my girls depression has gotten so bad that I don't want to be around her

[Beck.er.]

Situational depression is connected to negative events.

Major depression is deeper. It comes from within, seems to have no obvious cause and affects how you perceive and experience everything. There are usually physical symptoms too.

 

[Hope]

I was actually told today that I might have Schizoaffective or Bipolar Disorder. They thought it was depression years ago. I didn't take it well at all and I'm furious tonight. Gonna start treatment I really don't want to do. I can be very difficult to live with I put my friends and family through hell for the past ten years. We have choices. You can stay or leave. You can't fix her or really help her, I know with me, people who try to help just end up enabling or feeling resentful because they just don't know what to do and get frustrated.

I have a lot of work to do, and have to accept that it can only happen through baby steps. She has a choice. She can do better or not. It's more than just taking pills and talking to someone. That's what I'm learning. But allegedly i'm not okay, so maybe I am wrong.

I always thought it was just my drug use and came to 12-step fellowships and still ended up in wards, court, and lonely without drugs (violence and major crimes are no part of my story, so the way I act sometimes is not me). I'm grateful to be clean, but I'm struggling with life right now, and had no idea until recently. I could right an essay on what happened this year, but allegedly I'm not stable, and need a lot of help (three separate social workers told me this past two months). I got suspended from college, and lost a job, and then spent the whole month threatening people and harassing people, and had no idea that anything was wrong. I'm gonna feel like shyt when I come down.

 

[ejthompson23]

Going thru the same thing right now homie wife got meds for depression and anxiety and doctors think she maybe bipolar too its hard when i see her cry and stuff pills down her throat that bright smile gone getting phone calls at work frm her saying she dnt wanna fight this feelong no more had to beg my manager to take me off the nightshift so i can be home with her calls frm her supervisor every month to come get her frm work after an anxiety attack cause they wont let her drive back home its a hard knock life bruh if you a weak ass nikka you'll leave her, but walking out on a good woman is not ideal..

 

[Sauce Dab]

This sounds like the second season of the show "you're the worst"

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

I spentna month in a mental health hospital..

I got severe mood swings..feel high and great then hours later feel sad and unhappy as fukk. Start focusing on all the bad things or mistakes from the past,and any self confidence goes out the window

Suck because all the meds they been giving fukking suck ive been on lithium and Latuda. I cant smoke sativas either or I get paranoid as fukk.


Met a pretty quiet girl who suffered from what you"re describing OP. She always felt sad and shameful at how a failure she was even though she legit is wifey material,kind and errything. I tried to get her number before I discharged but

 

[Spiritual Stratocaster]

Going thru the same thing right now homie wife got meds for depression and anxiety and doctors think she maybe bipolar too its hard when i see her cry and stuff pills down her throat that bright smile gone getting phone calls at work frm her saying she dnt wanna fight this feelong no more had to beg my manager to take me off the nightshift so i can be home with her calls frm her supervisor every month to come get her frm work after an anxiety attack cause they wont let her drive back home its a hard knock life bruh if you a weak ass nikka you'll leave her, but walking out on a good woman is not ideal..

Don't give up breh..let her know you still there too...emotions are intensified ehen bipolar. Any fears or doubt s she has about herself intensify too. Also gets to a point where feeling happy doesnt feel normal and its easier to feel like shyt. Im bipolar and this shyt is hard.

 

[ejthompson23]

Don't give up breh..let her know you still there too...emotions are intensified ehen bipolar. Any fears or doubt s she has about herself intensify too. Also gets to a point where feeling happy doesnt feel normal and its easier to feel like shyt. Im bipolar and this shyt is hard.

That shyt hard when she say some crazy shyt, i dont know if thats her true feelings or her meds talking she once asked for a divorce just so i wont suffer with her how do you leave a woman like that? Even when she suffering, shes thinking bout me yesterday made it 3 years to the day since we been together had more ups and downs then i can count, but we still here ..

 

[BrehWyatt]

She's always battled with depression / anxiety issues & is currently on medication for it.

Recently though out of thin blue air, shyt has gotten worse. It's almost as if I'm living with another person.
She's ultra sensitive towards everything, getting her to talk out her problems is like getting blood from a stone and what makes it even more troubling is she doesn't know why she's feeling this way.

According to her these bouts can last from weeks to months and we have to ride them out. I'm trying to be patient because I realize that depression is a form of mental illness and God forbid she went ill with anything else, I'd be there and support her to the end but, this is the most strenuous and nerve wracking thing we have ever had to deal with in our relationship.

Does anyone suffer from depression or partner fighting it?

She needs you now more than ever. If you don't think you can be that rock for her, then let her seek that support elsewhere, whether it be family, therapist, etc.

If you feel like she's worth it though, then you ride it out.

 

[ZEB WALTON]

My ex was bipolar bro she showed same signs and one day flipped it all 180 on me and i wint even go into it it got that bad. Stay strong

 

[Prince Mongo]

You are setting yourself up for a lifetime of drama. My lil bro got caught up with a woman that has mental issues. 25 years later he has a son that no one wants to deal with. Not even my moms: his own grandmother.

So I will just say: choose wisely. Don't let one factor overshadow all else. I assume she's really cute - or why would you bother. Cute can fade fairly quickly.

nikka you old af

 

[Pinyapplesuckas]

You share that girl

Spoiler

With depression

 

[Ghost Utmost]

nikka you old af

Glad you were able to glean the important part of what I wrote.

G-d willing I will get super old. Like 500. And you will also become "old af" and even super old.

 

[Mr.Plan B]

Most can't deal with it. I had people leave me who could not deal with it. Sometime it best to let that person learn handle that shyt on their own. I still get thoughts in my head , then my mood changes from chill to just zero. Worse than sad or mad my mood drops to zero. I push people away at this point, and become very mean for no reason. Gym, keeping busy, or just going to see a movie by myself help with the mood swings. People ask you what they can do to help, most of the time being alone helps much better then talking the issues out because lets be honest the deep seeded issues from the past 20 years that make you depressed won't be fix with pep talk.

Food for thought.

 

[Rawtid]

As a person who suffers with depression, my advice would be to leave. There is nothing you can do, as she has to make the changes on her own and get the help she needs. I mean if you want to stay and help gather up resources, cool but you can't "fix" it.

 

[Dad]

I was actually told today that I might have Schizoaffective or Bipolar Disorder. They thought it was depression years ago. I didn't take it well at all and I'm furious tonight. Gonna start treatment I really don't want to do. I can be very difficult to live with I put my friends and family through hell for the past ten years. We have choices. You can stay or leave. You can't fix her or really help her, I know with me, people who try to help just end up enabling or feeling resentful because they just don't know what to do and get frustrated.

I have a lot of work to do, and have to accept that it can only happen through baby steps. She has a choice. She can do better or not. It's more than just taking pills and talking to someone. That's what I'm learning. But allegedly i'm not okay, so maybe I am wrong.

I always thought it was just my drug use and came to 12-step fellowships and still ended up in wards, court, and lonely without drugs (violence and major crimes are no part of my story, so the way I act sometimes is not me). I'm grateful to be clean, but I'm struggling with life right now, and had no idea until recently. I could right an essay on what happened this year, but allegedly I'm not stable, and need a lot of help (three separate social workers told me this past two months). I got suspended from college, and lost a job, and then spent the whole month threatening people and harassing people, and had no idea that anything was wrong. I'm gonna feel like shyt when I come down.

thank for sharing this, breh & good luck to you.