Ladies, How Would You React If You Found Out

[freetroit]

How many of y'all are telling these people that you are seeing, talking to, dating and possibly having sex with other people? How soon do you give out this information?

I'm assuming most of y'all ain't saying squat for fear of running all your options away by being truthful even if they were doing it themselves. I feel as if even if you yourself were dating multiple men, and if one of the men told you he's also doing so it would bring him down about 2-3 notches. And unless you really like him and y'all are really vibing, you would probably charge him to the game/throw him to the bushes. This also goes for men, but I think he wouldn't charge her to the game as there's still the possibility he could have sex with the woman.

Exactly

 

[Rawtid]

It is definitely an individual thing... I have a one track mind and don't feel like I could truly get to know/date someone if my attention is not fully focused.

And I want all of someone else's attention (the stingy part).
If person A is twiddling their thumbs even after you expressed you are dating for a purpose then that means that person A is not interested for that same purpose. A should be done.

Now that you have clarity with A's p*ssy footed self, you can close that chapter. There is no B for me. It's now a new A.

But that is me... Everyone is different

YESS!!! "A new A". That's exactly how I feel.

 

[Rawtid]

That's my worry about these situations. For the most part, we talking bout dudes who don't want to be tied down and women not wanting their time wasted. But the reverse shyt happens too now. Gonna be pretty fukking livid if a month or two into the relationship, she tell me she was never planning on getting serious. And considering one of my first questions would be if she casually dates or not, means she lied to me to even get this far in the first place.

RIGHT!!! Play with your mother, not me. Don't waste my time, I could be chilling instead of taking time dating you and you playing!!

 

[shutterguy]

Don't mind me as I roll in this recliner and tray of snacks

scootch over

No double dipping on the chips and salsa fam

 

[Seea]

The dude you were seeing and dating is also talking to and dating other women? What if he hasn't had sex with any of the women including you yet, would that change the dynamic?

I'd stop seeing/dating him. I shouldn't need to "find out"; from jump it should be stated I'm not the only one so I can decide if I'll stick around or not. Doesn't matter if no sex has taken place between anyone.

How many of you communicate, date, or have sexual relations with multiple dudes at once?

Communicate, yes. Date or have sexual relations with, no.

What would you do if you confront him about it and he says he needs to exercise his options in case you or any of the other women he's seeing start acting funny, flaking on dates, playing games, etc?

I'd just and tell him "Ohhhhh...I see." Then stop seeing/dating him.

Because if you're doing all that you're not interested in getting to know anybody, not me or the other women either. That's a game in and of itself.

 

[SheWantTheD]

YESS!!! "A new A". That's exactly how I feel.

Just a prettier way of saying Plan B. "A new A" LOL

 

[SheWantTheD]

I'd stop seeing/dating him. I shouldn't need to "find out"; from jump it should be stated I'm not the only one so I can decide if I'll stick around or not. Doesn't matter if no sex has taken place between anyone.




Communicate, yes. Date or have sexual relations with, no.




I'd just and tell him "Ohhhhh...I see." Then stop seeing/dating him.

Because if you're doing all that you're not interested in getting to know anybody, not me or the other women either. That's a game in and of itself.

Is it really though? What if you all of a sudden lose interest and after putting in weeks if not months of work in to getting to know you and whatever else.. you just dip on dude?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Yo, Coli chicks are starting to sound just as as Coli dudes

None believe in abortion

None ever been smashed and dashed on the one night tip

And none have sex until dude has fully committed to them in an exclusive relationship

Peace

But... What if you really are like that...?
Where I'm from abortion/oow babies period is a foreign concept. I wouldn't even know what to do.
I don't like fukking random strangers and so I zdon't do casual sex b/c it doesn't benefit me. There are a lot of women out there who are similar to me and the other ladies in this thread but not if u only thinking about the internet

 

[Ohene]

lol OP!!! @SheWantTheD
I have communicated this shyt to other women..including a recent interest

they will never understand why we do this shyt....they will never

 

[SheWantTheD]

Dating is really a game Personally, I believe that the vast majority of women won't tell you they are exercising other options and they probably think you are doing the same but they just don't want to know/hear it come out of your mouth. Because if the dude says it from the get go how many women will throw him in the bushes unless he's of high social status, wealth, looks, personality etc?

I'm gonna try both. I'm gonna tell the women I'm going to holla at this summer that I'm seeing other people and I'm gonna see if they charge me to the game. Gonna do it right from the jump with some then I'm gonna do it later down the road after I built up some repertoire with others.

 

[Seea]

Is it really though? What if you all of a sudden lose interest and after putting in weeks if not months of work in to getting to know you and whatever else.. you just dip on dude?

Yes, it really is.

If I lose interest, there's no need to dip; just gotta dial it down to friends or acquaintances if he's open to that.

 

[SheWantTheD]

lol OP!!! @SheWantTheD
I have communicated this shyt to other women..including a recent interest

they will never understand why we do this shyt....they will never

I only really see two main options for why men do it.

1) As a backup in case one or multiple women they are dating, talking to, seeing, sexing etc loses interest, stops cooperating, playing games, flaking etc.

2) Keep a roster of woman that they are having sex with. These women know it but the dude never claimed them nor did they have a conversation of how's messing with other women.

Then there's the subcategories where you'll act more simpish and look over disrespectful shyt a woman does when she's the only one you are talking to. With options you are less willing to take bs and may very well charge a chick to the game if she acts up even once.

 

[SheWantTheD]

Yes, it really is.

If I lose interest, there's no need to dip; just gotta dial it down to friends or acquaintances if he's open to that.

And does that really work out? Do you actually become friends? If the dude is really feeling you and he ain't seeing anyone else it's gonna be tough for him to just be friends unless maybe he sees your "friendship" as a way to holla at your fine friends.

 

[Deutsche Bank]

The dude you were seeing and dating is also talking to and dating other women? What if you cut the bullshyt and acknowledged he ain't put no rings on your fingers or buns in your oven?

How many of you don't communicate, date, or have sexual relations with multiple dudes at once?

What would you do if you confront him about it and he says "Yeah, I do my thing," and goes back to cleaning his shoes/checking his texts/pushing your head back down again?

 

[Rawtid]

Just a prettier way of saying Plan B. "A new A" LOL

Smh You missed the whole point.