Action Mike
All praise..
ive made waaaayyyy more money single then I did in a relationship.
All those hours wasted watching Tv with your girl...going out to dinner...visiting their family...vacations, etc...
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ive made waaaayyyy more money single then I did in a relationship.
All those hours wasted watching Tv with your girl...going out to dinner...visiting their family...vacations, etc...
If you stop chasing after dimes you might get resultsY'all are weird when you say this, I've simply changed my priorities and moved away from chasing/convincing/looking for women. I make more money than most and I haven't even finished school yet, I drive a luxury car, I'm in good shape, etc. but I know better than to waste my time in a low chance of success endeavor, so I switch my focus and use what I can access to fill voids of what I can't. It's not defeat, it's awareness and realism.
Since we're giving takes on how people's opinions come off a lot of older dudes in this thread are naive as fukk to how things are now, and other dudes are plain oblivious because their attractive/in the top 20% and have been winning so they can't understand how one could ever lose.
This board is full of defeated people with inferiority complexes that they try to mask as strength.Y'all are weird when you say this, I've simply changed my priorities and moved away from chasing/convincing/looking for women. I make more money than most and I haven't even finished school yet, I drive a luxury car, I'm in good shape, etc. but I know better than to waste my time in a low chance of success endeavor, so I switch my focus and use what I can access to fill voids of what I can't. It's not defeat, it's awareness and realism.
Since we're giving takes on how people's opinions come off a lot of older dudes in this thread are naive as fukk to how things are now, and other dudes are plain oblivious because their attractive/in the top 20% and have been winning so they can't understand how one could ever lose.
Exactly
Yeah it’s a hard sell when your needs are taken care of otherwise.
Also the bolded seems ideal. I thought I was the only one who felt that way.
And I have several friends like this. They are divorcees whose children are grown. They have BFs who would have expressed desire for marriage, but they just like their space and freedom.![]()
I don't understand this point. If yall combining money everybody should have overflow to do what they want after everything is paid.I’m just too OCD about cleanliness. My boyfriend does an okay job keeping his house clean but it’s not up to my standards. Really no one except for one friend keeps their place up to my standards cleaning wise so I’m just too particular. It often means that I can’t relax unless my place looks a certain way, and if I’m living with someone who isn’t as clean as I am, I know I’ll have to clean up more (which is already what I have to do after my son)and I don’t want to.
I like to sleep in the bed by myself, I just get too hot at night with someone else in the bed with me. My boyfriend used to get mad because I didn’t want to do sleepovers, but I don’t get a good sleep unless I have the entire bed to myself lol. I do them now, and just accept that I won’t sleep well that night. But having to do that everyday?
I like spending my money the way I want and buying what I want without worry. Once you combine money with someone else, that shyt gets complicated.
I don’t want to answer to anyone else, lol. I don’t want to have always keep him in mind when I’m making decisions either.
Finally, I like having my alone time and freedom. Like my own room. My own space. It’s just nice.
So trust me you aren’t the only one, who feels that way. I’ve met a number of women, and even in my own family, have a number of married and now divorced women that have said they don’t ever want to live with a man again lol.
Judgement over how I spend my money, questions asked about bank statements, purchases, about my spending habits etc. because I’m not going to lie I buy what I want when I want and sometimes that’s not exactly wise but it’s my money lol. Again it gets complicated when your suddenly having to be accountable for your budgeting, spending and saving habits, especially if it’s different from the other persons.I don't understand this point. If yall combining money everybody should have overflow to do what they want after everything is paid.
I’m just too OCD about cleanliness. My boyfriend does an okay job keeping his house clean but it’s not up to my standards. Really no one except for one friend keeps their place up to my standards cleaning wise so I’m just too particular. It often means that I can’t relax unless my place looks a certain way, and if I’m living with someone who isn’t as clean as I am, I know I’ll have to clean up more (which is already what I have to do after my son)and I don’t want to.
I like to sleep in the bed by myself, I just get too hot at night with someone else in the bed with me. My boyfriend used to get mad because I didn’t want to do sleepovers, but I don’t get a good sleep unless I have the entire bed to myself lol. I do them now, and just accept that I won’t sleep well that night. But having to do that everyday?
I like spending my money the way I want and buying what I want without worry. Once you combine money with someone else, that shyt gets complicated.
I don’t want to answer to anyone else, lol. I don’t want to have always keep him in mind when I’m making decisions either.
Finally, I like having my alone time and freedom. Like my own room. My own space. It’s just nice.
So trust me you aren’t the only one, who feels that way. I’ve met a number of women, and even in my own family, of now divorced women that have said they don’t ever want to live with a man again lol.
I don’t want to live with another adult period. Man or woman. I like living on my own. I like doing what I want with my money. I don’t want to have to answer to anyone.But You wouldn't mind being in a lesbian relationship with a baddie and sharing the bed and resources.![]()
Y'all are weird when you say this, I've simply changed my priorities and moved away from chasing/convincing/looking for women. I make more money than most and I haven't even finished school yet, I drive a luxury car, I'm in good shape, etc. but I know better than to waste my time in a low chance of success endeavor, so I switch my focus and use what I can access to fill voids of what I can't. It's not defeat, it's awareness and realism.
Since we're giving takes on how people's opinions come off a lot of older dudes in this thread are naive as fukk to how things are now, and other dudes are plain oblivious because their attractive/in the top 20% and have been winning so they can't understand how one could ever lose.
Women are horrible with money on avg brehI don't understand this point. If yall combining money everybody should have overflow to do what they want after everything is paid.
As I said in another post, it’s mutual, we both are getting what we want out of the relationship. I’m not sure why it’s wrong if his mindset is consistent sex if that is also mine, because it means we both are on the same page.
Arguably the very fact that I am a single mom shows how I’ve always felt about marriage—I didn’t value it then and still don’t now. I only wanted a child. My son’s father did want to get married—by the time the baby came I was over him(for a variety of reasons) and I left.
Also I have a friend who just got engaged, she has two children—she’s 38 and she desperately wanted marriage, and that is why she is happily engaged. She made that clear to her boyfriend and 1 year later he popped the question. Some woman want more than companionship, even if they have children. They want that commitment and that wedding.
I will probably have another child, (like 90% likely). So me having a child already isn’t why I don’t care about it. I also don’t see what’s wrong with a relationship lol. Y’all are acting like it’s weird to be okay with being in a relationship.
I told my boyfriend I’m open to a marriage where we don’t live together—like maybe living next door or even getting a duplex.
He has 1 child—a 5 year old daughter, not multiple kids lol. He also would love to get married. Many previously married men are more likely to marry again because I think they get used to that arrangement and want it again just with someone else lol.
You see it too lol
These coli old heads are out of touch.![]()
Im saving this lol
no such thing as a “wife material” older woman.
Just an old bytch looking to play house bc her looks fell off & she’s tired of paying all the bills by herself![]()