BK The Great
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These women kinda selfish and looney anyways. And some just rather be with other women. Chase money, Get your nut and bounce. fukk marriage. Don’t forget to not impregnate and practice safe sex.
Men Are Now More Likely to Be Single Than Women. It's Not a Good Sign
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Scustin Bieburr
Baby baybee baybee UUUGH
In 2021 I cannot think of a single benefit that comes with marriage if youre a man. There are risks, such as the cost you and your family will be expected to incur for the wedding, the fact that she may get half in a divorce, the fact that if yall get kids the courts by default will favor giving full custody to the mother and if that happens she'll spend time talking about how awful you are and poisoning your own child against you. These are all risks to men.
I don't know what the risks to women are in marriage given that our current social context still sees women as oppressed and needing any advantage they can get, even when the facts on the ground are different. They're outpacing men in education, they're outpacing men in employment, they're soon going to start outpacing us in overall earnings and promotions. All of this wouldn't be a problem if the culture and the courts were modernized to account for this and do things like give men alimony, and normalizing stay at home or part time working fathers. But you have women blowing up relationships with perfectly good men because they're not 'happy' and when asked what would make them happy or what the dude would need to do, they don't know. I think we're going to see a lot of men going forward who need to be convinced. Soon being attractive and having a mostly relaxed disposition won't be enough for all the efforts and risk men as a whole have to incur to get today's modern woman who has her pick of several men at the press of a button on an app and is constantly told 'dont settle'
its one of them cases of everyone complaining about where they are then go to a different place where the locals have the same complaints but all of a sudden things are new. Black men globally all gave the same complaints lol. like I said before when dealing with outsiders they cant hold you accountable for your cultural rules thus the dynamics change because the outsider tries their best to accommodate you and you can take advantage of that kindness, thus things seem 'better' in the dating type stages where there are no legal impact (we all know the horror stories of foreigners getting married and running into issues with folks trying to get over, or just no compatibility culturally).
I just want dudes to not think its sweet somewhere else and end up getting screwed even worse.
Once you become aware of that stats and personal horror stories its almost laughable at this point.
I get it but do the family courts work the same way in the UK do random dudes be losing half to their ex wives over there? The Laws are certainly different here in Colombia
Well to be fair the majority of my life I have been surrounded by lower or working class women, and you would think these women would want to move up in society, but they constantly do dumb shyt to stay in cycle of poverty.
Before Kevin Samuels blew up the type of things he was speaking on was always talked about, but it was regulated to barber shop talk. I think other youtubers got the ball rolling before talking about these issues, but Samuels made it mainstream kinda sorta.
SheWantTheD
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When they say single they mean 'unmarried' y'all realize that right?
the bossman
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There aren't too many breakdowns by race in that article, but I'll address it from the perspective of our race only.
First off, get used to the black marriage rate dropping even further the rest of this decade. That will really only be reserved for the upper-middle class, and/or couples truly on the same page in terms of Religious/Political views, parenting, and finances. I do not personally think that is a bad thing. Right now we bring a child into this world first and ask the tough questions later. Single motherhood is massively incentivized, BGS just did a video on this today.
The article from Time only mentions single, not single and childless. Lets not act like women still aren't getting pregnant and bringing children into this world.
Now you have this educated/professional black women sector warming up to co-parenting situations. You fulfill your biological desire to have a child, while still being independent, while cashing in on the "single mother" badge and still receiving all the validation from men in public/online that you desire. Thats a Win for her.
The babydaddy still gets to impress random women with his Dodge Charger and bring them back to his 1-Bedroom apartment and only see his kid a few times a month. Thats a Win for him. All the while the child is taking that L as soon as their memories kick in all the way up to adulthood
Black women were told to become independent and get an education, they did that. I'm not saying its bad. However Gen X and Baby Boomer women did not tell them that for every action there is an equal reaction and still refuse to own up to it. Sheer stubborness to admit they screwed up just like all these articles popping up now. As if men just stopped going to college in 2019, Blue-Collar jobs just started getting phased out, and the income gap was a lie for the most part and has reverted. All while still refusing to admit feminism has over-corrected.
Our race is far more prone to seeing and engaging in Social Media Gender War divide nonsenense "What do you bring to the table, I'm not going 50/50" as well as talkingheads like Derrick Jaxn that gas up unrealistic standards for what women should only accept while never providing said product themselves. 2021 is ending on the same note as 2008 but we've got clowns out here acting like men should be taking women to rooftop bars for the 1st date and cashapping money to them for their time as if they're a Financial Dom.
The average black women does NOT want an average 5'9 man making 42k with average swag. And for black men like me that are somewhat above-average that have some combination of being over 6-feet, Corporate Job or Associates/Bachelors Degree, own a Home/Townhome/Condo, making 50-60k+, we're just in the cut looking at all this likeWe are very cautious of the women we bring into our space and know it only takes a few small mistakes or one sizeable mistake to end up back at the beginning of the board game.
I won't speak for anyone else that's single but I know marriage is valuable in the right context, and hope to be some day, but only with the right person. If that doesn't happen, that's fine, I'm not on a Red Pill Rage trip and I don't blame any women for how my life turns out at this point.
Last thing i'll respond to is black men staying home after 18 or 21. Overall I believe most (not all) men that stay home after 22 are not performing nearly at the level they could be. Myself included because I was in that category until my mid 20's. If you are working multiple jobs, helping with emergencies around the household, saving 20k+ a year, that's different.
What these articles fail to mention is that men are staying home in part because their SINGLE mother is at home (not usually an apartment) by themselves and needs assistance in some form. Even under-performing men that live at home usually provide a net utility gain through helping around the home/yard and providing security that an adult daughter would not.
On some Dear Diary shyt with that long ass post. But I fukks wit it. Especially part about how cautious you Gotta be bringing certain women into your space
I hear ya..
I guess my whole point is that there are many dudes out there who simply don't get much action....
Some can say that these men are the problem. Some may say what they think these men need to do in order to attract women, but what these people may not understand that sometimes it is deeper than that.
A man can do everything he is supposed to do and STILL struggle getting women. What a man can't do is make a woman like him, love him, sleep with him, etc. If a woman isn't feeling him, for whatever reason, then that's what's it is!
Always blaming & shaming the man does not solve the problem...
I do know that a man will resort to doing things that may go against other people's expectations of him in order for him to get the outcome he is seeking and if that means him hiring a prostitute or going abroad to monger or simply expanding his dating options and seek the company of women who may come from a different ethnic background, then that is what he is gonna do!
I sure you and those who read this understand that at the end of the day, a grown ass man isn't gonna continue to go through life with a dry ass dikk!
So...
Well everyone can't be the top 20% now can they?
nah i dont buy that marriage magically makes you more money, its the fact you cant even get married in this day and age if youre broke or if you do, divorce will come soon enough. you HAVE to make that extra money to even afford the family. because families are fukkin money sucking machines
Lol so did you get married and magically quadruple your income or was your career on track to see an salary explosion regardless of your home life?
absolutely. It's just like the so called "two million missing Black Men. what they meant was according to census records Two million Men left their communities. I didn't fill out the census, I moved away from where I grew up, I now an in Colombia not the District of Colombia so according to their methodology I'm "missing" but not dead or in Jail.
They constantly release these reports saying People ain't fukking If people weren't fukking (they are) it's because bytches ain't giving up the p*ssy. The shyt completely doesn't matter it certainly doesn't matter to women, 50% of men could drop dead tommorrow as long as theres thristy nikkas in the club that's all chicks would care about. These studies are good for planning purposes maybe fewer houses and schools need to be built but other than that it doesn't matter. Besides it's cap like that other report that said the reason why hoes wasn't fukking was because nikkas wasn't going to college (That's not really true either) Like if Drake didn't like a female surgeon's IG that she wouldn't fly herself to drake to go suck his dikk.
You in Medellin?