Nothing wrong with a train ride. My gf is 15 mins on the g train. I wouldn't drive because there is no parking on her block. If we want to go into the city, 20 min ride on the F and I'm in Times Square. But I rarely go because Brooklyn has too many spots to go and chill and are even a 10 min bus ride. Me and my gf both live in quiet parts of Brooklyn (I'm in Clinton hill, she is in kenningston). No loud noises, no rowdiness, just people going about their business.
As far as women, outside the city, hoes expect a car. In the city? I can still go and pick shorty up and take a train ride and talk. Not have to worry about parking. Gas. My job gives me free metro cards! I haven't paid for a train ride in 6 years. My savings is lovely. I love where I'm at. But eventually if I have a family, I'm out.