Ladies, Do Y'all Approach w/out Approaching? And do Dudes Have a "Resting Breh Face"?

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Like strangers? Initiating friendly conversation is as far as I go

I think thats a key point right there cuz you say initiating friendly conversation, yet another woman on here says she's just being friendly and doesn't mean thats an opening to shoot your shot.

I think thats whats confusing some of us brehs.

Me personally, i always think a woman is just being friendly when she's making conversation. Now if she is asking me a bunch of personal questions then the oblivious-ness is out the window
 

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i don't approach men. Never have, never will. A woman has to be somewhat desperate and suffer from low self-esteem if she approach men. And I am not aware if men have resting bytch face or not.
Nothing wrong with approaching a dude and showing interest. Taking initiative is how you get shyt done.
 

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Threads like this make me lol -

OP -
LADIES, what do you think, feel, etc about XYZ?

BUNCH OF COLI DUDES - REPLYING...incorrectly in lots of instances.

Questions for anyone -

Do you believe in masculine & feminine energy? That women pursuing/approaching men (taking on masculine energy) would upset that balance between the Male & Female?

Many, many men think (ego) that being open & warm automatically means p-ssy on a platter (a male poster outright said so ITT). So, if women started approaching men what should she do to guide his interest to the mind/heart/soul that is attached to the vagina?

If men are natural born hunters/pursuers AND are afraid of rejection. Why are those very same men mocking women about being afraid of rejection?
Do you believe that rejection could be a good thing? That it isn't even about you in most cases?

Do you believe there's a reversal of roles between today's men & women? Has it improved relations between the sexes?

What was Grandmom & the elders really talking about when they said to little girls, "Don't be fast." "Don't be all up in these little boys faces." "Girls should be seen and not heard." Were they helping or hindering?

If a woman approached/pursued you, will she always have to be the one who initiates everything thereafter? You didn't have to put in any work initially so where will the incentive come from now? If you didn't have to earn it will you appreciate it?

Do you believe that it's a man's job to pursue and a woman's job to make her interest known or not (of course in a respectful manner)?

What about that biblical quote - 'He who findeth'

I am kin to/friends with/colleagues to various men - they all say they don't like women pushing up on them. Some said they ran away...after screwing first...
Could they all be wrong?
 

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Threads like this make me lol -

OP -
LADIES, what do you think, feel, etc about XYZ?

BUNCH OF COLI DUDES - REPLYING...incorrectly in lots of instances.

Questions for anyone -

Do you believe in masculine & feminine energy? That women pursuing/approaching men (taking on masculine energy) would upset that balance between the Male & Female?

Many, many men think (ego) that being open & warm automatically means p-ssy on a platter (a male poster outright said so ITT). So, if women started approaching men what should she do to guide his interest to the mind/heart/soul that is attached to the vagina?

If men are natural born hunters/pursuers AND are afraid of rejection. Why are those very same men mocking women about being afraid of rejection?
Do you believe that rejection could be a good thing? That it isn't even about you in most cases?

Do you believe there's a reversal of roles between today's men & women? Has it improved relations between the sexes?

What was Grandmom & the elders really talking about when they said to little girls, "Don't be fast." "Don't be all up in these little boys faces." "Girls should be seen and not heard." Were they helping or hindering?

If a woman approached/pursued you, will she always have to be the one who initiates everything thereafter? You didn't have to put in any work initially so where will the incentive come from now? If you didn't have to earn it will you appreciate it?

Do you believe that it's a man's job to pursue and a woman's job to make her interest known or not (of course in a respectful manner)?

What about that biblical quote - 'He who findeth'

I am kin to/friends with/colleagues to various men - they all say they don't like women pushing up on them. Some said they ran away...after screwing first...
Could they all be wrong?

So were you asking me directly all that or was it rhetorical?
(Yes i read it)
 

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Threads like this make me lol -

OP -
LADIES, what do you think, feel, etc about XYZ?

BUNCH OF COLI DUDES - REPLYING...incorrectly in lots of instances.

Questions for anyone -

Do you believe in masculine & feminine energy? That women pursuing/approaching men (taking on masculine energy) would upset that balance between the Male & Female?

Many, many men think (ego) that being open & warm automatically means p-ssy on a platter (a male poster outright said so ITT). So, if women started approaching men what should she do to guide his interest to the mind/heart/soul that is attached to the vagina?

If men are natural born hunters/pursuers AND are afraid of rejection. Why are those very same men mocking women about being afraid of rejection?
Do you believe that rejection could be a good thing? That it isn't even about you in most cases?

Do you believe there's a reversal of roles between today's men & women? Has it improved relations between the sexes?

What was Grandmom & the elders really talking about when they said to little girls, "Don't be fast." "Don't be all up in these little boys faces." "Girls should be seen and not heard." Were they helping or hindering?

If a woman approached/pursued you, will she always have to be the one who initiates everything thereafter? You didn't have to put in any work initially so where will the incentive come from now? If you didn't have to earn it will you appreciate it?

Do you believe that it's a man's job to pursue and a woman's job to make her interest known or not (of course in a respectful manner)?

What about that biblical quote - 'He who findeth'

I am kin to/friends with/colleagues to various men - they all say they don't like women pushing up on them. Some said they ran away...after screwing first...
Could they all be wrong?
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I don't believe women need to approach..most of the women I've had sex/relationships with I've made the first move.

But women who do put themselves out there are in no way desperate or lacking self esteem.

But I recognize women are passive in nature it is what it is.

But some women be making themselves look like fools doing all this creepy shyt trying to get a mans attention but don't wanna approach :pachaha:

I've had women talk loud as shyt on fake phonecalls, purposely bump into the back of you in the check out line.
 

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:russell:

I don't believe women need to approach..most of the women I've had sex/relationships with I've made the first move.

But women who do put themselves out there are in no way desperate or lacking self esteem.

But I recognize women are passive in nature it is what it is.

But some women be making themselves look like fools doing all this creepy shyt trying to get a mans attention but don't wanna approach :pachaha:

I've had women talk loud as shyt on fake phonecalls, purposely bump into the back of you in the check out line.

How you figured she was on a fake call?

And was it a bump-bump or a My Stuff Accidentally Hit Your Elbow bump?
 

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Did you do the ol' Stand in His Way or Ask Him a Dumb Question?

No. With one of them. We’d seen each other twice. Met him at six flags. The first time I saw him, we was just staring at each other. He was exactly my type. But my friends pulled me away trying cockblock. Saw him again later. We were staring at each other again. He was walking pass turned around to give me one more look, and I wasn’t about to let him get away, I smiled at him and waved at him to come over. He came back and got my number.

I’ve told this story on here before. But Another breh worked in the same building as me. He looked good. I always saw him checking me out on the low but he would always look away when I would look back. He was shy. My friends were like, “he looks like one of those bm that likes white girls, I don’t think he likes bw”. He did seem like he could have been the type to date white girls. But I was like “I don’t care, I bet you I can pull em” and I sent him an IM that very afternoon. I don’t even remember what I said. But he responded back, was flirting and everything and the rest was history. And he was one of those brehs that only dated white girls. But he dated me.


If I want a guy bad enough and he doesn’t come talk to me I don’t have a problem making my interest known. I don’t worry about rejection, I’m cute lol. Plus I learned to just go after brehs I want from growing up around white gurls. Funny thing is, it doesn’t happen often. I have to really be interested—the guy has to be my exact type, or there has to be something I see in him... but I know what I want and once I decide I want someone I will be very obvious. otherwise I won’t care enough to be bothered to approach. And on average I prefer men to approach.:yeshrug:
 
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No. With one of them. We’d seen each other twice. Met him at six flags. The first time I saw him, we was just staring at each other. He was exactly my type. But my friends pulled me away trying cockblock. Saw him again later. We were staring at each other again. He was walking pass turned around to give me one more look, and I wasn’t about to let him get away, I smiled at him and waved at him to come over. He came back and got my number.

I’ve told this story on here before. But Another breh worked in the same building as me. He looked good. I always saw him checking me out on the low but he would always look away when I would look back. He was shy. My friends were like, “he looks like one of those bm that likes white girls, I don’t think he likes bw”. He did seem like he could have been the type to date white girls. But I was like “I don’t care, I bet you I can pull em” and I sent him an IM that very afternoon. I don’t even remember what I said. But he responded back, was flirting and everything and the rest was history. And he was one of those brehs that only dated white girls. But he dated me.


If I want a guy bad enough and he doesn’t come talk to me I don’t have a problem making my interest known. I don’t worry about rejection, I’m cute lol. Plus I learned to just go after brehs I want from growing up around white gurls. Funny thing is, it doesn’t happen often. I have to really be interested—the guy has to be my exact type, or there has to be something I see in him... but I know what I want and once I decide I want someone I will be very obvious. otherwise I won’t care enough to be bothered to approach. And on average I prefer men to approach.:yeshrug:


Ur stories be cool and intresting at least.

What ur sign.

Leo or pisces those women tend to be aggressive
 
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