What does your girl prefer?
Ladies Ever Consider Submission as a Way to Win?
- Thread starter ™BlackPearl The Empress™
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I'm a nerd. She prefers that. I was just asking because I find that moving with the tide lands you in the shallows.
@Nelomaxwell reminded me that it was time for an update so here we go....
Now too much has changed. I haven't seen Mr. Beautiful since the date in the park but we've been in contact regularly. He keeps trying to hit me up with "can I come see you" lines but it's not happening. Told him that I don't know him, he's acting pressed and he needs to slow his roll (in the nicest most "submissive" yet direct way possible). Conversation ended with a good heart to heart. But he's probably full of it. I'll update with anything happening with that. I doubt it. But I will keep being as pleasant as possible until is fizzles away.
Mr. Four Years is starting to act a little mushy
. I took him out for his birthday. That check was MIGHTY. But it's all good. Calling me and texting me more, wanting to spend more time with me. And for the first time in 4 years asked me about my dating habits. 
He asked me was I "done dating." I said "no" and that was pretty much the end of that conversation. 
It seems to really enjoy the submissiveness. It seems to have taken him from wanting to see me from time to time to literally hitting me up a few times a week and wanting to hang out all the time. Still trying to take me on that trip too.
Haven't met anyone new though. But honestly I've been in the house working hard so I have made no effort to put myself out there.
Mr. Beautiful I really met in passing. I think Imma need at least a few more guys to try this on but things have been slow. Sorry I wish I had more of an update. May try online dating just to rev up the numbers for the experiment but not sure if I really wanna torture myself like that. 
Now too much has changed. I haven't seen Mr. Beautiful since the date in the park but we've been in contact regularly. He keeps trying to hit me up with "can I come see you" lines but it's not happening. Told him that I don't know him, he's acting pressed and he needs to slow his roll (in the nicest most "submissive" yet direct way possible). Conversation ended with a good heart to heart. But he's probably full of it. I'll update with anything happening with that. I doubt it. But I will keep being as pleasant as possible until is fizzles away.
Mr. Four Years is starting to act a little mushy
. I took him out for his birthday. That check was MIGHTY. But it's all good. Calling me and texting me more, wanting to spend more time with me. And for the first time in 4 years asked me about my dating habits. He asked me was I "done dating." I said "no" and that was pretty much the end of that conversation. It seems to really enjoy the submissiveness. It seems to have taken him from wanting to see me from time to time to literally hitting me up a few times a week and wanting to hang out all the time. Still trying to take me on that trip too. Haven't met anyone new though. But honestly I've been in the house working hard so I have made no effort to put myself out there.
Mr. Beautiful I really met in passing. I think Imma need at least a few more guys to try this on but things have been slow. Sorry I wish I had more of an update. May try online dating just to rev up the numbers for the experiment but not sure if I really wanna torture myself like that.
Yeah online dating is for weird folk like me.@Nelomaxwell reminded me that it was time for an update so here we go....
Now too much has changed. I haven't seen Mr. Beautiful since the date in the park but we've been in contact regularly. He keeps trying to hit me up with "can I come see you" lines but it's not happening. Told him that I don't know him, he's acting pressed and he needs to slow his roll (in the nicest most "submissive" yet direct way possible). Conversation ended with a good heart to heart. But he's probably full of it. I'll update with anything happening with that. I doubt it. But I will keep being as pleasant as possible until is fizzles away.
Mr. Four Years is starting to act a little mushy
Haven't met anyone new though. But honestly I've been in the house working hard so I have made no effort to put myself out there.
Her list for submission is kinda odd for people who aren't a$$holes, though.
The thing about being happy and smiling more, I kinda get because women are told to smile a lot but most societal norms dictate that that's how normal people act in public.
And I'm in the camp that most people are a$$holes but can't really wrap my head around it.
Only read the first and second page but that first interaction she described could've been solved without being argumentative in an a$$hole way. Homeboy could've asked her if she actually wanted help.
All this shyt just seems manipulative in a way. Maybe because I'm seeing that she's not that passive of a person.
Ya girl got an update 
Mr. Beautiful is gone. Haven't talked to him in like 2 or 3 weeks. I can't remember. But who cares about him...
Mr. '4 years a date' texts daily and wants to hang out all the time.
I have to slow his roll though and limit him to once a week. He still foots the majority of the bill happily but I do make sure I pick up a round or buy some ice cream or something. I have to damn near run and do it b/c he will do it first. He's quick with it. I swear that makes him like me even more.
Okay funny story. So we go out with a group of his friends; a married couple and her friend. Them mother fukkers are boring as sin. The wife keeps talking about how much of a slush she is 
and the husband keeps talking about how much of bore he is and the friend doesn't even say shyt the whole time. 
Anyway I'm doing my thang, making sure my date is served first and getting the waitress whenever he needs anything. At one point she takes some rolls we have and puts them on another table to be cleared out and I get up and get them and have them boxed for him. Ya boy is out her looking like da god with this fine young happy goddess serving him. 
The husband is like 
. The wife is like 
. Of course, here comes the shade. First they tried to go in on me about how "fast" I ate my soup. My reaction, "Well you don't end up looking like this not eating." Shut that down! Both the wife and friend are built like cereal boxes btw
. Then she tries to question me about my job. I took a second to answer b/c I honestly don't like telling people what I do b/c most people really don't "get it" and unless I'm in the mood I really don't feel like explaining how my online business works. So b/c I pause the wife starting trying me with "Oh you don't know? You don't know? How do you not know?" My reaction "Oh I know. I just don't want to confuse you." 
Obviously she didn't like that and now she wants my business card. bytch use to work for the IRS. She has to be out her fukking mind if she thinks I give her shady fat ass any personal information about. She gets denied on that one. Pretty sure she can't stand my ass at this point. Story of my life. That's pretty much the end of that.
There is another dude who's been in the picture too. Won't give out too much information on this one b/c he's the prototype and prime candidate. Let just says my new attitude adjustment is going very far with this one.
Mr. Beautiful is gone. Haven't talked to him in like 2 or 3 weeks. I can't remember. But who cares about him...Mr. '4 years a date' texts daily and wants to hang out all the time.
I have to slow his roll though and limit him to once a week. He still foots the majority of the bill happily but I do make sure I pick up a round or buy some ice cream or something. I have to damn near run and do it b/c he will do it first. He's quick with it. I swear that makes him like me even more. Okay funny story. So we go out with a group of his friends; a married couple and her friend. Them mother fukkers are boring as sin
. The wife keeps talking about how much of a slush she is and the husband keeps talking about how much of bore he is and the friend doesn't even say shyt the whole time. Anyway I'm doing my thang, making sure my date is served first and getting the waitress whenever he needs anything. At one point she takes some rolls we have and puts them on another table to be cleared out and I get up and get them and have them boxed for him. Ya boy is out her looking like da god with this fine young happy goddess serving him. The husband is like . The wife is like . Of course, here comes the shade. First they tried to go in on me about how "fast" I ate my soup. My reaction, "Well you don't end up looking like this not eating." Shut that down! Both the wife and friend are built like cereal boxes btw. Then she tries to question me about my job. I took a second to answer b/c I honestly don't like telling people what I do b/c most people really don't "get it" and unless I'm in the mood I really don't feel like explaining how my online business works. So b/c I pause the wife starting trying me with "Oh you don't know? You don't know? How do you not know?" My reaction "Oh I know. I just don't want to confuse you." Obviously she didn't like that and now she wants my business card. bytch use to work for the IRS. She has to be out her fukking mind if she thinks I give her shady fat ass any personal information about. She gets denied on that one. Pretty sure she can't stand my ass at this point. Story of my life. That's pretty much the end of that. There is another dude who's been in the picture too. Won't give out too much information on this one b/c he's the prototype and prime candidate. Let just says my new attitude adjustment is going very far with this one.
I'm a winner hun. I do what I gotta do to get the best out of what I am doing. If me changing my attitude is going to make my interactions/ relationships better than Imma do that. I'm still the same me but I'm learning to be more chill/ cooperative/helpful with it. I don't really see why anyone would have a problem with that but most people aren't like me. I'm always trying to get/be better. That's what I'm here to do. Most folks too busy trying to make excuses for why they can't be better. That ain't me. If you think it's manipulative than so be it but you gotta start somewhere.
Nah, you're misunderstanding me. It's just what you described is how most people act in public. You just presented yourself as a difficult person.
And you presented it as doing this to get your way. To win. Not to just become less argumentative or to just chill or even become a better person. That's why it came off as manipulative because you didn't describe it in the way you just did.
It is what it is but just in the way you responded to me with all that extra is more of the person from the OP.
Where did I ever say I was changing my personality? I have no intention of changing who I am. I love the hell out of me. Just doing some fine tuning and making what's good great. Yeah dig? 
As far as the rest...see siggie.
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colicolicoli
Droid Gang
I been looking for this thread all morning.
I had an epiphany Sunday that I'm kinda difficult and mean to my BF for no reason..
Gonna try this out ...
I had an epiphany Sunday that I'm kinda difficult and mean to my BF for no reason..
Gonna try this out ...
Is the first guy you're like that to?
colicolicoli
Droid Gang
No. I've always had an attitude problem but I think my last relationship made me "mean."
I wouldn't say I'm not "submissive" I already cook/clean...I'm just resistant to his ideas and argumentative.
Hmm. Worth looking into.