Let's have the discussion about how we raise/ interact with our kids

[Dog Based Gremlin]

Good thread

 

[Be Strong Blackman]

Yeah I've seen it all. I've taught kids for 7 years. For parents on this site, consider these tips:

-Don't be overprotective, allow kids to fail or struggle as long as it isn't deadly. It helps to develop their confidence. Don't always intervene in their arguments, let them work it out if possible. The cost of overprotecting is that the child does not develop the skills to fight back, speak up, or get out of the way.

-Talk to kids first before disciplining them. Ask them if they think their behavior is ok. Depending on the age of the child, they may not actually know their behavior is troublesome. Some are just curious like others have stated. For example, drawing on the wall. sometimes they do know they shouldn't draw or write on the wall.

-Give kids a choice. We feel more empowered when given options.

-Set expectations for kids. I see with African American parents from the hood...parents don't usually have high expectations for their kids and therefore, kids don't often reach high. Caribbean and Nigerians parents often have high(er) standards and expectations for their kids.

-Tell your kids what you expect from them, "I want you to go to school and ace your test. I know you can do it." Kids want to please their parents and make their parents happy.

Explain what you want to happen. Discipline should have levels. Don't just beat them over the head. You can start with a warning. If they didn't follow directions, move on to the next set of consequences. Less TV time, no iPad time, etc.

Let your children see you continuing to learn throughout your adult years. It will reinforce the importance of education in their mind and will allow you to share with them the educational experience.

Praise great effort!!

Remain firm in what you say. Don't let things slide. kids will try to manipulate you. Stick to your guns. if it's a rule, uphold the rule/standard

damn on poiint

 

[Wildhundreds]

damn on poiint

Anyone that doesn't agree 10000% with those points are apart of the problem with children and dont need to have them.

 

[Wildhundreds]

We should also be mindful with how we interact with our spouses/partners or former partners...whether you're cool with them or not. Always try to conduct yourself in a mature, respectful manner when kids are around. They don't need to witness the hate that the two adults might have for each other. That affected me for a long time. If yall need to have a discussion with your partners, do it in private.

Another 10000% correct point. Kids are extremely smart and are sponges. Parents shouldn't talk bad about the other parent in front of their kids. If a parent thinks that its ok, they need not to have any children.

 

[I AM WE ARE]

I've learned so much about my kids this summer, I'm on my first college tour with baby girl, my son is interested in being a mechanic or computer it because of how he learns my younger sons are artists and playing AAU basketball. I love picking their brains. I've had to play nice with my ex wife and her husband so not to lose them because their moms play mind games