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There aren't too many breakdowns by race in that article, but I'll address it from the perspective of our race only.

First off, get used to the black marriage rate dropping even further the rest of this decade. That will really only be reserved for the upper-middle class, and/or couples truly on the same page in terms of Religious/Political views, parenting, and finances. I do not personally think that is a bad thing. Right now we bring a child into this world first and ask the tough questions later. Single motherhood is massively incentivized, BGS just did a video on this today.



The article from Time only mentions single, not single and childless. Lets not act like women still aren't getting pregnant and bringing children into this world.

Now you have this educated/professional black women sector warming up to co-parenting situations. You fulfill your biological desire to have a child, while still being independent, while cashing in on the "single mother" badge and still receiving all the validation from men in public/online that you desire. Thats a Win for her.

The babydaddy still gets to impress random women with his Dodge Charger and bring them back to his 1-Bedroom apartment and only see his kid a few times a month. Thats a Win for him. All the while the child is taking that L as soon as their memories kick in all the way up to adulthood

Black women were told to become independent and get an education, they did that. I'm not saying its bad. However Gen X and Baby Boomer women did not tell them that for every action there is an equal reaction and still refuse to own up to it. Sheer stubborness to admit they screwed up just like all these articles popping up now. As if men just stopped going to college in 2019, Blue-Collar jobs just started getting phased out, and the income gap was a lie for the most part and has reverted. All while still refusing to admit feminism has over-corrected.

Our race is far more prone to seeing and engaging in Social Media Gender War divide nonsenense "What do you bring to the table, I'm not going 50/50" as well as talkingheads like Derrick Jaxn that gas up unrealistic standards for what women should only accept while never providing said product themselves. 2021 is ending on the same note as 2008 but we've got clowns out here acting like men should be taking women to rooftop bars for the 1st date and cashapping money to them for their time as if they're a Financial Dom.

The average black women does NOT want an average 5'9 man making 42k with average swag. And for black men like me that are somewhat above-average that have some combination of being over 6-feet, Corporate Job or Associates/Bachelors Degree, own a Home/Townhome/Condo, making 50-60k+, we're just in the cut looking at all this like :hubie:We are very cautious of the women we bring into our space and know it only takes a few small mistakes or one sizeable mistake to end up back at the beginning of the board game.

I won't speak for anyone else that's single but I know marriage is valuable in the right context, and hope to be some day, but only with the right person. If that doesn't happen, that's fine, I'm not on a Red Pill Rage trip and I don't blame any women for how my life turns out at this point.

Last thing i'll respond to is black men staying home after 18 or 21. Overall I believe most (not all) men that stay home after 22 are not performing nearly at the level they could be. Myself included because I was in that category until my mid 20's. If you are working multiple jobs, helping with emergencies around the household, saving 20k+ a year, that's different.

What these articles fail to mention is that men are staying home in part because their SINGLE mother is at home (not usually an apartment) by themselves and needs assistance in some form. Even under-performing men that live at home usually provide a net utility gain through helping around the home/yard and providing security that an adult daughter would not.

The bolded is false, economically speaking most men/people are not capable of leaving the nest at 22 in many metro areas.
 

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Ok they acting as if marriage is this big uniter when its not alot of women filing for divorce and i think alot of men not falling for this marriage bullshyt anymore so fukk it...:manny: it is what it is.. forever dont mean shyt anymore if she just gonna walk away with half

Marriage is an institution that protected women in the past, at a time when women couldn't participate in the workforce at least to the same degree as men, couldn't be allowed to attend higher education, study a trade etc. Marriage and things like alimony protected women in those days so that they'd have means to look out for themselves.

Those days are now gone. Women can participate in the workplace, they can and often DO out earn the average man since now that the economy has shifted to a service based one, women have become highly desired as executive assistants, flight attendants, teachers, counsellors, nurses, doctors, accountants and even in trades they are aggressively trying to recruit women. The economy is now designed to favor women.

The problem is, now many women are turned off by men who aren't earning significant amounts of money because the culture is still stuck in that same mode it has been for several years 'men earn the most money in the household. Men shouldn't be nurses, teachers, or social workers. Men shouldn't earn less money or work less hours than women' this totally ruins the dating prospects for several men and we're not even counting the unrealistic standards men are now being held to in terms of appearance just to even get their foot in the door.

Women are expecting men to look like the characters on the shows designed for them like Greys anatomy or the reality shows they watch like 'the circle' 'are you the one' and 'love island'. It's now gotten to the point where you have men looking at how much money they're expected to earn, and how hard they need to work to look 'attractive' so they say 'nah fukkit' and go back to playing 2k and smoking blunts
 

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There's nothing wrong with being single, childless, and middle class. Earth is overpopulated and we got global warming

I will say this...

Your opinion is in the minority. There are people who judge people who are within a certain age bracket who are single and childless.

I speak from personal experience.

BTW, I agree with you. Everyone's journey is different. But, I understand that many people follow a social template and anyone who lives outside of said social template is looked at a certain way.

We may be dealing with overpopulation as you say, but in the meantime, those who are here want some love, affection and intimacy at some point in their lives.

Most people don't wanna go through life getting little to no attention...
 

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I will say this...

Your opinion is in the minority. There are people who judge people who are within a certain age bracket who are single and childless.

I speak from personal experience.

BTW, I agree with you. Everyone's journey is different. But, I understand that many people follow a social template and anyone who lives outside of said social template is looked at a certain way.

We may be dealing with overpopulation as you say, but in the meantime, those who are here want some love, affection and intimacy at some point in their lives.

Most people don't wanna go through life getting little to no attention...
No lies told :wow:
 

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I agree with you, but I believe other race of women play the 80/20 rule. Although not as hard as lower or working class (socioeconomic status) black women.

Not saying you do this, but I have noticed that a lot of people here unknowingly or unwillingly give other races of women more credit than they deserve.

Women in general regardless of background are selective in who they deal with. You can call it 80/20 or whatever...

Bottomline is that they all do it, especially the ones who can still catch which is why many of them act the way they act and play silly games.

One reason why I listen to KS is because he keeps pointing out something that a lot of younger women seem to struggle grasping...

Once a woman gets to a certain age along with accumulating a certain level of baggage, their prospects exponentially decreases, especially with Black women.

Like KS, I see it happen with loved ones. It is NO JOKE! I hope Brehettes will take heed and get their minds and bodies right before they hit the half century mark!

Many will die alone (meaning no man). They will live the remaining part of their existences living vicariously through their kids, grandkids, etc..

Just a fact of life...
 

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I will say this...

Your opinion is in the minority. There are people who judge people who are within a certain age bracket who are single and childless.

I speak from personal experience.

BTW, I agree with you. Everyone's journey is different. But, I understand that many people follow a social template and anyone who lives outside of said social template is looked at a certain way.

We may be dealing with overpopulation as you say, but in the meantime, those who are here want some love, affection and intimacy at some point in their lives.

Most people don't wanna go through life getting little to no attention...

You speak from personal experience how?


I'm 31, single, and childless. If I get judged it is what it is.:yeshrug: Should I have kids just because people say so?

Funny enough we aren't the ones doing damage to society, having a bunch of kids shooting up the neighborhood.
 

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I'm glad they had the ethnic breakdown. I dont really care about fixing problems any other group is having besides us.

If you're broke its hard to get married. You can't have a healthy relationship when your own life is in disarray.

If pu$$y (p0rn, prostitutes, clubbing, apps, dating) or passive recreation (TV, video games, social media) are on your top 5 priority list (where you spend the most time)
and
your life ain't stable (no longer living in your parents house, enough money saved to cover bills for 3 months, life plan in place, in your career)
And
Youre over 24

Then youre fuking up and need to get on your square.

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True but i love these statements lol. 24 is such a young dumb age. Everything is still new.
Maybe 27 on the other side of 20
 

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Marriage is an institution that protected women in the past, at a time when women couldn't participate in the workforce at least to the same degree as men, couldn't be allowed to attend higher education, study a trade etc. Marriage and things like alimony protected women in those days so that they'd have means to look out for themselves.

Those days are now gone. Women can participate in the workplace, they can and often DO out earn the average man since now that the economy has shifted to a service based one, women have become highly desired as executive assistants, flight attendants, teachers, counsellors, nurses, doctors, accountants and even in trades they are aggressively trying to recruit women. The economy is now designed to favor women.

The problem is, now many women are turned off by men who aren't earning significant amounts of money because the culture is still stuck in that same mode it has been for several years 'men earn the most money in the household. Men shouldn't be nurses, teachers, or social workers. Men shouldn't earn less money or work less hours than women' this totally ruins the dating prospects for several men and we're not even counting the unrealistic standards men are now being held to in terms of appearance just to even get their foot in the door.

Women are expecting men to look like the characters on the shows designed for them like Greys anatomy or the reality shows they watch like 'the circle' 'are you the one' and 'love island'. It's now gotten to the point where you have men looking at how much money they're expected to earn, and how hard they need to work to look 'attractive' so they say 'nah fukkit' and go back to playing 2k and smoking blunts

the thing is, people regulate this to bum dudes or so called bums, but the dudes women want look at the divorce states and just say they rather smash and dash and call it a day so either way its an L for women lol. Zero purpose of getting married, folks reciting religious vows for a religion they dont even practice lmfao.

Until Family law is revamped to truly be equal, and men get the option of stuff like Financial Abortion I say let it all burn
 

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lol yeah I hate when dudes make it sound like other places are better when the men in them places have the same complaints we have in our spots. “New kid in school” syndrome is real because the folks in other countries know we dont know their culture to hold them accountable for renegade behavior.
Word up nikkas complain about wenching over here, It's on another level in the UK. You'll know what it's like to be an immigrant when no doubt about it england is the white homeland.



It's funny because the NOI over here low key discourages their members from going back to their home countries. They also don't go in as hard on the cracker in general over there. Same with the Rastas can't really have smoke for the devil when you're living in hell.
 
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