Ladies, why do you expect a $200 dinner for a first date?

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

yea im sure this works for you all the time especially when you''v never met them before and they just willingly come to your place before the date.

don't be so quick to take them to your crib. some are legit crazy and will bother you for years to come. protect your peace king.

 

[Scaaar]

There’s no point having an expensive first date. I remember a specific scenario when a girl went on a dinner date with a guy and then came to my place right after

I can usually tell within 5 to 10 minutes whether she’s worth my time so imagine spending a lot and she sucks.

There’s nothing a dinner will do to improve your chances of success that drinks, coffee or an activity also won’t do - in fact, there’s more room for error

In the future, propose a location rather than ask.

I've been in this position alot. It used to trip me out because I went through the phase where I was chasing and courting women. But when you just start being yourself and staying in your comfort zone you'll start reserving that courting energy for those that are truly worth it. Once brehs get into this zone they'll understand it comes down to how you make them feel. It's chics that just slot themselves into the FWB role and I rarely take them out and they know we're not getting serious at all. they just enjoy the company we do what we do and go on with our lives.

 

[Scaaar]

if i mention it its because its somewhere i want to go and pay for my self so in that sense i am entitled to whatever i want to afford lol. of course i would tell him he doesn't have to pay for me, i don't really be expecting anything from dudes. just do you and i can decide if im down or nah. seems like she did the same thing

but yall should know that there's dudes that are generous so maybe that's the answer to ops question. he may not, maybe there was somebody else on hinge that did and she made an executive decision lol

Yeah it's honestly weird. If you can afford it, take her since you let her suggest if not then don't. He sounds unsure of himself so that's why she took the lead on the restaurant choice. I would suggest he approach with the date idea already thought out. Somewhere that he already goes anyway or something that he'll enjoy regardless of how the date goes.Put the plan on the table and put the onus on her to decide if she wants to accompany you or not. If doesn't you've filtered her out of the process and can still enjoy your day for yourself. Brehs overcomplicate dating in this day and age in my opinion

 

[RedCloakBlackWraithe]

Because them getting ready costs them $100+ they say, the products they use, using their shoes, clothes, time…so they expect you to pay $100+ to “compensate” themselves for how much it costs for them to get ready for you.

The thing is we don’t ask them to be extra or do all that so by us being involved they impose their own standards it’s entrapment. Just move on who cares really.

I matched with this bangin 22 year old on hinge. She asked me “so why are you on hinge?” I said . “Its a dating app…I’m single”

No reply after that. Who knows what goes on in ppls heads really

she was probably a maladjusted escort hoping you would reply "i'm looking for casual hookups" she would have then provided you her hourly rate. you could then counter with an offer of half that for a romp at the snoutie inn.

 

[So-Chi]

I've said this before on here but never been on a date with a woman I hadn't have sex with first, so I can't even comprehend how people spend that amount on a stranger they may never see again... Wild times

 

[BlaccSunrise]

Online dating is mostly for homosexuals

 

[BaileyPark31]

200 for 2 people including drinks really isn't tht bad assuming it's a fancier restaurant.

Shyt I just spent 50+ at a breakfast spot near me for me and my niece without alcohol. I'm in a tourist area though.

Next time make all the initial plans yourself and then go from there.

 

[Mass]

One thing I've learned is never crowd source for info from a bunch of strangers or simps.

They will always, ALWAYS, try to spin it back on you in some way and make you seem like less of a man because you didn't go along with some attractive female's outlandish bullshyt.

And Also:

This.

Women will tell you all of their tricks once they get comfortable, I met this chick at a bar, shyt was pretty chill, didn't smash that night just went home, next time, she had tickets to an NBA game (her friend works in the stadium and passed her the tickets) we went and I smashed that night.

After I had her wrapped around my finger she had no problem telling me there was a whole 1-2 year long period where she was using nikkas from dating app to pay for her meals every night, buy her clothes, video games, subscription passwords, the whole nine, saved her a ton of money.

Meanwhile I didn't have to pay a dime to smash outside of some concession stand shyt at the game

They pick and choose who to run that game with that alone will let you know if she's actually into you or not IMO. She putting zero effort into the situation and just tried to use you @Tommy Lee Jones

THIS. One hundred percent.

FDB and move. Maybe even get a passport.

 

[MicIsGod]

Have you ever been to said restaurant?

If not, I would have taken it as an opportunity for me to try something new even though she seems to be familiar with the spot.

I’m not gonna be mad at someone for their taste especially when you probably asked her what she liked and what her favorite spot was.

Seems juvenile to ask then pretend she was suppose to avoid what she likes just so she can go on a date with you

you’re letting a woman you don’t know tell you where to spend your money on her that you may not see again? Are you in on making this a plat thread?

 

[Rev Leon Lonnie Love]

Part of the game, some women are in it for free food and fancy things to tick off their todo lists and therefore only willing to entertain desperate tricks who will spend whatever for female attention. If you're not one of these men, then consider it a win because no time was wasted on her. Keep it moving until you find one who will match your energy.

 

[85 East]

Bro. Just because she has money to cover a date doesnt tell me anything about a women i’d want to marry. That just means she’s an adult, not a broke kid. There’s plenty of women with money who you wouldnt marry. Again, Gillie is a known corny nikka.

It's not the money. It's the fact she didn't see you as a meal ticket, and wasn't above paying if you forgot your wallet, or even walking out in you. If she's willing to show that kind of loyalty out the gate, she might be someone to build with. It's about intent.

 

[The ADD]

It's not the money. It's the fact she didn't see you as a meal ticket, and wasn't above paying if you forgot your wallet, or even walking out in you. If she's willing to show that kind of loyalty out the gate, she might be someone to build with. It's about intent.

Probably but younger generations don’t seem inclined to build.

GMB reigns supreme with the young fellas

 

[Ezekiel 25:17]

This.

Women will tell you all of their tricks once they get comfortable, I met this chick at a bar, shyt was pretty chill, didn't smash that night just went home, next time, she had tickets to an NBA game (her friend works in the stadium and passed her the tickets) we went and I smashed that night.

After I had her wrapped around my finger she had no problem telling me there was a whole 1-2 year long period where she was using nikkas from dating app to pay for her meals every night, buy her clothes, video games, subscription passwords, the whole nine, saved her a ton of money.

Meanwhile I didn't have to pay a dime to smash outside of some concession stand shyt at the game

They pick and choose who to run that game with that alone will let you know if she's actually into you or not IMO. She putting zero effort into the situation and just tried to use you @Tommy Lee Jones

Why are they that dirty? Women who do that are definitely smash n dash status

 

[T-K-G]

Why are they that dirty? Women who do that are definitely smash n dash status

Just in general people are by default gonna try to exploit shyt until they get forced to stop.

But the elephant in the room is most parents don't even attempt to address that behavior in boys and girls equally.

they've been conditioned to get away with whatever they want by crying, getting emotional, lying.


It's quite literally the same thing we all did as toddlers, but boys get told to fukk off with that shyt early in adolescence we're taught sometimes life is rough but you just gotta power through shyt sometimes and take an L, once you get caught in a lie you're in a permanent doghouse and it takes alot of work to get out of it.

Not to mention other boys with punch us dead in our shyt if we violate too hard you learn how to respect people differently.

No one is checking little girls like that so they just grow up feeling like manipulation is their god given right, it never cuts off, cuz there's no punishment. Adults with zero morals outside of their immediate impulses.

I've known women who blatantly lie to their own THERAPISTS just to get them to say what they wanna hear. shyt's crazy.

 

[The God Poster]

You assumed you’d be paying

Who asked who out?