Alright, so from what I gathered from the video, the key point that some people may be missing is that the woman in the clip was saying that it's not about the kind of attention, it's about the source of attention and your perception of said source. If the chick isn't feeling the dude going all out, the behavior comes off as needy or whatever and thus, unattractive. I get that, cool. I've been down that road before and embarrassed myself. I get it.
That said...
Maybe women don't like to be put on a pedestal.
One, I very much don't believe that and my opinion is that women don't REALLY feel that way. I think women like that, so long as it comes from "the right dude."
Secondly, a fair amount -- if not most/all -- of women who have responded in this thread seem to dislike being put on a pedestal or supposedly forced to live up to "unrealistic" standards or whatever it was that was said.
Yeah, I'm gonna need some clarification on this because this post may very well be rooted in a misunderstanding on my part and thus way off. If not ... well ...
Call it having simp tendencies or being a full-blown simp ... but the way I interpret the quoted statement above -- and the responses to support that claim -- is that some women don't want men to cherish, value and ultimately perceive her as better than, and thus, more important than all these other females that didn't get chosen.
I totally understand being put off with that kind of behavior from the jump ... but if I choose you as the one to cuff, then regardless of your own self-perception then that means YOU ARE MORE IMPORTANT than the rest of these other females. Regardless of whether you choose to be stuck on your flaws and what not, it means YOU ARE BETTER than the rest of these females in MY EYES. If I don't see you as such, then why am I trying to be with you? Why am I entertaining you? I should just be a dog ass nikka or whatever I guess because you don't deserve to be treated better than the rest because you're just human?
To some people, that means you're on a pedestal. This is where I get confused because I thought it was typical relationship behavior to hold your woman or man at a higher standard than the rest of these people out here. Just like I would inherently tolerate more from my girl than I would some random chick because she's my girl, I would inherently have higher standards for her than I would the rest of these women because she's my girl. She is the choice I made. She is a reflection of who I am and how I move at the end of the day.
And if that's a problem, or if you suddenly feel like that I'm holding you to a standard you can't meet because I'm putting you on a pedestal ... well, you've fukked up. No more, no less. All I'm asking is for you to continue to be the person that I think you are. It doesn't mean you can't fall short to a degree, we're human. We're imperfect. Shyt happens. However, don't blame me because the behaviors, qualities and all that you showed convinced me to see you as superior to other women.
There are plenty of women who don't have any of that baggage; why don't these "high market value men" mess with them?
