Man is upset his gf didnt make his birthday cake the way he wanted. Is he in the wrong?

Umoja

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Is it clearly fake though or is it just your opinion? These type of situations legitimately happen on a daily basis and it's naive to sit here and insist otherwise.

That subreddit is literally called "Am I The a$$hole" for a reason. I don't think you knew that though based on your comment.
I am familiar with that subreddit. Half of the stories on that subreddit are bullshyt and therein lies problem. Stories created to incite rage and fuel people's prejudices.
 

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He makes me sound like a sociopath for not carrying. I'm a picky eater, I eat half a slice then pretend I'm full. damn I'm an a$$hole. He wrote an emotional article, I just take a bite and jog on. :mjcry:

"it was legit!!!! I'm full atm tho, put that in the frig for later :mjgrin: "
 

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But why ask someone what they want for their special occasion if you’re gonna make what you want anyway?

She was being rude and inconsiderate, it’s not like he specifically asked her to bake him a cake.

I personally loathe when people do me “favors” they want to do/think I should have that don’t even reflect what I specified-literally would be fine with nothing.

My mom does this a lot and I can’t stand it.
 

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It's simple, She asked him what he wanted but gave him what she wanted.
This.

I don't celebrate my birthday (I celebrate my friends and family's bdays though) because i was spoiled as a kid and got what I asked for and I'm like that guy in the op.

I consider myself a good gift giver because I ask flat out what people want and get exactly that. I suck at sentimental from my mind and heart gift giving though lol

If I ask for something specific and you give me something different, ima let you know I don't like it, so you know not to try and "surprise" me in the future, and mainly im hard to shop for anyway because if I want something, I usually get it immediately myself.

I would have not even touched that cake if I was him.

I had an ex that I told specifically at the beginning of our relationship my favorite cologne, and 8 months later on my bday, she got me the one I told her I liked the least...she got mad because I told her I didn't like it when she asked ( I didn't want her wasting money on the future)

My wife now, knows this about me and just asks me what I want and gets it, and I do the same for her.

This story makes me appreciate my wife that much more lol

I typed all this to say, get with people who understand you and accept you as you are, and do things for you FOR you.
 

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EDIT: he probably could have handled it better. Eating a small part of it is kind of petty. I would just eaten it anyways but she asked him to be honest :yeshrug:
He can't voice his feelings?

But some of the comments :huhldup:







Don't date women like these up here, zero self swareness and empathy

That man sounds like a whole bytch.

It's cake who gives a fukk.
 

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Yeah but if you offer to do something for someone, it doesn't hurt to just do what they asked :skip:. It's weird to mess it up and say "be grateful I made you this shyt :demonic:".

And I just know if HE was the one that did this those people would still blame him :mjlol:

Somebody did something nice for you it’s generally weird behavior to bytch about one detail being messed up.

You wanted cake and she bought you some cookies from the store? Sure you can point out that it isn’t a cake. But she made you a damn cake, eat it and say thank you
 

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Somebody did something nice for you it’s generally weird behavior to bytch about one detail being messed up.

You wanted cake and she bought you some cookies from the store? Sure you can point out that it isn’t a cake. But she made you a damn cake, eat it and say thank you
I already said I would have eaten it. And that he could have handled it better.

I just hate the vibe here and in the comments that's basically saying he's in the wrong for voicing his complaints. Like as if men are lucky to be given gifts in general and shouldnt be picky.

If someone asked me for something and I gave them something different, they'd have the right to point it out if I asked them for feedback.
 
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It's simple, She asked him what he wanted but gave him what she wanted.


Exactly.

People saying he’s “entitled” for wanting what he said he wanted are wild. If she didn’t ask what he wanted and just made the cake she wanted, he wouldn’t have complained. It’s incredibly disrespectful to ask what he wants then get something different just cuz. It would be one thing if she COULDN’T get cake he wanted but it seems like she just did what she wanted…for his birthday…after asking him what he wanted. :stopitslime:


I’m not even going to criticize how he acted. In the heat of the moment, having your feelings dismissed after you had gotten your hopes up, it’s understandable that one ain’t gonna be the best version of themselves.
 

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Yeah but if you offer to do something for someone, it doesn't hurt to just do what they asked :skip:. It's weird to mess it up and say "be grateful I made you this shyt :demonic:".

And I just know if HE was the one that did this those people would still blame him :mjlol:
Men are so selfish and insensitive to the wants and needs of women! :damn:
 

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I would have just ate the slice and put the rest in the fridge or took it to work to give away :manny:

It’s not that serious and I don’t think he’s an a$$hole nor do I think he’s wrong for telling her he didn’t like it, but he could have at least eat all of the slice thanked her for the effort then tell her his opinion.

At the end of the day it’s the thought that matters…
 
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