Most cultures around the world live with family for a long time before leaving. The fact is, most people do have parents or other family, but they thought it was a bad look and/or wanted their girlfriends to cook breakfast in the nude. Of course the system sucks, especially for Black people. With that said, don't have kids too soon, don't get a record, don't move out too soon (these are the bad decisions I was talking about), save money, take time to figure out the future and what you want to do, and it will work out better. This is how you avoid the dead end jobs. I don't know how you're confusing me with bootstrappers.
Man, all your posts have hit the nail on the head. Iâm glad I grew up around different cultures because you truly see the difference in how they operate. Not saying theyâre perfect or better but they get some things right.
In most single parent black households, especially if youâre male, once you turn 18, âyou become that nikka in the house.â You turn from Cinderella into a midnight Bumpkin.
All of the sudden, you look too much like your dad, you need to find a new place to stay, stop drinking all the juice you ungrateful nikka. Itâs no wonder so many canât wait to leave that toxic environment. All because those checks stop coming in at 18.
In Indian cultures, they make sure the son stays with the family until they have enough money to put a deposit down on a mortgage, ideally with his arranged wife. Jews do it too, Greeks, etc. They make sure their children do not leave their homes unprepared. Theyâll even keep their grandparents living with them.
And God bless my parents, even though they had no choice but to work menial jobs despite their qualifications, they made sure to give me and my siblings the best start.
In hindsight, I wish I stayed at home after college because they were more than willing to accommodate me, but I didnât want to leave the feeling of independence that college gave me. If I had stayed at home instead of renting a shytty apartment at 21, I wouldâve got to my goals quicker but hey⌠thatâs life. Now I know what not to do with my kids.