Your Cousin's problems go much much deeper than deciding to stay engage or not. Anyone who does not stop an engagement after finding out that their partner cheated on them has major issues that they need to work on. These days, so many guys try to run away from life. But sticking your head in the sand and proclaiming ignorance does not change reality. Listen to this segment from James Baldwin. Like 4 or 5 minutes.
Your Cousin's life will go up in flames. Right now he wants to cling to his engagement in an attempt to avoid the pain that he knows a breakup will create. But there is no escaping paying your dues. Either, the relationship ends now or it ends in divorce (There's a third option -they marry and never divorced - but it is the worst case scenario because your Cousin will be fully emasculated). The key to being a man, and the key to building confidence, is to go through these painful moments that we fear, get knocked down and then get back up and continue living life. This is the natural way of life. Your Cousin's predicament reminds me of a quote, "A ship is safe in a harbor, but that's not what ships are built for." The best thing you can do for your Cousin is to be there when things go bad. He has a tough time ahead of him, but when he comes out on the other side he will be a much more confident man. And then, hopefully, he won't give girls that disrespect him the time of day.
Your Cousin's life will go up in flames. Right now he wants to cling to his engagement in an attempt to avoid the pain that he knows a breakup will create. But there is no escaping paying your dues. Either, the relationship ends now or it ends in divorce (There's a third option -they marry and never divorced - but it is the worst case scenario because your Cousin will be fully emasculated). The key to being a man, and the key to building confidence, is to go through these painful moments that we fear, get knocked down and then get back up and continue living life. This is the natural way of life. Your Cousin's predicament reminds me of a quote, "A ship is safe in a harbor, but that's not what ships are built for." The best thing you can do for your Cousin is to be there when things go bad. He has a tough time ahead of him, but when he comes out on the other side he will be a much more confident man. And then, hopefully, he won't give girls that disrespect him the time of day.
