DarkHorse23
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I dont even want to be on this planet myself...why would i drag another soul into it?
There's always a means to leave
NOT having children is such a blessing
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There's always a means to leave
my dad had me at 40, that's kinda late though imma wait till im like 35
gonna travel to the world and experience fine wine and dining till i get bored
I made a topic before about having no kids 30+ years old in the black community. I'm an only child and always wanted more than one child. I was engaged and done wrong by a female who caused me financial trouble because she promised to give me a certain amount before I bought a house. Of course she lied and didn't work and told me men should provide and pay for everything. That's fine but if she felt that way...tell me that before I buy a big home made for 2 incomes. She was selfish, ungrateful and inconsiderate. Anyway she had a miscarriage and I am over 30 trying to fix my financial situation and with no kids.
In the black community, people look at folks with the side eye or think something is wrong with u if u have no kids by a certain age. Some may feel that u gay or lesbian, infertile, not a real man or woman, a selfish career person who don't wanna provide parents with grandchildren, or they may think u weird. It's natural in us to want to have kids...but the ones who impose that or think negatively about us not having them don't understand there may be reasons why we don't. Maybe we don't wanna have kids out of wedlock and want a two parent household, maybe we have financial hardship, maybe we haven't met right woman or man to have them with, maybe we can't have them...everyone isn't super fertile, maybe we don't wanna deal with baby mama drama, maybe we not ready financially, mentally, emotionally, etc. for kids, etc.
One thing I dislike is when people be so judgemental and not see things from another side. And when people tell u to have kids but not help u to provide for them. How they gonna tell u what to do but they not paying ur bills or if u have a kid....not willing to help babysit or pay for baby items and food. Some need to mind their business and let people live their lives.
In the black community, people look at folks with the side eye or think something is wrong with u if u have no kids by a certain age. Some may feel that u gay or lesbian, infertile, not a real man or woman, a selfish career person who don't wanna provide parents with grandchildren, or they may think u weird. It's natural in us to want to have kids...but the ones who impose that or think negatively about us not having them don't understand there may be reasons why we don't. Maybe we don't wanna have kids out of wedlock and want a two parent household, maybe we have financial hardship, maybe we haven't met right woman or man to have them with, maybe we can't have them...everyone isn't super fertile, maybe we don't wanna deal with baby mama drama, maybe we not ready financially, mentally, emotionally, etc. for kids, etc.
One thing I dislike is when people be so judgemental and not see things from another side. And when people tell u to have kids but not help u to provide for them. How they gonna tell u what to do but they not paying ur bills or if u have a kid....not willing to help babysit or pay for baby items and food. Some need to mind their business and let people live their lives.
If you can't do what I listed, you shouldn't have kids, period.
Field Marshall Bradley
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You just eliminated most of the black working lower class, whom most have raised outstanding, extremely productive citizens...
Reginald Noble
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I'm not even done working on myself, the fukk I need another life to be responsible for?
Reginald Noble
Banned
To be honest if you don't have at least $500k in the bank you shouldn't be having kids like that.
And I know that basically erases 99% of the population but we have too many people on this planet as it is who are broke and sapping the system
I'll get a little personal;Nah I feel ya man if u not ready then don't have them. At the same time dont let these dudes who don't want kids discourage u from extending your bloodline. Kids are hardwork no doubt but it's a labor of love. You will never know love like the kind u have for your children and that in itself will make u strive to be a better person if not for urself at least for them.
I also think that u miss out on an important part of manhood if u never father children
- This "legacy" stuff has ruined my father's and I's relationship. I'm almost 30 and I'm still just his "legacy," and not a fully formed individual. And don't you ever dare tell him that as he takes every disagreement I have with him as childish insolence.
- The relative I'm closes with, my 32 y.o. cousin, has 5--breh seems content and genuinely happy. But, being on the inside of their life and marriage, I could not do it. It's like finally going to a NBA practice and being like "yea, me not being 8 inches taller isn't the only reason I'm not in the league." Again, I really think he and his wife are happy, but, damn if don't see the work they do and go
Field Marshall Bradley
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To be honest if you don't have at least $500k in the bank you shouldn't be having kids like that.
And I know that basically erases 99% of the population but we have too many people on this planet as it is who are broke and sapping the system
Breh, when you globetrottin' imma fly past you in my hot air balloon, with a woman way to young for me (she gotta be dark and lovely) and imma salute you my gmy dad had me at 40, that's kinda late though imma wait till im like 35
gonna travel to the world and experience fine wine and dining till i get bored
Ronnie Lott
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as a man you can have kids whenever
as a man you can have kids whenever
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