Millennial marriage statistics

[Unknown Poster]

Just save yourself. All you can do at this point.

Save yourself black man.
This country is a joke and all of its institutions are just not designed for us.

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

Breh I'm your around your age (Gen Z) and it's not happening, for all the reasons listed ITT. Women don't want to build anything anymore, they want finished products, and they'll date older to get it. That's completely understandable from a resources perspective, but once I get to a place I have, I'm supposed to just develop convenient amnesia and forget the woman (who were just as if not more broke than I) who wouldn't piss on me if I was on fire in my early/mid 20s? I'm supposed to put forth manufactured/false/blind trust in women who place finances leaps and bounds ahead of character, chemistry, and compatibility? On behalf of what, a crumbling black community that doesn't even value/big up men that do things on the straight and narrow?

Call it selfish, call it p*ssy, call it risk averse, and I'll wear it like my skin. I'm going through some of the hardest times of my life, on the strength of family and personal fortitude, once you get past that it only get easier. Unless you really want kids it's very hard to justify the importance of a legal wife in modern society. In terms of sex you can get maaad milk without buying a cow even before you level up, if you know how to manipulate emotions. In terms of finances, how many women are really going to significantly elevate your quality of life by adding income through joint means, without hoarding some of their own money, or bringing in substantial/notable debt? I don't even have to get into the courts.

I'm 22, trying to finish school, and barring freshman year, lived at home my whole life, I'm supposed to finish get my own place and have less than 12-15 years to live on my own terms before again having to make decisions with input from other(s). I don't see it. I just don't. I may be skewed/bitter/jaded but when you contrast the opportunities and experience you have to forgo to live on the straight and narrow as a breh and match that up to the female counterpart, I can't see how I wouldn't end up more likely than not getting worked to some degree.

Outside of girls (now women, i guess) from hs and college, in the internet era you really don't know these women. I can't commit to a woman that used to have and OnlyFans or sugar daddy, but why would any woman who wants a chance at being taking out the game by a solid guy readily admit that early on, or at all. Older generations need to understand the world has changed and shyt isn't cut and dry.

I haven't even touched on finding a wife if you're a certain type of breh who only is seeking half black/bw exclusively.

Lmao damn. You bring up a good point. A lot of the chicks I went to high school with got an Onlyfans

 

[Paper Boi]

younger millennials are still in their 20s lol

not everybody rushing out to get married when they 24


either way, half the population regardless of race isn't getting married. capitalism is the reason for this problem. it's great when things are all good, but the economy been way too bipolar for the past 15 years lol.

it creates instability in peoples financial and social lives.

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

Actually I keep hearing this narrative from Kevin Samuels, Glendon Cameron, and Ericka Williams that in the future people will be getting married because a single income simply won't cut it for the average person. I don't believe it because the media has made Individuality a staple in American culture, especially for black women. Can't put the genie back in the bottle. At best, we'll see more Boy-Toy cohabitation situations like this where it goes on for a few years, maybe have 1 kid, and the relationship fizzles out



And no surprise none of the 3 people I mentioned above are married, although I can bet each are raking in around half-a-mil a year or more.

Notice how they only ever feature black women on this shyt, rarely brehs

 

[Tupac in a Business Suit]

Why would I want to limit myself to just one woman? Marriage might be wise for women but for a guy its downright dumb if you have shyt going for you. Obviously there are some men who will be lucky to get just one woman to have sex with them on the regular and procreate (if thats what they want). But for a guy with money and decent looks its downright stupid.

I'd rather live the life of a bachelor indefinitely. Have sex with lots of women without having to lie or creep. And keep my money in case things go south.

So just say sex is the priority then. You place a premium on sex therefore you use the money to get sex. Without the money you prioritize, you can’t get sex. You ain’t got an ounce of ism in ya blood family.

 

[Bossino]

Lmao damn. You bring up a good point. A lot of the chicks I went to high school with got an Onlyfans

And guess what, when they turn 25-27 (if they white latina), 27-29 if they (black) they'll magically switch their IG from clubbing/Cardi B/twerking to Housekeeping/Snoh Aalegra/working out type shyt. Using buzzwords like consistency, no games, something serious, build a future, etc. Some unsuspecting dude will then hit the

Ooooh, I think I came up. She works out listens to decent shyt and looks like she down for the long haul. When in reality she just doesn't want to HAVE to support herself/ask her parents for money for the rest of her life, and wants to experience playing house irl. She take anyone who'll hitch their truck to her trailer as long as their finances are average/decent and their looks are average. But her OG nature/traits will resurface as soon as she feels she has control of the man.

It's becoming more transparently transactional. Hell it started as a business deal with dowries and all, but people recently tried to sprinkle love on that ish, while keeping rules strictly business. I'll never tell anyone to not get married individually/directly/personally, but I will say I don't think it's for me/most people in it's current construction.

 

[Bossino]

younger millennials are still in their 20s lol

not everybody rushing out to get married when they 24


either way, half the population regardless of race isn't getting married. capitalism is the reason for this problem. it's great when things are all good, but the economy been way too bipolar for the past 15 years lol.

it creates instability in peoples financial and social lives.

I'd semi-challenge this, while it's a large factor that whole red pill paradigm plays a role here. A lot of men across demographics are seeing for the first time that for some men, historically marriage has been a business decision necessary for the women, fueled by financial standing as opposed to predicated on love. Many men sincerely and wholly ate up the Disney tropes they were fed and having women disqualify them off rip, for being broke (when the man and woman are often in comparable financial standing) has soured a lot of men. The prevalence of divorce coupled with the splitting of assets in divorce are making men risk averse to marriage in poor financial times such as this but the fact, that the division is fundamentally uneven has soured a lot of men, especially those who grew up post '90 hearing 3rd wave feminist campaigning that they could do everything men can. Logically if that's the case no special protections are necessary in divorce anymore, but therein lies the rub.

I know personally it's an either/or situation. If you're feminist you'll bring me the prenup saying you want us to leave with what we came with, and keep finances largely separate, but conveniently feminism omits it's principles in key situations such as marriage, wage gaps, domestic violence, etc.

 

[Sonic Boom of the South]

Coli c00ns making up narratives to fit their self hate

 

[Ethnic Vagina Finder]

Dudes ain’t trying to wife women that got kids

 

[Easy-E]

Personally, I'm a average black millennial in terms of problems, but, my father is divorced and has PLENTY of assets to leave me.

I would NEVER risk that shyt in a marriage.

From the HL thread...
https://www.thecoli.com/threads/as-millennials-near-40-they’re-approaching-family-life-differently-than-previous-generations.815437/

I think you lean a little too heavily on "black people are broke, why ya'll worried about divorce."

Our numbers are low for one MAIN reason; Women (regardless of race) do not marry "down." aka Hypergamy.

Your logic is sound. But, even in the anecdotal sense; "Fat" women want Prime Morris Chestnut. "Hustlers/CEO/Businesswomen" (when it's shown thta 98% of black [women] businesses are sole proprietors) who hustle off IG want a Fortune 500 employee who plans on branching out to their own business.

If I got "nothing" why bond myself legally to another with "nothing" and the problems that come with not meeting the expectations of "The White Picket."

Those post were great--I disagree. But, I'd like it read more about what you think on this topic. I can be wrong.

 

[Rekkapryde]

And guess what, when they turn 25-27 (if they white latina), 27-29 if they (black) they'll magically switch their IG from clubbing/Cardi B/twerking to Housekeeping/Snoh Aalegra/working out type shyt. Using buzzwords like consistency, no games, something serious, build a future, etc. Some unsuspecting dude will then hit the

Ooooh, I think I came up. She works out listens to decent shyt and looks like she down for the long haul. When in reality she just doesn't want to HAVE to support herself/ask her parents for money for the rest of her life, and wants to experience playing house irl. She take anyone who'll hitch their truck to her trailer as long as their finances are average/decent and their looks are average. But her OG nature/traits will resurface as soon as she feels she has control of the man.

It's becoming more transparently transactional. Hell it started as a business deal with dowries and all, but people recently tried to sprinkle love on that ish, while keeping rules strictly business. I'll never tell anyone to not get married individually/directly/personally, but I will say I don't think it's for me/most people in it's current construction.

that "no games" is the #1 sign of bird/thotdom

 

[YaFingerDealMe]

I blame it on a lack of role models my life has been so peaceful since I chilled

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

that "no games" is the #1 sign of bird/thotdom

 

[Easy-E]

In terms of finances, how many women are really going to significantly elevate your quality of life by adding income through joint means, without hoarding some of their own money, or bringing in substantial/notable debt? I don't even have to get into the courts.

This is the biggest thing people refuse to acknowledge.

 

[yung Herbie Hancock]

Personally, I'm a average black millennial in terms of problems, but, my father is divorced and has PLENTY of assets to leave me.

I would NEVER risk that shyt in a marriage.





I think you lean a little too heavily on "black people are broke, why ya'll worried about divorce."

Our numbers are low for one MAIN reason; Women (regardless of race) do not marry "down." aka Hypergamy.

Your logic is sound. But, even in the anecdotal sense; "Fat" women want Prime Morris Chestnut. "Hustlers/CEO/Businesswomen" (when it's shown thta 98% of black [women] businesses are sole proprietors) who hustle off IG want a Fortune 500 employee who plans on branching out to their own business.

If I got "nothing" why bond myself legally to another with "nothing" and the problems that come with not meeting the expectations of "The White Picket."

Those post were great--I disagree. But, I'd like it read more about what you think on this topic. I can be wrong.

Exactly. Dude really tried to claim that marriage rates are down because "black men are scared of divorce even though they own no assets". Dude never responded when I called him out on it either