Brehs need to learn how to play the system like these females do. Men need to understand the judge just hurd 30 cases just like yours and he can't give a fukk about your personal situation.
- Always be respectful and never NEVER lose your cool or talk down to the court..
- Spend time with your kids and keep all your receipts for everything I mean everything you do..
- Don't be afraid to call up and set your own court dates every now and then. Not to adjust the support amount but to ask for more time and more holidays with the kids.
- Always keep a job. Even if its burger king that job will keep you out of jail if you ever fall behind...
- remember brehs most time the female choose to go to court out of spite. If you show the judge you can play ball and that your main focus is you kids (which it should be) more and more decisions will go your way.. keep in mind the system is set up against us so if you ever have some extra money getting some legal advice is a strong idea.
The problem with this is... Dead beats don't want to spend more holidays and time with the kids.
They pick the kid up, and drop them off over their mothers house (the grand mother) and run the streets.
Deadbeats... Not good fathers. I'm not downing GOOD FATHERS who may fall on hard times.
The problem is usually communication a lot of times.
And most mothers don't go to court out of spite, or whatever you said.
They go to court, because they baby father is being INCONSISTENT and are making their job as a mother more difficult, because they never know when he's gonna come through, so she can't make any plans. Her bills get outta whack, because her baby father contributes when It's convenient for him.
So they go to court to get something in writing that says what he is supposed to give, on what specific date so she doesn't have to argue with him anymore. Because she's tired of arguing with him and having to BEG him to do what he is SUPPOSED to do.
Now, instead of fighting him, he's fighting the courts! Which he will never beat. EVER. It's harder for him, but easier for HER.
That's why it's best to try to maintain a good relationship with your baby mother. AND BE CONSISTENT!
Keep communication open! If you have a hard time. Tell her! Say, I can't give you $50 this week, but I will keep him for you a couple extra days. Sorry.
Something like that...
But dead beats don't do that!
Some of yall may not believe this, but their are some men who stop paying child support cause they are mad at the mother. Notice some of the speak in this THREAD.
"You have to pay HER or else"
You are paying for your child!
They look at it as paying a girl they used to phuck, and not child support! That is THE problem.
Then the men who stop paying child support cause the mother won't fukk them anymore. (Lots of them) Or gets a new boyfriend. They baby father acts like the new boyfriend is supposed to take care of his kids!
Meanwhile, they don't date single mothers cause they don't take care of other nikkas kids.
