Melyssa Ford Playing Dumb about Competing with 25 year old girls for the same pool of Men.

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I’ll say this, a dude who can afford to make a young woman a housewife is probably operating in circles where someone is raising daughters to be homemakers.

People who are actually well-adjusted and prepared for life in this society aren’t living the individualistic lifestyle; they are in communities of well-adjusted, successful people.

People make threads about well-to-do Black folks, and other communities, they have the lifestyles to produce those types of men and women.
It’s all the regular folk yelling about what they want and deserve when they aren’t traditional themselves and can’t provide what a traditional partner would want in return.

I don't think homemaking has to exist without a woman working. I think its a quality that a wife should have. My wife did it when our kids were little. She doesn't do it as much now because she's so busy but she possessed that quality. She was raised old school though, do women still raise their daughters to have this quality about them?
 

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they gon be 80 with a bbl thinking they still got it
what channel did this come on in Toronto?
 

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No. That’s not an excuse. Now it could NOW with this administration, and policies, but if you took no initiative to better yourself as a man, no, you DON’T deserve access to the best women. Stick with Kisha who works at Walmart, is about 50lbs overweight, and has 2 kids. A low income man is not pulling decent women unless he is attractive. How are you going to instill a sense of ambition, and push your children to be the best they can be if you’ve accepted you’ll never make anything of yourself? That right there is unappealing.

Speaking of Walmart, if you have common sense, and can show up on time, you can work your way up to management fairly easily, and quickly. There are no excuses. I see why some of y’all struggle with women. You have no confidence, and no desire to better yourselves.

You’re so focused on simping and caping that you’re ignoring systematic racism. Again, I said there’s an excuse for both genders of Black people in America to reach middle age and remain low income. The system was designed to keep most Black people born into poverty oppressed. There are millions of Black people who’ve worked hard their entire lives but were born into dysfunctional circumstances without parental support and guidance who remain low income.

Ultimately you’re proving my point about how you would tell low income men to accept the options they have but you wouldn’t tell older women the same. An older woman is considered settling for many successful men. Using the logic you’re applying to low income men that they should be happy with what they have access to and not complain or view it as settling, the same can be said to older women about their options.
 

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No. That’s not an excuse. Now it could NOW with this administration, and policies, but if you took no initiative to better yourself as a man, no, you DON’T deserve access to the best women. Stick with Kisha who works at Walmart, is about 50lbs overweight, and has 2 kids. A low income man is not pulling decent women unless he is attractive. How are you going to instill a sense of ambition, and push your children to be the best they can be if you’ve accepted you’ll never make anything of yourself? That right there is unappealing.

Speaking of Walmart, if you have common sense, and can show up on time, you can work your way up to management fairly easily, and quickly. There are no excuses. I see why some of y’all struggle with women. You have no confidence, and no desire to better yourselves.
Only problem is if a breh had confidence and drive then Keisha at Walmart wouldn’t have anyone to date.

It’s been said that this whole gender shyt as it regards to Black Men is about keeping #midgang on the shelf until needed when fly Mel turns into Walmart Keisha.
 
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You’re so focused on simping and caping that you’re ignoring systematic racism. Again, I said there’s an excuse for both genders of Black people in America to reach middle age and remain low income. The system was designed to keep most Black people born into poverty oppressed. There are millions of Black people who’ve worked hard their entire lives but were born into dysfunctional circumstances without parental support and guidance who remain low income.

Ultimately you’re proving my point about how you would tell low income men to accept the options they have but you wouldn’t tell older women the same. An older woman is considered settling for many successful men. Using the logic you’re applying to low income men that they should be happy with what they have access to and not complain or view it as settling, the same can be said to older women about their options.
Yeah I would tell older women to do the same. But most older women are not millionaires. And not every successful man wants a woman who is younger. It is not simping to recognize that mutual physical attraction is normal in relationships. But average has the best luck with average. That goes for both genders. A man who has to use change to pay for stuff is not compatible with a woman who owns a nice home, pays her bills, and has good credit. You have to be able to relate to the person, and live similar lifestyles. She wants to go to a nice steakhouse, you want to go to Applebees. You’re not compatible. She uses car service, and has a Mercedes in her garage. You have to wait to get your car fixed, and have no money leftover. She’s not for you. She’s stayed in 5 star hotels. You book hotels on Expedia, and “sort from lowest to highest”. You’re not compatible just because you are nice, and happen to be a male human being. Just like the girl with the blonde lace front, tattoos, and baby hairs is not compatible with the corporate breh with no baby mamas, and good credit.

Life is a competition. You have to compete for jobs, you have to compete for relationships. You really expect a beautiful, intelligent, feminine woman to settle for with a man she isn’t physically attracted to, just so she can have a husband? People who want relationships don’t have to give everyone who is interested a chance. You choose to talk to a woman based on how she looks. Yet if she chooses NOT to talk to you based on how you look, then she deserves to be alone? On top of that, you have no money?? She can find a man with money who she’s not attracted to. If you want a certain caliber of women, you’re going to have to better yourself. If not, keep complaining about women not lowering their standards.
 
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Only problem is if a breh had confidence and drive then Keisha at Walmart wouldn’t have anyone to date.

It’s been said that this whole gender shyt as it regards to Black Men is about keeping #midgang on the shelf until needed when fly Mel turns into Walmart Keisha.

Then Kisha shouldn’t have gotten fat, pregnant by the wrong man. She’s limited in her options. Nobody HAS to date Kisha.
 

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I don't think homemaking has to exist without a woman working. I think its a quality that a wife should have. My wife did it when our kids were little. She doesn't do it as much now because she's so busy but she possessed that quality. She was raised old school though, do women still raise their daughters to have this quality about them?
YES.


Homemaking can be done while a woman holds a career, sure, but as you stated “she doesn’t do it as much now because she’s so busy…”
THAT’S THE POINT! Lol

A woman shouldn’t have to juggle a full time career and be Susie Homemaker. Homemaking is a real thing and it isn’t fully appreciated. Maintaining a well-run home is not something you do for a couple hours a week.

So if your wife was at home and not working, she wouldn’t be as busy outside the house and she’d spend more time homemaking.
That’s a reality for all women in this country.

If you have a man who is fully prepared and able to have a wife stay home, there is a community around him that has some young women who are trained up for that life. That’s my only point.

If you raise a son who has 1-2 advanced degrees and is making $150+ looking for a wife, you ain’t gonna tell him to just marry any ol chick.

And if you have a daughter who knows how to clean a home from top to bottom and can make homecooked meals from scratch before she leaves for college you’re going to ensure you don’t marry her off to some guy who knocks on your door with nothing but empty pockets and dreams.


Everyone has their equivalent. The men who are raised and built to be providers have ppl around them who taught them what type of woman to unite with. And the ppl who taught them are probably their own mothers, grandmothers, sisters, etc.

Just like the nice girls have fathers, grandfathers, brothers, uncles who will interrogate any guy who comes around showing interest.
 

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Yeah I would tell older women to do the same. But most older women are not millionaires. And not every successful man wants a woman who is younger. It is not simping to recognize that mutual physical attraction is normal in relationships. But average has the best luck with average. That goes for both genders. A man who has to use change to pay for stuff is not compatible with a woman who owns a nice home, pays her bills, and has good credit. You have to be able to relate to the person, and live similar lifestyles. She wants to go to a nice steakhouse, you want to go to Applebees. You’re not compatible. She uses car service, and has a Mercedes in her garage. You have to wait to get your car fixed, and have no money leftover. She’s not for you. She’s stayed in 5 star hotels. You book hotels on Expedia, and “sort from lowest to highest”. You’re not compatible just because you are nice, and happen to be a male human being. Just like the girl with the blonde lace front, tattoos, and baby hairs is not compatible with the corporate breh with no baby mamas, and good credit.

Life is a competition. You have to compete for jobs, you have to compete for relationships. You really expect a beautiful, intelligent, feminine woman to settle for with a man she isn’t physically attracted to, just so she can have a husband? People who want relationships don’t have to give everyone who is interested a chance. You choose to talk to a woman based on how she looks. Yet if she chooses NOT to talk to you based on how you look, then she deserves to be alone? On top of that, you have no money?? She can find a man with money who she’s not attracted to. If you want a certain caliber of women, you’re going to have to better yourself. If not, keep complaining about women not lowering their standards.

I’m not complaining about women not lowering their standards. The fact is the older single women with the lifestyle you detailed who want a man with the same who they consider attractive and who is also interested in being in a relationship with said women are in short supply. That’s why we see most older BW with that lifestyle marrying or getting into relationships with men who have less than them. That’s the reality.
 

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Once a female hits the age of 37 she should really consider her dating options to only men 10 - 20 years older. Females hate to hear that but that’s facts only because most men around 35 - 45 who are single are not trying to deal with the headache, boss mentality, pressure, trauma and p*ssy games from women in that age bracket. They’re the group complaining the most about men yet have the highest standards online.


Older women on Reddit complaining that their dating options are being limited to men who are at least 10 years older.

:francis:
 

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Older women on Reddit complaining that their dating options are being limited to men who are at least 10 years older.

:francis:

I always say that women need to date older. IDK why some are so against it.

Do it within reason of course. Don't date a guy 20 years older than you but, I don't see the issue dating someone 7, 8 years older.

If you're a 38-year-old woman, I promise you'll probably find a 45-year-old man that wants you alot easier than sticking to someone your age.
 
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