I don't date men with kids. I live in DC so there are tons of young Black childless professionals. That is what I stick too.
Men with kids: Your Cup of Tea or Nah?
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DazednTranslation
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I live in DC as well and the older I get (especially in this area), it gets harder to find a guy that doesn't have kids. I really don't discriminate either way but as a mom, I would prefer to date someone with experience with kids especially if we were to get serious.
I've always had a preference of single moms than the ones without kids don't get me wrong I dated both but enjoyed more with single moms
I dated them when I had no kids when I was single
And then when I was a single father
And from my experience and point of view they ain't no way as bad as
This forum makes them to be
Sure I could of been lucky at the same Time they aren't given a chance cuz of either the kid or cuz worried bout the baby daddy
As far as he goes it no diff with one with no kids she have a side piece so it's same damn thing as having a baby daddy if ur afraid of the cheating aspect which I feel if someone is gonna ain't shyt u can do about it no matter what the situation
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If she is a good woman she will be loyal simple as that[/QUOTE]
HeavyTheDon
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I've noticed more women flirt when I'm out with my son. It usually starts with them saying how cute my son is and then it leads to them flirting with me. My band is on full display and they don't give a damn.
I'm a dude obviously, and I only date women with kids; those without dont understand the situation and can cannot relate
MysticMonroe
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Nope. Because most of the time the guy is currently or in the future having sex with the baby mama. Some guys have this weird thing where they have little to no standards for their baby mama but have unrealistic standards for their wife. They knock up a chick they had a 1 night stand with and not even know her name but what the women they marry to be a supermodel/pornstar/brain surgeon/trillionaire when their no catch themselves.
I met this one guy on a dating site, he said he had no kids, when we first met he admitted he had a daughter. Then he proceeds to tell me that he didn't think she was his, that the baby mama was a friends with benefits. That was a red flag to me, first he lied about having a kid, then bashes the baby mama to me. Like that is a way of proving he's over her, but it just made me look at him different. I don't like when guys tell girls info about the other one that is disrespectful. He just got a DNA test last year, this kid is like 5-6 now, just saw a recent pic. Like your just now getting a dna test. To shorten this, too many people are having kids from short term relationships, a kid is forever, it links 2 people together forever. Its just drama I don't want in my life.
I met this one guy on a dating site, he said he had no kids, when we first met he admitted he had a daughter. Then he proceeds to tell me that he didn't think she was his, that the baby mama was a friends with benefits. That was a red flag to me, first he lied about having a kid, then bashes the baby mama to me. Like that is a way of proving he's over her, but it just made me look at him different. I don't like when guys tell girls info about the other one that is disrespectful. He just got a DNA test last year, this kid is like 5-6 now, just saw a recent pic. Like your just now getting a dna test. To shorten this, too many people are having kids from short term relationships, a kid is forever, it links 2 people together forever. Its just drama I don't want in my life.
agnosticlady
AL loves da kids : )
The moment he admitted to having a child I would've just walked away. Yes all that baby mama/baby daddy stuff has too much drama. No to sound sadistic but unless the mother has passed, is remarried and out of the picture, or they both truly do not like each other but remain civil there is something going on. To be fair to mother of the child I have seen relationships where the girlfriend tries to act as if she is a better mother and tries to put things in the child's head. I can understand why some mothers can get annoyed by that. At where I work a step mother came in with her step son calling him stupid and dirty. Then she started telling me about how the mother is pathetic and etc. Smh
This is bullcrap and I can only say that because I have a child and my daughter's father and I get along but he knows damn well ain't shyt going with me and vice versa. At the same time I understand your stance. I wouldn't recommend any woman without children to date a man that did. With that said, kid or no kid, there may always be a bytch lingering in the back ground. I think exes are worse than baby mothers especially when you meet a guy that's still cool with them.
agnosticlady
AL loves da kids : )
You are right, there are instances where both parties get along and nothing is going on. In my experiences there is usually too much drama that comes with. I've seen both ends of the coins. Some baby mothers will use kids or any reason to mess with the relationship. I think that women should watch out for men who have those buddy relationships with their ex's. "Oh that's just my sister, cousin, best-friend. I am helping her get through some emotional stuff."
If a dude tells me someone is their sister and they haven't shared the same womb or spermYou are right, there are instances where both parties get along and nothing is going on. In my experiences there is usually too much drama that comes with. I've seen both ends of the coins. Some baby mothers will use kids or any reason to mess with the relationship. I think that women should watch out for men who have those buddy relationships with their ex's. "Oh that's just my sister, cousin, best-friend. I am helping her get through some emotional stuff."
Yall fukking!
Your my *pending* sisterIf a dude tells me someone is their sister and they haven't shared the same womb or sperm
Tenchi Ryu
Ashtray B!tch
Damn straight....If a dude tells me someone is their sister and they haven't shared the same womb or sperm
Best friend, "cousin", play sister...all warning signs imho.
Nope. I don't want to play momma to anyone's kids but the ones that may come from my womb.
