These are 2 girls I'm cool with, one is 30 (nurse) and the other 39 (govt employee). In the same week, the both are complaining about the men they meet are all Broke.
Now the 30 yo has an amazing body, face not to bad either.
She's pretty broke herself always working long and extra hours and double shirts to make it. We use to mess around and kick it sometimes, but she wants a man to spoil her and help ease her financial burdens., so we never got far.
Just trying to understand her expectation I asked her, how much does a man needs to spend/help on her monthly to make her happy? She really couldn't say. I tell her, seems women want to go out weekly to dinner or some activity when you first dating. That can easily be over $500 a month. She says that's cool, but I tell her, that's a lot for a man making 100k here in DC. Here's how I broke it down to her.
$100,000 = est. $2500 after taxes bi-weekly (depending on your tax situation)
Rent easily can be 2250$, after utilities and internet, that's one check gone.
Car, insurance, gas, food, dining, happy hours, and shopping can easily reach 2000$ God forbid he likes to gamble, smokes or tricks off. Or is paying child support.

So it's not about how much you make per say, but how much you have to play with after all your bills are paid. I don't think most people in DC have $500 left.
Even if a man does like her a lot he might run up that credit card, but after a few months, he's going to have to slow it down.
She gets quiet and reality starts to hit her.
The 39 year old Govt Employee seems to be making good money, but she brags on her credit cards, so I don't know how much she really getting. She is taking a European cruise soon, says it's alike 10k. But going in debt to travel and stunt isn't unfamiliar to DC. I just know we split when we go out. She tells me that every man she meet is Broke and don't want to travel with her. She's a cute, well kept women, but she doesn't dress the best. She's from GA. Dresses like a conservative teacher id say.
I tell her, I don't know where this idea that men are making all this money came from. There's a lot of men making in DC making 100k, but to have a nice car / crib and money to play with in the DMV, you need about 130k minimum in my opinion.
Now the 30 yo has an amazing body, face not to bad either.

She's pretty broke herself always working long and extra hours and double shirts to make it. We use to mess around and kick it sometimes, but she wants a man to spoil her and help ease her financial burdens., so we never got far.
Just trying to understand her expectation I asked her, how much does a man needs to spend/help on her monthly to make her happy? She really couldn't say. I tell her, seems women want to go out weekly to dinner or some activity when you first dating. That can easily be over $500 a month. She says that's cool, but I tell her, that's a lot for a man making 100k here in DC. Here's how I broke it down to her.
$100,000 = est. $2500 after taxes bi-weekly (depending on your tax situation)
Rent easily can be 2250$, after utilities and internet, that's one check gone.
Car, insurance, gas, food, dining, happy hours, and shopping can easily reach 2000$ God forbid he likes to gamble, smokes or tricks off. Or is paying child support.

So it's not about how much you make per say, but how much you have to play with after all your bills are paid. I don't think most people in DC have $500 left.
Even if a man does like her a lot he might run up that credit card, but after a few months, he's going to have to slow it down.
She gets quiet and reality starts to hit her.

The 39 year old Govt Employee seems to be making good money, but she brags on her credit cards, so I don't know how much she really getting. She is taking a European cruise soon, says it's alike 10k. But going in debt to travel and stunt isn't unfamiliar to DC. I just know we split when we go out. She tells me that every man she meet is Broke and don't want to travel with her. She's a cute, well kept women, but she doesn't dress the best. She's from GA. Dresses like a conservative teacher id say.
I tell her, I don't know where this idea that men are making all this money came from. There's a lot of men making in DC making 100k, but to have a nice car / crib and money to play with in the DMV, you need about 130k minimum in my opinion.