I don't think anybody was saying that men hate hoes, even the ones who don't choose us for whatever reason. We do not like hoes who try to pretend they are not hoes. Its a big difference btw a hoe who lets it be known that she is one, but ain't feeling you personally vs a hoe who tries to act like she has a low body count and she only has sex while in relationships.
Nobody complains that good women aren't giving it up, its just a fear among men that she is pretending to be a good women and making you court her while she is having sex with somebody else. If a guy finds a genuine good woman he wouldn't trash her for being that way.
If men didn't hate hoes the derogatory word wouldn't even exist bro.
In fact slut shaming wouldn't exist. It isn't the lies that are problematic. Be real. It's the idea that women having sex with anything other than u is problematic for most men, but somehow ya'all have to fight against ur instincts because you guys are still attracted to these types.
The whole slut/virgin dynamic is a real struggle for ya'll. And that's fine. Women struggle with shyt too.
But I'm tired of pretending otherwise.
Nobody is honest about stuff like this. That's another irritating part of this. Everybody paints themselves as a woe is me untarnished angel wading thru swampy hoe infest waters when really if u in the swamp you probably a hoe too.
Honestly I've heard one dude be 100% real about male expectations. Dude said men want perfect women to be sexually available only to them and loyal while they smash as many other women as possible, while still remaining available when they finish with other chicks.
Women have just as many unrealistic expectations but it just sounds absurd to me from either end.