My boss just reprimanded me for not "being talkative" at work

[theflyest]

This is very common amongst blacks in the workplace because the corporate environment is extremely white and we really don’t fit in. Therefore, we just do our work & bounce. Even people who are naturally extroverts tend to become introverts in the workplace.

Silence can make people uncomfortable and all types of assumptions are created in their head such as “this person doesn’t like me.” In reality, this person isn’t thinking about you.

 

[spliz]

You don't know anything about her for 1. For 2, why would you or anyone else care if she's a bytch? Not sure about you, but I come to work, to work. As long as she doing her job she can be that quiet bytch, makes no difference to me.

I know for damn sure I ain't bout to run to upper management because she wouldn't talk to me. Grade A definition of Cac shyt

Did u not read what I said? I said she shouldn’t be penalized for being a bytch. I said but don’t be surprised if people feel that way tho. Also. I never said I knew her. I said based on the PATTERNS she spoke on. She may very well be a bytch. My guy. I’m too successful at doing BUSINESS to let this emotional shyt cloud my logic and real life working experience. Handling and dealing with employees. U obviously didn’t read my whole post before u responded with ur feelings.

 

[MischievousMonkey]

Imma keep it 100. I get the premise of what she’s saying and even agree to an extent. But from what she’s saying she has a pattern of this with all her jobs. She may very well be a bytch. Lol. Just keepin it real. If u meet an a$$hole in the morning. U met an a$$hole. If u been meeting a$$holes all day. YOUR the a$$hole.

That's what I was about to say.

I'm not talkative at all as well so I'm not even mad at that. But if people kept giving you the same remark everywhere you go, at some point...

If nobody likes you or want to work with you, might be beneficial to show some humility and take the hint just saying.

 

[Roid Jones]

IF this is the case, she should escalate to HR, there is no reason for her boss to talk to her about this

 

[TheAnointedOne]

Information is power, and white people want power over you by having some information about you. The 'mystery negro' co-worker is something they fukking HATE. They NEED to dig into your life. A black person they have no power over drives them crazy.

 

[Umoja]

Truth is somewhere in the middle.

You can't really go into a company with the attitude that your job isn't to be friends with people. You don't have be drinking buddies or share personal information, but acting as though it is enough to simply perform your tasks isn't it.

Depending on your line of work, you're going to have to ask for favours at some point. It works easiest if you have developed a rapport with other staff and if there a history of give and take.

Complaining to the manager stinks of entitlement though. Kind of tells me that the person is nosey as most people just ignore the frosty people in the office and deal with them only when necessary.

What the second woman said was also on point. People that go out of their way to force social interactions and get bent out of shape when they're not the centre of attention are usually the people fukking around the most.

 

[Mike809]

I remember i couldnt get accepted in this woman’s class because i wouldnt talk much or at all


If i dont want to talk


Then i aint about to be talkin



least I wouldn’t be one of the kids who wouldnt shut the fukk up

plot twist: it was a public speaking class.

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

she seems like she applies for the type of job where a key skill is "team player" or some shyt like that. she need to get it together if that's the case

 

[Sterling Archer]

Imma keep it 100. I get the premise of what she’s saying and even agree to an extent. But from what she’s saying she has a pattern of this with all her jobs. She may very well be a bytch. Lol. Just keepin it real. If u meet an a$$hole in the morning. U met an a$$hole. If u been meeting a$$holes all day. YOUR the a$$hole. Me being a boss for years and always being the best at what I do and one of the hardest workers I’ve ever known. But I always been a cool nikka and pretty sociable as well. Not everyone is the same tho and no one should be penalized for being a quiet person. But there’s being quiet. And there’s being an a$$hole. Not saying u should get penalized for being an a$$hole. But don’t be an a$$hole and be surprised people think ur an a$$hole. Lol. That whole statement of “quiet people are the best at their jobs” shyt is a gross generalization and super cap too. I’ve had plenty of quiet workers try to fly under the radar with they bullshyt. Lol.

You’re operating under the assumption that everyone calls her an a$$hole and as far as I heard (I could’ve missed it) they just say “she doesn’t speak to me” or “She doesn’t like me”.

And like the second lady said, these are the attention seeking people that are a distraction themselves. They take up your time with frivolous shyt as their superior and create scenarios that aren’t really work related. This usually happens with women and cacs in my experience. And it’s always the one that does to much coming to complain. Now I have to address the shyt like they kids and the person being complained about almost always says the same thing: “I don’t know what she’s talking about. I’m usually just working and speak whenever they speak to me”. And then it creates this dynamic where the one complaining has to be babied. I’ll fire someone over that shyt, not for being dry at work.

 

[AQz]

I work from home permanently is it fortunately my job is a cool place. When I was in the office I and others would pretty much wear our over the ear headphones all day aside from the times we had meetings or needed to collaborate.

work is about getting work done.

 

[Sterling Archer]

she seems like she applies for the type of job where a key skill is "team player" or some shyt like that. she need to get it together if that's the case

This is the assumption but the reality is you can have a job where you work independently and cacs will still make the same complaints. The problem isn’t the type of job, it’s the entitlement of people.

Even if it was a team based job, they aren’t ever talking about how communicative you are in relation to the job, it’s about you not conversing with them personally about shyt that’s not work related and their inability to take the blow to their ego that someone is completely indifferent to them.

 

[spliz]

You’re operating under the assumption that everyone calls her an a$$hole and as far as I heard (I could’ve missed it) they just say “she doesn’t speak to me” or “She doesn’t like me”.

And like the second lady said, these are the attention seeking people that are a distraction themselves. They take up your time with frivolous shyt as their superior and create scenarios that aren’t really work related. This usually happens with women and cacs in my experience. And it’s always the one that does to much coming to complain. Now I have to address the shyt like they kids and the person being complained about almost always says the same thing: “I don’t know what she’s talking about. I’m usually just working and speak whenever they speak to me”. And then it creates this dynamic where the one complaining has to be babied. I’ll fire someone over that shyt, not for being dry at work.

She said people call her a bytch. Lol. She said it happens everywhere she go, all I said is I don’t like to take what people who create patterns say for face value. She may be telling the truth. If she’s telling the truth. That’s fukked up and unprofessional for her boss to even press her about it. Right there it becomes an HR issue. Even if she is an a$$hole. If she ain’t disrespecting nobody, or hindering people from doing their work. She shouldn’t be reprimanded for it. I just said don’t be an a$$hole and be surprised people think ur an a$$hole. Lol. There’s a lot of a$$holes out there who don’t know their a$$holes. They think it’s everyone else.

 

[Cᵣₐₛₕ&ₜₕₑCₒᵤₚ]

This the realest s*** ever. Keep it a buck, I find this a thing across all races or w/e in this country. People will despise you if you don't want to indulge in their peon talk at work and want to keep it strictly professional.

A lot of people view coworkers as a form of entertainment at work and if you don't oblige them they will try to spite you. I got to get on my work from home game smh.​

 

[bourgeoisie tall freak]

This is the assumption but the reality is you can have a job where you work independently and cacs will make the same complaints. The problem isn’t the type of job, it’s the entitlement of people.

i'm in atlanta all my working life so needless to say i've experienced literally the same from mexicans and black bosses.
but i've also had statements such as "you should wear tighter pants" to work.
on the scale of things, this is a meh for me

 

[seabreeze80]

The second video is the truth