Let’s be real, going out of your way to talk to younger women is pretty weird.

[King Poetic]

Just as i thought

nikkas flooded this thread about younger women want older dikk...a older man wants a younger woman who doesn't have any miles on it..jus, jus , just look at this celebrity over there..

U would rarely see a 38 year old man(BLACK) with a 21 year old woman(BLACK) together unless they both crackheads....

 

[Fani Willis fan]

If you a older nikka dating young chicks that still live with their parents idc if she legal you just weird.

 

[Reno89]

Talking to a chick over 25 is pointless. Even worse if she is 30 and never married. Literally no one has considered you marriage material for 12 years, and I'm supposed to see something they didn't?

 

[mag357]

Compatibility is the answer here. A lot of older dudes literally fukked up in their 20s and got hella baggage now trying to dump that on a young chick who trying to enjoy her youth.

I tried dating older dudes and to be honest, it was depressing. Couldn't relate to anything, disposition was always jaded, money/resources were exaggerated. A lot of older dudes didn't have funds b/c of getting caught up with baby mamas, divorces or foolishness. More importantly? Basically if they made it to a certain age and they had never been in a solid relationship, there was something majorly wrong with them.

Even worse if they were emotionally broken. Like bitter as fukk. It was always the same ole story. Some toxic bytch they were chasing played them and they now hated everything female. They try to cover up their resentment but they end up wearing it on their sleeves. Most of the time they end up judging you or looking down their noses at you like they are superior just b/c they are older. It got tiring to watch a dude have little vitality, a closed off bitter heart, and a chip on their shoulder talking about what u need to do as a young woman.

All that being said, some older dudes can be real gems, but the percentage of good ones without severe emotional baggage is small. We always talk about women having baggage as they age but nobody ever wants to talk about male baggage.

Regardless I don't think it's weird for older men to want younger women. It's just not what a lot of younger women think it's gonna be in a lot of cases. One of my sister's friends is divorcing her older husband of 6 years now. She said it felt like she was living the life of an 80 year old and he was one of the most negative people she'd ever dealt with once they got married. Super critical of EVERYTHING. shyt gets old. No pun intended.

That part. Well fukk, all the parts. I was in 2 relationships with older men...needless to say, they were bitter about life and would just keep harping on it. They were also controlling as hell and wpuld feel some type of way if i went against anything they wanted.

Now, I don't think all older men are like this obviously lol. But i definitely think theres a myth that older men arent bitter and older women are when in reality, it varies from person to person.

The problem is this... Not all older dudes dnt have kids, baby mothers... havent had bad relationships... and have resources... what do those men do? do they get with some one there own age? women age differently than men because their life experiences take a toll on them more. Even men that have kids, more times than not wasnt a full time parent having to raise them like most women do...
So i can see a childless man, who hasnt lived that kind life jumping in and out of bitter relationships, wanting to be with a younger woman because there energy might be the most compatible thing.
Now the type of person ur dealing with is the biggest issue when ur dealing with a big age disparity... An older dude should look for a young lady with a solid foundation. Her home life, how she chooses to spend her free time, is she a social media head... all that plays apart. if u get 1 thats already in the world crazy... it defeats the purpose. you might as well deal with a women ur age...
And if ur a younger female going for an older man... he already needs to be established. no kids, no games... no lying about what they have and their plans.
Both individuals are going to get what they truely want and probly wouldnt get dealing with someone their own age

 

[BigMan]

a lot of weird hit dogs hollering in this thread

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

The problem is this... Not all older dudes dnt have kids, baby mothers... havent had bad relationships... and have resources... what do those men do? do they get with some one there own age? women age differently than men because their life experiences take a toll on them more. Even men that have kids, more times than not wasnt a full time parent having to raise them like most women do...
So i can see a childless man, who hasnt lived that kind life jumping in and out of bitter relationships, wanting to be with a younger woman because there energy might be the most compatible thing.
Now the type of person ur dealing with is the biggest issue when ur dealing with a big age disparity... An older dude should look for a young lady with a solid foundation. Her home life, how she chooses to spend her free time, is she a social media head... all that plays apart. if u get 1 thats already in the world crazy... it defeats the purpose. you might as well deal with a women ur age...
And if ur a younger female going for an older man... he already needs to be established. no kids, no games... no lying about what they have and their plans.
Both individuals are going to get what they truely want and probly wouldnt get dealing with someone their own age

I agree that not every older dude out there is a curmudgeon
There are a lot of blk men and women who made it to their 30s unscathed but were focused on getting their lives together and didn't devote a lot of time to romantic pursuits.
There are also people who got married and divorced b/c sometimes life doesn't work out like that.
Those types can be really cool but it's harder to find those and many tend to be really set in their ways and become arrogant the older they get and their standards become stricter. The longer they live on their own, the less likely they are going to be amenable to the social factors that it takes to make a relationship work like compromise, reciprocity, communication skills.
One of my guy friends is like this. Everybody always asks us, "why ya'll not together?", "why ya'll not fukking?", "he fine! He made of money!"

Personally for me he is too unreasonable and set in his ways. Bless his heart, he is an egomaniac. Constantly HYPERCRITCAL of anything with a vagina but completely oblivious to his own flaws. Complains daily about everything, is arrogant in an almost innocent way, is quick to tell anybody what they are doing wrong but doesn't have a self-reflective bone in his body. So he attracts them but chicks cant stand him beyond a month tops.

Crazy thing is he makes good money, in shape, should be enjoying life but he's damn near Incel status and constantly butt hurt as to why some of his less good looking friends have settled down and have families. I'm the only one he will listen to but I don't have the patience to deal with 7th grade personalities in grown ass men. But that is sometimes what you get in older dudes too. They can be just as immature but try to cover it up with their age.

The thing is, like the African proverb says, what you don't have now you WONT have in your old age. Developing good social skills is something people do as they grow up. Thinking you will magically improve once you hit a 1/3 of your life is unreasonable. A lot of people just get older...not better.

Meanwhile in our community with all the shyt we face, sometimes it takes 30+ years for us just to get our feet on the ground. Personally I don't find it strange or weird for older dudes to get with young chicks...I think it's natural and shouldn't be any shame attached to it. People just need to be realistic.

 

[seabreeze80]

I have dated much older men and hated it. I'm pretty sure there are decent older men but the ones I dated had serious deep seated issues. Seems they could not connect with women around their own age due to lack of social skills or other personal issues. They were emotionally stunted and very imature. The appeal of older men is that they are supposed to be more mature and secure. In reality many are not. There were so many times that I felt like I were dating children instead of grown men. They also tried to use their age as some type of reason that they were supposed to be smarter and superior to me. These men also lied constantly about their jobs/careers, finances and the baggage they were trying to hide. I started to notice a pattern. Men who seek super young women have a lot of issues. Nothing wrong with dating women 5 years younger but a 35 yr old trying to date an 18-21 yr old is tragic snd suspect. Most of the time they are only looking for sex, to use you and to groom you into their ideal woman.

 

[Shorty K]

what is 35 year old gonna talk about/do with an 18 year old except sex.?

cant even go to bars... they dont have very much life experience... its like talking to a kid. any 18/19/20 year old with some sense would know that someone that much older than them is trying to use them for something.

The same shyt you talk about with a 30 year old woman you can talk to a 20 year old woman about. It's actually easier to have conversation with a 20 year old woman about real shyt than a 30 year old.

 

[Reece]

John McCain just passed away and not a soul on tv said how he left his wife at 43 years old to marry a 25 year old woman. Long as you got bread or are relatively successful, nobody cares about it.

 

[mag357]

I agree that not every older dude out there is a curmudgeon
There are a lot of blk men and women who made it to their 30s unscathed but were focused on getting their lives together and didn't devote a lot of time to romantic pursuits.
There are also people who got married and divorced b/c sometimes life doesn't work out like that.
Those types can be really cool but it's harder to find those and many tend to be really set in their ways and become arrogant the older they get and their standards become stricter. The longer they live on their own, the less likely they are going to be amenable to the social factors that it takes to make a relationship work like compromise, reciprocity, communication skills.
One of my guy friends is like this. Everybody always asks us, "why ya'll not together?", "why ya'll not fukking?", "he fine! He made of money!"

Personally for me he is too unreasonable and set in his ways. Bless his heart, he is an egomaniac. Constantly HYPERCRITCAL of anything with a vagina but completely oblivious to his own flaws. Complains daily about everything, is arrogant in an almost innocent way, is quick to tell anybody what they are doing wrong but doesn't have a self-reflective bone in his body. So he attracts them but chicks cant stand him beyond a month tops.

Crazy thing is he makes good money, in shape, should be enjoying life but he's damn near Incel status and constantly butt hurt as to why some of his less good looking friends have settled down and have families. I'm the only one he will listen to but I don't have the patience to deal with 7th grade personalities in grown ass men. But that is sometimes what you get in older dudes too. They can be just as immature but try to cover it up with their age.

The thing is, like the African proverb says, what you don't have now you WONT have in your old age. Developing good social skills is something people do as they grow up. Thinking you will magically improve once you hit a 1/3 of your life is unreasonable. A lot of people just get older...not better.

Meanwhile in our community with all the shyt we face, sometimes it takes 30+ years for us just to get our feet on the ground. Personally I don't find it strange or weird for older dudes to get with young chicks...I think it's natural and shouldn't be any shame attached to it. People just need to be realistic.

Its funny... like really funny... that u probly just described me... lol.
But all those things are characteristics of a man that can be made to seem negative, but are qualities of a leader... i bet a team mate of MJ or Kobe would use alot of those same terms to describe them...however those attributes got them muthafukaz a bunch of rings... Real men, true leaders are hard to deal with, thats why they're arent many left... women/society have turned their qualities into negatives
yes i can see men getting much more strict in their views because u start knowing exactly what ur looking for, and wont put up with any less...
Older women have to open up alil more and start settling a bit because their stock goes down... its just real.
A man just has to keep making money to be able to have what he wants, whether it be a certain type of house, car or woman.
The difference between ur friend and I is i dnt complain about ppl having gf/wives and not me,...honestly i feel bad for most of them cause i know deep in their hearts they would luv to trade in their old model for a new model... or a couple new models...
I know they look at my life and see a person in his 30s with not a care in the world, except for the things that i do to better myself, which makes me happy.
Ive dealt with old heads all my life. i like them, they're cool. Their sexiness comes more from their style and confidence.
Now I deal with a couple 18 - 23yr olds... and their energy is what im attracted to... not hyper energy...just not damaged, true happiness... obviously alot of shyt thats regular to a grown person with money, is gonna be brand new to them... i like that.
one thing i think is important is being able to share 1st experiences with somebody.
U dealing with females our age, theyve already experienced child birth, heartbreak numerous times, been in a couple different long term relationships, had alll types of sex lol...
Ur getting someone who is the culmination of a bunch of 1st experiences with other people... As a man, i think thats something a man like myself should stay away from

 

[Lady.Libra.]

The replies in here are so interesting...

BUMP

 

[Kilgore Trout]

The chance of your kid having downs syndrome goes up 50% if the woman is over 30.

Say you meet a girl that you think is wifey material, you probably gonna be with her at least 3 years before you’re ready to have a kid. So getting with a chick under 25 is simply playing it safe.


By the way the OP sounds like the penis police. That’s weird as fukk to concerned where other men stick their dikks.

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

OP is right to an extent. Alot of older nikkas like younger bytches because they're not as "bitter" and they're easier to control. I'm in my early/mid 20's and I barely like being around 18 year olds. They not bout shyt. If you just tryna fukk that's whatever I guess but still weird because most them bytches can't fukk and I thought y'all old nikkas didn't like teaching bytches?

Can’t teach grip

 

[Devil Plisken…CMS]

With black women the difference is negligible at best. Ain't nobody noticing the difference between 21 year old Bria Myles and 33 year old Bria Myles. Same with Beyonce, Meagan Good, Sanaa Lathan, etc.

Some chicks T&A don't even max out by 21. I've seen women grow a butt in their late 20's/early 30's.

You talkin max out...slim trim & perky ain’t a 30s thing tho

 

[Larry Lambo]

You talkin max out...slim trim & perky ain’t a 30s thing tho

I feel like most brehs would trade a little saggage for extra posterior meat, regardless of their age. Perky is cool, but cheeks are the trump card.

To each his own tho.