I decided a long time ago that I'm going to do what I want to do in this life. I never fell for the whole "I'm hard working and honorable" bullshyt lol. It pays to think for yourself. Work smart, be frugal, and get established before having kids. Everyone spends money on shyt that they don't need, paying down someone else's mortgage, and end up like this guy; burnt out and miserable. Black people especially have to be very careful about how they approach life, because this system is set up to hold us back. I worked at a factory when I was 18. One day, I saw a woman, maybe in her late 30s, crying and being consoled in the lunchroom. I had the distinct feeling that she was crying because she hated working there. I went to college shortly after that experience.
I've also decided that I'm not going to give my hard earned money away to a landlord. People are ashamed to live with family and save money, so they end up like the guy in the op, At work all day living paycheck to paycheck, all so you could impress some broke down ass woman. Some of y'all got trapped. "I do it for my family" Man, you should've gotten established first. Better yet, don't have kids. Now you don't have any breathing room to get the job you want. Employers with horrible jobs love you guys. Don't ignore the torture right in front of your face and think it's normal because everyone's doing it. These people made all sorts of bad decisions and are now forced to work for pennies in horrible conditons with no end in sight.
Black people need to stop leaving home on a bad foundation. Live with family, take a loong time to figure out what you can do that isn't torturous, stack, buy property, and work on your own terms.