My verdict on Marriage vs Single Life (based on experience)

[MikelArteta]

so your basically saying your not responsible enough to manage your time and freedom, and you need a women/babysitter to do it for you.

That being single your weak and fall to the world vices and spend money foolishly. So you get consistent sex from one person so does anyone in a committed relationship, difference is if your mariage ends or if a 7 year itch or a sexless marriage your stuck.

THere is a difference between being alone and loneliness, secondly no one has to be alone if they don';t want to, some of the most lonely people are out there married.

And you have a son, of course hes great everyone says that, at one moment you said you have more money and yet the next you hvae a 2.5 year old kid, raising kids are expensive its laughable and downright insulting for you to insist you have more money know married with a kid and a mortgage than you would if you were single with no kids and rent insulting.


a prenup doesn't protect you from divorce, the women you love is gone, the children you love adn that are yours are now being raised by another man who sees them more than you, you've only been married for four years the avg first marriage lasts for 7 years, when she feels like not having sex with yu what are you going to do? when she doesn't love you anymore or needs space what you going to do?

 

[AlreadyKnow]

There are more studies proving how much men benefit from marriage than women that I am confused why women don't wake up. Married women are the most unhappy of married men, single men, and single women. It's only on sites like this where there are people unaware of the reality the general public is living.

 

[MikelArteta]

Not having to wear a condom and never having to pull out>>>>>>

Having food in the fridge>>>>>

Having a son and his mother with the same last name as yours>>>>

Never feeling lonely>>>>>

1. you can be a committed relationship and have your girl on the ill or get a vasectomy and still doing that.

2. are you so physically incapable you cant go to the grocery store and buy food?

3. not having kids or a wife and all your money is yours>>>>>>>>having a son and chick with the same name as you

4. loneliness is a state of mind


I think we often confuse the two terms with each other. Being alone does not automatically mean we are lonely, but most women would try and describe it that way.

We often try and cure loneliness by seeking out other human company to fill the void, which, by the way, only temporarily fills the gap. Being alone and content does not constitute loneliness.

Like I said, the terms are often confused. It's much the same as when we hear people say they are depressed when in fact they are not, they are just sad or feeling down. The word depression is wrongly used to describe a natural feeling of feeling sad or pissed off or disappointed.

Many great mystics and spiritual leaders tell us that to be alone and content we need to die to the drug of needing people. Once we have gone "cold turkey" and ween ourselves off the drug of appraisal and affirmation etc etc we can then enjoy and love the company of others but not desperately need them, in fact we don't need them at all, at least not for emotional fulfillment.

In short, we can love everyone but cling to no one once we die to the need of people.

 

[MikelArteta]

There are more studies proving how much men benefit from marriage than women that I am confused why women don't wake up. Married women are the most unhappy of married men, single men, and single women. It's only on sites like this where there are people unaware of the reality the general public is living.

feminist funded agendas men don't benefit from marriage, marriae is shackles to hold you down to a mortgage, marketing, and pumping out babies and contributing to 500 companies like huggies, pampers etc.

ill pass

but i agree that married women are the most unhappy its why they file for divorce 3/4 times

 

[Son Of God]

Came in this thread and felt happy for the homie and his marriage































































































































read Reincar's response and was like

 

[AlreadyKnow]

feminist funded agendas men don't benefit from marriage, marriae is shackles to hold you down to a mortgage, marketing, and pumping out babies and contributing to 500 companies like huggies, pampers etc.

ill pass

but i agree that married women are the most unhappy its why they file for divorce 3/4 times

Oh ok. We agree. You're just smart enough to know beforehand that it's not for you whereas, I am a female and fell for the hype and got married. But for the men who want it, it benefits them tremendously.

I hope women wise up and stop judging their worth on their marital status. In the end, they will only end up in another situation that doesn't benefit them the most.

 

[FreedS[ohh]lave]

Having a relationship with a women is almost like a relationship with a child you have to tell her what to do and when to do it constantly entertain her because women get bored easily yet they dont have the wit to entertain verbally

Just be prepared for when she leaves you because you only said i love you 70 times in a month instead of 75 or she gets brainwashed by some romantic movie where she thinks you should be like the lead character at all times

 

[BlvdBrawler]

Good for you breh. But talk to me in 20 years.

 

[Super TD Jakes]

1. you can be a committed relationship and have your girl on the ill or get a vasectomy and still doing that.

2. are you so physically incapable you cant go to the grocery store and buy food?

3. not having kids or a wife and all your money is yours>>>>>>>>having a son and chick with the same name as you

4. loneliness is a state of mind


I think we often confuse the two terms with each other. Being alone does not automatically mean we are lonely, but most women would try and describe it that way.

We often try and cure loneliness by seeking out other human company to fill the void, which, by the way, only temporarily fills the gap. Being alone and content does not constitute loneliness.

Like I said, the terms are often confused. It's much the same as when we hear people say they are depressed when in fact they are not, they are just sad or feeling down. The word depression is wrongly used to describe a natural feeling of feeling sad or pissed off or disappointed.

Many great mystics and spiritual leaders tell us that to be alone and content we need to die to the drug of needing people. Once we have gone "cold turkey" and ween ourselves off the drug of appraisal and affirmation etc etc we can then enjoy and love the company of others but not desperately need them, in fact we don't need them at all, at least not for emotional fulfillment.

In short, we can love everyone but cling to no one once we die to the need of people.

@bolded, you speak nothin' but the truth throughout this thread...and homie is confused about what being alone is because I was married before and in that marriage was lonely as hell...

 

[Danie84]

Like a great man once said, Single life crazy

 

[jerniebert]

Marriage has been wonderful for me. I wouldn't trade this experience for anything. You don't necessarily need marriage to do the stuff the op mentioned but it does help. Your priorities change because you start thinking family instead of just yourself not because you can't be responsible while youre single.

 

[The Nigerian]

Now i know most of yall are anti marriage and preach these horror stories which yea, shyt is real and it can be hell, but at its best i think its better than single life. This is coming from a young dude in his 20's thats led both a fun single life, and now what i think is a great marriage. Obviously everyones different, but for me ive noted:

-Im more productive with my wife here. without her ill have so much freedom and free time that ill end up bullshytting it away.. i think she keeps me on track and motivated to get things done
-Its better for me financially; being single i piss away my money partying, drinking, and trying to have fun; not to mention having to have fly new gear and maintaining an image. with my wife i track every dollar with a budget that allows me to take care of bills, have fun, and save. i see my wealth grow and have all these future plans like investing and buying a house which are feasible. not to mention i just make more money for being married.
-The sex is better; i can easily pull random hoes but theyre not necessarily better than my wife by any means and yet they might act like it and feel entitled..whereas i get consistent GOOD sex at home whenever i want. no need to hunt, no taking risks, no condoms or worries about stds and pregnancy scares.. my girl is trained and knows what i like. idc if you're a daddy long dikk, theres gonna be dry nights and bad sex experiences.
-Being alone sometimes is necessary; but being married you dont HAVE to be at anytime you dont want. if you married her, she should be cool enough for you to consider your best friend so you shouldnt mind her companionship. being single, idc how much of a playboi you are, theres gonna be lonely moments. theres not gonna always be someone there that loves, supports, and helps you.
-Phuck cooking and cleaning lol. if i dont have to do it, then GREAT.
-I have a 2.5 year old son and hes fcuking awesome. i def wanna be there for him and raise him to be the person i want him to be. and im not even a kid person; i never liked kids and still dont. but your own becomes the exception to the rule.

In reality, i feel like in a good marriage you can have your cake and eat it too; because i have the advantages i listed above, AND i can still do most of the things i wanna do and buy whatever i wanna buy. I can still go out with the nikkas and do what i want, i can still travel, i can still have hobbies and shyt i had goin on as a single guy, and truth be told, if i wanted to smash random hoes still, i could do that on the low.

marriage is by no means perfect, but i think if you get it right and have a good girl its a way more fulfilling life. and if what you fear is divorce, then get a prenup. problem solved. i know theres gonna be guys sayin it'll get worse or whatever, but i been doin this for 4 years so its not the honeymoon stage.. and ive met people out there thats been together happily for YEARS so its possible.

YOU SHARE THAT GIRL!

 

[Hawaiian Punch]

Damn reincar how bad did your bytch do you?

 

[AZBeauty]

Lol @ lonley ass niccas. There should have been nothing but daps to that man. Rain on your happiness ass niccas.

 

[AZBeauty]

Damn reincar how bad did your bytch do you?