Meh this isn't solely a blk male issue if u wanna be really honest about it. Of course neither blk men OR blk women can take any responsibility for ANYTHING, so it's always gonna be somebody else's fault.
But the average blk man and blk women have lost the ability to choose good mates.
Media has hyped men up too much injecting these fantasies that they deserve a 10 even if they fail at every area of their manhood. Meanwhile women are fed the same bullshyt where they expect quality for giving the bare minimum.
These unrealistic expectations have cause men and women to feel entitled to their own unreasonable preferences in a mate, while resenting the opposite sex for any standards they may have.
It's craziness. But u can't tell a blk man this b/c he'll give u all kinds of fingerpointing and deflection. And u can't tell a blk woman this b/c she'll have all types of excuses and blame games.
Meanwhile u put two average blk people in a room and they'll want everything EXCEPT each other and have a list of excuses ready if you call em on it.