inexcusable because they're emotional is literally patriarchal bullshyt and ownership lmao. That words gets thrown around too much but whew.

"She never loved you if she doesn't forgive your cheating" is some emotional loser shyt.

You talk like a man raised by women, with no masculine male figure around. It is to your benefit you read this thread thoroughly so you become wiser than you currently appear.

 

[Ya?]

Another thing I wanna point out is the troubling fact that Y’all keep repeating the same sh1t someone said to u, without really thinking. “My grandma said marriage is hard. U gotta work through it”.

there are some things u shouldn’t work thru.

if your wife starts a heated fight with you because she never sees u, cause you’re always working. That’s something u work through. Getting a hotel near ur job. Having her come stay with u there. Having more date nights. Etc. that’s the type of things to work thru.

If ur wife cheats on u, no coming back from that. U end it. If she’s thinking of cheating on u, I.e flirting with guys, disrespecting you in public, reckless with money, you end it.

but wait what if the guy cheats. If she wants to brea up with u over u cheating, especially if you’re apologetic, then she never really loved u. A man can really love his wife but go fucck someone else. That other person means nothing. Men and women are different and cheating by either sex hold different weight. That’s
For instance, if a man cheats on his wife with women who are far better looking than she is, she’ll be mad for a while but deep down she’ll know your a catch and will be far more willing to forgive, as long as you’re not a total douchebag. Men on the other hand, if ur wife cheats on u, a lot went into the act of her doing it. No man will ever gaze upon his adulterous wife with admiration based on how good looking the men she fukked looked.

Stupidest crap I ever heard

 

[QuintessentialMan]

12 years man.
Thats cool. Ive done about 5 years now, 2 kids. Most people cant even manage a girlfriend. You livin life right now man. Do you. Move on. Dont hold it against the next one.
Can I ask how old are you?
If you below 50 and have enough money you all the way good.

 

[QuintessentialMan]

Just got out of an 11 yr marriage myself..

The house that I bought with my 401k (that I'm still paying back) it's for her n the kids now

Paying 800 a month child support


Can't even claim 1 of them on the income tax get about 2000 compared to her 10,000 every year


Now stuck living in a efficiency in east Miramar u ready for this life playboy? It's cheaper to keep her who ever said that shyt knew what time it was.

You see now this is the shyt right here im talking about. Divorce is for rich folk. It gets to a point where financially there is just no turning back, however you feel. Fake smile in the mirror and tell yourself your doing for the kids every morning at that point.

 

[beenz]

@beaniemac I cant believe u got divorced. Are you the nurse dude? I been following you since SOHH days.

How you finding the dating scene since u got divorced?

I work n healthcare. I'm not a nurse. dating scene is tiring, but it's easy to bag chicks.

 

[beenz]

What made your relationship deteriorate if you don't mind me asking. I guess you must of had your kid before you got married. In hindsight do you think having a kid before marriage kind of forces the issue and pressures you into a marriage that you might not necessarily want to be in?

had one kid a year prior, the second one 5 years in.

a kid might have forced the issue, but back then I was into her anyways, so I wasn't trippin.

 

[TRUEST]

Stupidest crap I ever heard

Coming from you, that’s actually amusing

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Was she seeing a personal trainer

 

[BmoreGorilla]

Divorce sucks breh. I know you said earlier in the thread that you don’t need think you need therapy. Maybe you won’t. I didn’t think I would either and it was months before I realized I did. Just don’t put it out of the realm of possibilities is all I’m saying. Idk how long y’all been apart becuz I haven’t read the whole thread yet but ultimately you gotta do what’s best for you. Divorce is the toughest thing I had to go thru and I’ve been thru a lot. Best of luck to you

 

[Youseenmywork]

By the way for all the men that plan on getting married make sure that women take your last name and don't let her hyphenate her last name .

 

[Diondon]

Hey, at least you tried
Can't knock you for that

 

[TRUEST]

By the way for all the men that plan on getting married make sure that women take your last name and don't let her hyphenate her last name .

That’s another telltale sign she’s intending on making the Union a temporary one.