Let's Talk About Ya Daddy...How Did Your MaMa do?

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I’ve never seen two people love each other as completely as my parents did. Both grew up dirt poor, both had alcoholic fathers, my dad’s refused to deal with his kids at all. Both met in college and stayed together, uncompromisingly, until my pops died. My dad’s stuff is still wherever he left it, even his hammer is still under their back porch. I haven’t touched his tools (and even some of mine he borrowed) that he left in my basement.

They traveled together, laughed together, fought together, and couldn’t see themselves with anyone else. Nobody loved or knew my pops more than my mom. Nobody knew or loved my mom more than my pop’s. They adored each other, as much as they got on each other’s nerves.

They chose each other. And were the closest of friends.

They poured everything they could into their children. We all do our best to put what they taught us into our own children.
 

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I don't think my moms had much of a choice. She was a 20 something, inexperienced, school nerd that got lovebombed by her store manager. My pops is shorter than my mom. Me and her are 5'6, he's 5'5 on a good day.....but was handsome and his mouth game is impeccable. Breh moved to Jersey from down south at 18, no money, and immediately started knocking down older women....living off their wealth. My shorter older brother managed to pull that same shyt off and married a ceo of a health company.

My pops being such a disappointment to my moms inspired her to do better after she had me. nikka told my mom he was married and his wife was also pregnant at the same time. Ten years later and my mom is making 6 figures just to spite my father, who was still failing to pay child support.

So I'd say my mom chose "wrong" but her choice forced her out of her shell. Everyone tells me how she was quiet wallflower until she gave birth to me. Now everyone thinks she a boss bytch (she not, just really good dealing with men)
 

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I would say overall my dad was a hit to 3rd base. For me he was a weekend dad but for my other siblings he basically has no relationship.

Genetically, though he's a winner. All of his children are college educated and doing well financially. None of us are BMs or BDs. He's very ambitious and doing better than most people.

He's gonna leave me a ton of money which I appreciate and has very strong family ties. Anytime I want I could move close to him and have a huge family to support me.

So when I has younger, very medicore but as an adult a complete winner.

He's a womanizer but all his chicks know what it is.

He's also in great health and always took great care of his body. My bother actually does bodybuilding. None of us have ever been over weight.
Did you get the big forehead from him or mom?
 

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Similar story.

My father was born dirt poor in a small Caribbean island, came up here in the late 70s for school, met and married my mother and lived an upright life as a man, husband and father til he died 7 years ago tomorrow, with my mom at his bedside.
Yup, similar story for mine... But my dad married my mom, but practially move to Boston when I was still like a baby, and then divorced and I guess he alrady had his new wife up there.

I'd say good choice genetics wise, unfortunate for our living situation that he made his home in another place. But he raised my sister, and recently I heard about his journey from Haiti to the US and how he basically did the illegal boat trip to the Bahamas so he could get an education (the family was basically just farmers), learned English, came back to Haiti, and then entered the US and got his citizenship.

Both my parents have good pursuit of education stories...I only got the hard work part, cause I haaaaaaaaaate school and graduated on acaedmic probation, lol
 

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This a good thread idea OP, you should remix it and do it the other way around too but……


My folks ain’t together no more but I’d say my mom chose right for the most part. My pops is the stereotypical boomer generation man. Hard working, blue collar man who doesn’t say anything when he gets home and keeps everything in until he randomly explodes. But anger issues aside he‘s a pretty good dad and great provider
 

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I don't know my bio parents well enough to know, so I'm assuming they chose wrong. Now the parents that I was blessed with chose right. My dad was everything a man should be. Educated, loyal, patient, selfless, kind, communicates, a true leader, and works hard. I still haven't found a man that's quite like him.
 

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Lord knows what your messican daughter would say @Kasgoinjail
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All three of mine are different tones
Same father

It could be a throwback from the grandparents it is not uncommon
Convince him to get them all tested

I offered my children’s father to get all ours tested because he likes to “joke” about my daughter having a Mexican father and calls her Dora the Explorer
bytch tryna pin a messican baby on a black man
:mjlol:
 

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He was that guy in his town
had is own band and following. ran in the streets but was still educated. put all his brothers through school. when he goes through his hometown he is greeted like a dignitary. he is held high in the community and he has cared for many. my father is a solid dude and his character doesn't waiver. generous, disciplined and stern. always been fashionable in any era and could pull women into his 70's... still fit and handsome. never egotistical.
So now that you're an adult and have some knowledge about the game, how do you honestly feel about your mom's choice in your father?

Did he have good genetics? Is he a dumb ass? Broke? Etc.

Honest opinion, did she hit a home run or strike out?
now let's talk about yours

have a seat. the doctor is in today

was your father at home? supportive?
 
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