Let’s be real, going out of your way to talk to younger women is pretty weird.

[tgu]

With black women the difference is negligible at best. Ain't nobody noticing the difference between 21 year old Bria Myles and 33 year old Bria Myles. Same with Beyonce, Meagan Good, Sanaa Lathan, etc.

Some chicks T&A don't even max out by 21. I've seen women grow a butt in their late 20's/early 30's.

So you would take Beyoncé now over when she was in her early 20s? Only talking about looks, not money

 

[International Playa]

At 29, my gf was 20 years old, some of the best sexual experience I had in my life,pusssy stayed wet & tight,she wanted to fukk 24/7 & begged to be fukked in every hole she was mad immature tho.

Few weekends ago in the club, had an 18 year old chick twerk on my dikk, kiss me in the club, my homeboy cockblocked me & said she too young for me, I'm 31

 

[Balla]

All the women in here talking shyt. I wonder how your dating lives are going to be if you have no partner when you're older. You not gonna fukk with a younger dude because of his age? Highly doubt it. I bet yall would want to, even tho yall talk down on men who would date younger women. Yall gonna be on the same ship yall talk about older men being in.

All yall fail to realize is that men date younger women because women tend to have kids n shyt in their mid 20s. Older men have no choice, some men can't afford to have families when they're young, so they get they bread up and settle down with a younger chick.

You want that nikka to have all his shyt together to be able to settle down by the age you claim a man should ? I think everyone would like to have they shyt together in perfect order.

 

[Balla]

That's a wonderful way for someone to quit self improvement and live a miserable life.

I agree that not every older dude out there is a curmudgeon
There are a lot of blk men and women who made it to their 30s unscathed but were focused on getting their lives together and didn't devote a lot of time to romantic pursuits.
There are also people who got married and divorced b/c sometimes life doesn't work out like that.
Those types can be really cool but it's harder to find those and many tend to be really set in their ways and become arrogant the older they get and their standards become stricter. The longer they live on their own, the less likely they are going to be amenable to the social factors that it takes to make a relationship work like compromise, reciprocity, communication skills.
One of my guy friends is like this. Everybody always asks us, "why ya'll not together?", "why ya'll not fukking?", "he fine! He made of money!"

Personally for me he is too unreasonable and set in his ways. Bless his heart, he is an egomaniac. Constantly HYPERCRITCAL of anything with a vagina but completely oblivious to his own flaws. Complains daily about everything, is arrogant in an almost innocent way, is quick to tell anybody what they are doing wrong but doesn't have a self-reflective bone in his body. So he attracts them but chicks cant stand him beyond a month tops.

Crazy thing is he makes good money, in shape, should be enjoying life but he's damn near Incel status and constantly butt hurt as to why some of his less good looking friends have settled down and have families. I'm the only one he will listen to but I don't have the patience to deal with 7th grade personalities in grown ass men. But that is sometimes what you get in older dudes too. They can be just as immature but try to cover it up with their age.

The thing is, like the African proverb says, what you don't have now you WONT have in your old age. Developing good social skills is something people do as they grow up. Thinking you will magically improve once you hit a 1/3 of your life is unreasonable. A lot of people just get older...not better.

Meanwhile in our community with all the shyt we face, sometimes it takes 30+ years for us just to get our feet on the ground. Personally I don't find it strange or weird for older dudes to get with young chicks...I think it's natural and shouldn't be any shame attached to it. People just need to be realistic.

 

[Larry Lambo]

So you would take Beyoncé now over when she was in her early 20s? Only talking about looks, not money

Is she uglier now? Are the t*ts smaller? Is the ass flatter? Are there significant wrinkles on her face?

Of course she looks different but is it materially different?

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

Its funny... like really funny... that u probly just described me... lol.
But all those things are characteristics of a man that can be made to seem negative, but are qualities of a leader... i bet a team mate of MJ or Kobe would use alot of those same terms to describe them...however those attributes got them muthafukaz a bunch of rings... Real men, true leaders are hard to deal with, thats why they're arent many left... women/society have turned their qualities into negatives
yes i can see men getting much more strict in their views because u start knowing exactly what ur looking for, and wont put up with any less...
Older women have to open up alil more and start settling a bit because their stock goes down... its just real.
A man just has to keep making money to be able to have what he wants, whether it be a certain type of house, car or woman.
The difference between ur friend and I is i dnt complain about ppl having gf/wives and not me,...honestly i feel bad for most of them cause i know deep in their hearts they would luv to trade in their old model for a new model... or a couple new models...
I know they look at my life and see a person in his 30s with not a care in the world, except for the things that i do to better myself, which makes me happy.
Ive dealt with old heads all my life. i like them, they're cool. Their sexiness comes more from their style and confidence.
Now I deal with a couple 18 - 23yr olds... and their energy is what im attracted to... not hyper energy...just not damaged, true happiness... obviously alot of shyt thats regular to a grown person with money, is gonna be brand new to them... i like that.
one thing i think is important is being able to share 1st experiences with somebody.
U dealing with females our age, theyve already experienced child birth, heartbreak numerous times, been in a couple different long term relationships, had alll types of sex lol...
Ur getting someone who is the culmination of a bunch of 1st experiences with other people... As a man, i think thats something a man like myself should stay away from

Maaaan you said a mouthful. I so agree about 1st experiences. I tried dating a man with kids and it's just not as organic. It doesn't feel special...that sense of mutual discovery is missing...

Anyways, there is one major difference between you and him that I already see...
It's self-reflection. I actually agree with all of what you said. But whereas you see urself clearly and thus are able to move in a way that will help you to be able to continue to grow, he lacks that ability. And a lot of people do, ESPECIALLY when it comes to relationships.

If you can't take honest inventory of your faults b/c ur so busy trying to boss up on somebody to prove something, how can you grow?
What you said about those being leadership qualities really resonated with me b/c I do see those qualities in him but dude is lonely b/c he can't see the other side of leadership which is humility.

Every king is the servant of his subjects and if people don't see fit to follow you b/c you inspire resentment instead of respect, then without those followers you're not a leader...u just taking a walk by urself.
And there's nothing wrong with that if that's what he wanted, but it's not. As I said before, not every person that is older and single falls in that category, but many do and it's sad to see people yearning for something they could have and standing in the way of themselves.

 

[⠝⠕⠏⠑]

That's a wonderful way for someone to quit self improvement and live a miserable life.

lol I can see how it could be interpreted as really negative. I didn't mean it that way. I mentioned it to encourage people to work on these things as they grow instead of being unrealistic. It's never too late and I don't believe in rushing people b/c life happens at its own pace---

but a major caveat to this is reality. If you spent over a 1/3 of your life unable to maintain a healthy romantic connection, getting older isn't going to make the core of whatever is going on with you any better. Sometimes I feel like we can do everything else in life except face ourselves. We put that shyt off until we damn near in the grave. And I wonder why. Most people really aren't even all that bad.

 

[Balla]

Glad you cleared it up, very mature response. I know you gonna get cuffed up quick, unless you aren't already.

lol I can see how it could be interpreted as really negative. I didn't mean it that way. I mentioned it to encourage people to work on these things as they grow instead of being unrealistic. It's never too late and I don't believe in rushing people b/c life happens at its own pace---

but a major caveat to this is reality. If you spent over a 1/3 of your life unable to maintain a healthy romantic connection, getting older isn't going to make the core of whatever is going on with you any better. Sometimes I feel like we can do everything else in life except face ourselves. We put that shyt off until we damn near in the grave. And I wonder why. Most people really aren't even all that bad.

 

[Cladyclad]

I’m 35 and just fukked a 24 year old Sunday and is plotting on a 19 year old

 

[International Playa]

what is 35 year old gonna talk about/do with an 18 year old except sex.?

So many things, the latest movie, cars, vacations, Trump, sports, her family & friend relationships, her up bringing, favourite food/drink, latest celebrity scandal, reality tv show, POWER etc


Nikkaz got no mouthpiece, I dated a 20 year old when I was 29, never ran out of shyt to talk about. Only annoying thing was hearing her childish beef with her friends

 

[mag357]

21 in the whip right now... talkin my head of about the criminal justice degree shes going for...
Right now im like "yup, yup..."
Im about to be lol

 

[Ezus Jezus]

I'm 33 now. 21 - 25 is ideal for me.

I’m 35 now and I get the most attention from 22-25 women. I don’t know what it is but they love me.

 

[Kinguno]

On one hand I get you but on the other hand What do you think inspired the song P.Y.T by

Young noni the legend

 

[LunaticVillage415]

I'm 35. I don't know how it happened. I just kept waking every morning. shyt is crazy.

But a huge percentage of people think I'm 23. But I'm still young just not spring chicken young, ya dig. If I was a cac, it'd be a different story because cacs age in dog years and I'd be old as fukk if I was white.

I agree with KRS One on this one "girls look so good but their brain is not ready, I don't know, I'd rather talk to a woman because her mind is so steady, so here we go!". 18-24 year old women be looking good. But they want to do young ass shyt like get drunk every night, go to the bar/club every night, smoke weed constantly, listen to the same tired dumb ass songs off the radio 24/7, spend their whole paycheck on clothes, be fiscally irresponsible as hell, not know how to cook, play mind games etc. Some brehs never mature out of that party all the time lifestyle and like that shyt, not me. I don't got time for that shyt nowadays. This is why 25 and up works better for me.

 

[mag357]

Maaaan you said a mouthful. I so agree about 1st experiences. I tried dating a man with kids and it's just not as organic. It doesn't feel special...that sense of mutual discovery is missing...

Anyways, there is one major difference between you and him that I already see...
It's self-reflection. I actually agree with all of what you said. But whereas you see urself clearly and thus are able to move in a way that will help you to be able to continue to grow, he lacks that ability. And a lot of people do, ESPECIALLY when it comes to relationships.

If you can't take honest inventory of your faults b/c ur so busy trying to boss up on somebody to prove something, how can you grow?
What you said about those being leadership qualities really resonated with me b/c I do see those qualities in him but dude is lonely b/c he can't see the other side of leadership which is humility.

Every king is the servant of his subjects and if people don't see fit to follow you b/c you inspire resentment instead of respect, then without those followers you're not a leader...u just taking a walk by urself.
And there's nothing wrong with that if that's what he wanted, but it's not. As I said before, not every person that is older and single falls in that category, but many do and it's sad to see people yearning for something they could have and standing in the way of themselves.

Wow, where do i even start with the bolded... So very true... ive been busy all day, but was meaning to get to ur quote.
Ok, so to the bolded lines... The thing i had to learn is u cant be a leader to everyone. Youll have a kingdom, and 90% of the ppl will follow, 10% will want to revolt. Ive learned that... theres a few women Ive dealt with that will tell u I am a tyrant, I can't see my own flaws, I always think im right... but then you have the other majority that got all kindza great things to say about me (i dnt wanna type them out, itll seem like humble-bragging lol)
So the most important thing i realized is I cant be a leader to a person, who wants to be a leader themselves... because a real leader will squash a wanna be leader just with energy alone... and the wanna be leader will feel resentment... and when it comes to women, thats the last thing u want around u. I women who resents you deeply because she feels ur overbearing...is a ticking time bomb.
So I deal with those who i can see want to be lead, or they are leaders but are willing to condede to my leadership. Because i dnt wanna fight over leadership, that is a losing battle.
But the resentment that comes up, is not the Kings fault. the King is just the King, doing King shyt... It comes from the subjects and what's in there hearts... the King would not be a King if he didnt have a vision for his kingdom... the servants who have there own vision, can resent the King, while creating there own Kingdom. No one loses...
(thanx for the convo, uve got alot of good points)