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Okay so, I met a guy on okcupid. The day that we met, we had sex. That was what I planned on.
But instead of leaving right after, the guy wanted me to chill there. I ended up staying until about 2am. The next day, he called out of work, and we chilled again (he called out specifically so we could chill). Both days we spent a great deal talking. He kept talking about what he was going to do in the future, and including me in his plans. (Like telling me his plans for his birthday, and inviting me to go). And he also said he deleted his account on okcupid, since we met.
So that made me think it was going to be more than just sex.
So we talk/text just about everyday on the phone.
One day we'd made plans to hang out around 8. At like 6:30, he tells me that his daughter is going to come over, and he'll call me after she leaves. Now I should have just told him to hit me up the next day, because I was thinking his daughter wouldn't be at his house for only 2 hours or whatever. But I just said okay. By 11, I didn't hear from him, so I sent him a text letting him know I wasn't a whore. I said done thing about him (probably) fukking other girls. And then I told him I blocked him. I blocked him on my phone & on Instagram.
I'm very sensitive and seeing how we got together I felt insecure. Like if he had sex with me the first night, how many other girls was he meeting and fukking?
So 2 days later I unblocked him, and asked him if he was using me just for sex. Incredulously he said no, and said I shouldn't think that. He said the message I sent him was 'crazy', I said it wasn't because that is how I was feeling. We talked some more and he said he understood where I was coming from. He said he wasn't judging or complaining about me (having sex with him the 1st night). I asked him if he still wanted to talk to me, and he said yes. So we were good.
The next day (yesterday) we were texting, and we were making plans to hang out. But half way through the conversation, he just stops responding. It wasn't like we were arguing or anything, we were talking about where to hang out. That was last night at 6pm, I haven't heard from him since.

I text him at like 9, and said, 'if you didn't want to hang out with me all you had to do was just say so'. No response.
I don't know what to think.
Part of me thinks that he was chilling with (fukking) another girl, the other part of me thinks maybe he had his daughter again.

When we had sex, he kept talking about how good I was, and how tight and wet I was and things like that. So I would think he wouldn't miss the chance to have sex with me again.

I was so stressed last night, that I couldn't sleep, and I didn't eat dinner.

What do you guys think, and what should I do?


Alright beloved if all of that was planned than why are you upset? You should know that a relationship doesn't usually start off like that. It was a one night stand and nothing more. If anything the nikka stayed longer than he was supposed too. Doesn't matter what he thinks, you got ya nut.

I never consider a woman wife material if we have sex on the first night, its because I think she's a whore but because the premise on how it went down. Situations like that tell me theyre not looking to be in a relationship and just need some dikk. Move on and grab a bite to eat.
 
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RIP Maya Angelou.... I think her wise words of wisdom can help you with your situation:

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I feel you should focus on loving yourself, before getting into a relationship and trying to love someone else.

Clothe yourself first girl....

Take a break from dating.

Good luck!
 

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I had sex with him the first night, because I wanted to. And because I hadn't had sex in years. I wasn't thinking I guess. I didn't start catching feelings until the next day.

Years? :dahell:

The longest I went without sex is a week.
 

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Just by reading the OP's post she sounds young....I also noticed there was no mention of a date, just chillin :sas1: usually that means he doesn't want to be seen in public with you. Second, you said he deleted his account of okcupid...did you go and verfiy or did you take his word for it :sas2: Third, he sounds like he was gassing you up with empty promises and lead on's to fukk again. But why send that crazy text about you're not a whore :why: now he knows you are feeling him way more than he is feeling you and holds all the power. I go on but it's pointless now, just remember this lesson.
 

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You knew what time it was. You let dude hit on the first night.... You already in the fukk buddy category...dudes will fill you up with any old story to make you not feel so bad for bangin him on the first night. When he noticed your reactions to him not responding to you he put you into the crazy clingy category, and probably don't wanna mess with ya. Leave him alone, and learn from this experience.
 

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Okay so, I met a guy on okcupid. The day that we met, we had sex. That was what I planned on.
But instead of leaving right after, the guy wanted me to chill there. I ended up staying until about 2am. The next day, he called out of work, and we chilled again (he called out specifically so we could chill). Both days we spent a great deal talking. He kept talking about what he was going to do in the future, and including me in his plans. (Like telling me his plans for his birthday, and inviting me to go). And he also said he deleted his account on okcupid, since we met.
So that made me think it was going to be more than just sex.
So we talk/text just about everyday on the phone.
One day we'd made plans to hang out around 8. At like 6:30, he tells me that his daughter is going to come over, and he'll call me after she leaves. Now I should have just told him to hit me up the next day, because I was thinking his daughter wouldn't be at his house for only 2 hours or whatever. But I just said okay. By 11, I didn't hear from him, so I sent him a text letting him know I wasn't a whore.
Where the fukk did that come from all the sudded? :dahell: The man cant be tied up with something and not be able to answer his phone? I hate when i dont respond to chicks and all the sudden their imaginations just run wild. :mindblown:

I said done thing about him (probably) fukking other girls. And then I told him I blocked him. I blocked him on my phone & on Instagram.
I'm very sensitive and seeing how we got together I felt insecure. Like if he had sex with me the first night, how many other girls was he meeting and fukking?
So 2 days later I unblocked him, and asked him if he was using me just for sex. Incredulously he said no, and said I shouldn't think that. He said the message I sent him was 'crazy', I said it wasn't because that is how I was feeling. We talked some more and he said he understood where I was coming from. He said he wasn't judging or complaining about me (having sex with him the 1st night). I asked him if he still wanted to talk to me, and he said yes. So we were good.
The next day (yesterday) we were texting, and we were making plans to hang out. But half way through the conversation, he just stops responding. It wasn't like we were arguing or anything, we were talking about where to hang out. That was last night at 6pm, I haven't heard from him since.
I text him at like 9, and said, 'if you didn't want to hang out with me all you had to do was just say so'. No response.
I don't know what to think.
Part of me thinks that he was chilling with (fukking) another girl, the other part of me thinks maybe he had his daughter again.

When we had sex, he kept talking about how good I was, and how tight and wet I was and things like that. So I would think he wouldn't miss the chance to have sex with me again.

I was so stressed last night, that I couldn't sleep, and I didn't eat dinner.

What do you guys think, and what should I do?
Look my dear

There are plenty of immature men that do and say dumb shyt but there is nothing wrong with meeting someone and having sex with them on the same night. You like what you see and feel comfortable fukking on the first date, then you go for it. End of story. Ive slept with a few women on the first date and my perception and respect for them is no different than the ones who made we wait weeks/months or even years.

You may just need to talk to dude and explain to him how you tend to feel when he doesnt respond but please stop acting crazy blocking people and sending emotionally charged text messages.
 
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have sex on the first date and expect to be taken seriously brehettes :ufdup:
It's not even that she had sex on the first date :patrice:

It's that she had sex on the first date with a nikka that she met on an online dating site for people who ain't gettin' it other ways. :patrice: And then emotionally switched it up on herself and misdirected her mission. :patrice:

How ya go years without sex and then let ya come back to the ring be with some lame nikka from a dating website. :dwillhuh:
 

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It's not even that she had sex on the first date :patrice:

It's that she had sex on the first date with a nikka that she met on an online dating site for people who ain't gettin' it other ways. :patrice: And then emotionally switched it up on herself and misdirected her mission. :patrice:

How ya go years without sex and then let ya come back to the ring be with some lame nikka from a dating website. :dwillhuh:
yea she definitely made a bad decision even worse.

OP u just gotta take the L and not do it again. if u wanna be the girl that fukks on the first date, fine do you, but dont expect to be taken seriously by any men. if u dont want to be that type of girl, dont do it again. simple.
 
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