Sounds like she asks him what he wants because that’s what she’s supposed to do. She’s gone do what she wants anyways lol.
With that being said, I wouldn’t have made a big deal about it, but in private, I’d definitely let her know this isn’t what we talked about or what I asked for. I mean, I’d still be appreciative that she made me a cake, but nah babe, this ain’t what I asked for. He probably lets her get away with this often, but now he’s standing up for himself. A bit late for this now lol. Thank God I have someone who listens to me, and does what I ask. If she can’t, she lets me know ahead of time.