Man is upset his gf didnt make his birthday cake the way he wanted. Is he in the wrong?

[Morethan1]

Back in June my girlfriend asked what I wanted to do for my birthday I said watch the finals in peace and that's exexactly watch happen.

I get what shawty was trying to do but sometimes you have to just listen.

Who the fukk eaeats cake as an adult anyway?

 

[leoc]

I dont see how he is in the wrong. She asked what he wanted, he told her what he wanted. She made whatever she wanted anyways.

Then she asked if he liked it or whatever and he was honest with her that its not what he wanted. No point in lying over something like that imo.

It would have been different if she didnt ask him what kind of cake he wanted and she made whatever she wanted as a surprise and he wasnt happy with what he got. But here, he told her what he wanted

 

[Pool_Shark]

What man eats cake

 

[ORDER_66]

What man eats cake

so no one eats cake nowadays???

 

[Dirty Mcdrawz]

*adds cake to the things men can’t enjoy*

 

[Turbulent]

They both seem annoying. Probably why they are together to begin with.

 

[Pool_Shark]

so no one eats cake nowadays???

That's for women and children.

 

[Devilinurear]

so no one eats cake nowadays???

He is literally bytching about a chocolate cake having vanilla in it.

I'm sorry I'm trying to pay a mortgage I wouldn't care.

 

[The Radiant One]

NTA if you did something like a date it’s never a “she should be happy that you paid!”

 

[Rell84shots]

Exactly.

People saying he’s “entitled” for wanting what he said he wanted are wild. If she didn’t ask what he wanted and just made the cake she wanted, he wouldn’t have complained. It’s incredibly disrespectful to ask what he wants then get something different just cuz. It would be one thing if she COULDN’T get cake he wanted but it seems like she just did what she wanted…for his birthday…after asking him what he wanted.


I’m not even going to criticize how he acted. In the heat of the moment, having your feelings dismissed after you had gotten your hopes up, it’s understandable that one ain’t gonna be the best version of themselves.

The irony is that the people in here calling the men that agree with dude feminine, are acting exactly how the women in the comments are acting. When you're raised in a feminine household you grow up thinking like a female. Dude had every right to be upset, and if the roles were reversed I would say he was wrong. There's countless examples of men doing more than what their woman asked them to do, and it usually ends in a "you don't listen to me" argument.

 

[TripleAgent]

"in front of her kids"

He already lost

 

[Scustin Bieburr]

Sometimes you just have to suck it up and deal with it to avoid an argument. Birthdays as a grown man shouldn’t be that big of a deal, but to each their own.

This is the thing I find the most surprising. This man is older than many of us here. Seems odd that he's not just going for dinner with his friends and/family.

If the roles were reversed the triggered women in the comments would say something like "that's gaslighting and controlling behavior sis. He's an abuser. He asked you for what you wanted, he didn't listen to you, expected you to be grateful and then got angry at you because you gave him honest feedback when he asked for it. Delete his number girl. You dodged a bullet "

But women with bad taste in men can't help but jump on an opportunity to say online what they wish they had the courage to say to their ex or current men. They live vicariously through these stories and get to cosplay as feminist warriors while continuing to choose the exact men they complain about over the abundant simps with porous boundaries.

 

[gho3st]

La

EDIT: he probably could have handled it better. Eating a small part of it is kind of petty. I would just eaten it anyways but she asked him to be honest
He can't voice his feelings?

But some of the comments







Don't date women like these up here, zero self swareness and empathy

its his birthday not her birthday. How tf she gonna bake something she likes?? lmao

 

[feelosofer]

Assuming it's true it's not that serious. I appreciate someone taking the time out to bake a cake and if that little bit of detail gets lost in the sauce it's fine.

 

[GoAggieGo.]

Why did she ask what he wanted, if she was going to do what she wanted in the first place? I wouldn’t have made a scene, and I probably would’ve ate the cake because i like vanilla too, but next time, don’t ask me what I want if you’re not going to give me what I want.

Follow instructions if you’re asking for them. Him letting it slide isn’t the right move, because now she feels she can go off script with whatever and not take what he says into consideration.